Codependence

As an adult people with dismissive avoidant attachment have the tendency to emotionally distance themselves from their partner. They deny the importance of loved ones and detach easily from them. They can shut down emotionally and are able to turn off their feelings.

The definition of addiction is the continuing, compulsive use of a substance despite negative physical, mental or societal consequences of the substance. (Drug addiction and drug abuse, 1) To be psychologically dependent upon a substance is to feel the need to have the substance to maintain the feeling of well being. (Drug addiction and drug abuse, 1) Physical need is determined by tolerance levels for the substance. There would be a need for increase in dosage to achieve the same feeling. (Drug addiction and drug abuse, 1)

It is the most central part of a relationship in adulthood. As adults, we select our partners using filter theory and exchange theory. It is the belief that people who are secure in their attachments will have longer, happier relationships than those who are insecure. What all these theories reveal to me is the need to belong, to be loved, and needed. My personal life agrees with the socioemotional theory of relationships. Along my adulthood journey, I’ve had to shed myself of relationships that were negative and dead weight. In my younger years, I had a lot of friends that appealed to different needs in my life at that time. As I’ve gotten older the most important relationships are with my family. That is what I care about mostly because they are meaningful and emotionally satisfying. I have an inner circle that is close, a middle circle not as close and an outer circle that is on the outside, so to speak. The way relationships are formed in childhood will have an effect on how we develop relationships later in life. We form an internal working model of attachment in relationships; these are our set of beliefs and assumptions, which are based on our childhood experiences of security or

The authors explain that addiction is caused by people adopting excessive habit to compensate for the painful void from lack of psychosocial integration. The lack of psychosocial integration is rooted from the dislocation

Codependency is defined as excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically due to an illness or personal issues. (Cite Source) This excessive need for constantly needing the other person to depend on them is seen the novel, Breathing Underwater by Alex Flinn. Caitlin struggles to see that Nick only wants her to have to depend on him, which creates an extremely unhealthy relationship. This is seen through Nick’s abuse, guilt-ing, and his need to fill a void makes tensions high and toxic between him and Caitlin. These traits are very common when it comes to codependency.

Addiction is a physical and or a psychological dependence on a mood altering substance or behavior that is continued despite negative consequences. In Gerald G. Mays’ book Addiction & Grace

Individuals with dependent personality disorder (DPD) shows an extreme need to be taken care of, which leads to clinging and submissive behavior (Hooley, p.365). They are scared to be alone and usually build their lives around other people and subordinate themselves to them. They tend to be

Codependency is defined as; of or pertaining to a relationship in which one person is physically or psychologically addicted, as to alcohol or gambling, and the other person is psychologically dependent on the first in an unhealthy way. Codependency is a very broad term that can encompass a vast range of feelings and emotions but is always more focused on someone else. For instance, if someone goes to eat with a group of people but does not actively help in the decision making of where to eat, they are fine with where everyone else wants to go. They show a meek personally and would rather someone else make all the decisions.

Addiction comes from the Latin word addictiōn, which means a giving over or surrender. When one is addicted to something they give over their entire life and let it consume their thoughts, they will do anything to get and keep it. Although, most only think of an addiction as something of substance. Contrary to their beliefs, people can become addicted to power or being in a higher rank. The character in the book Our Twisted Hero by Yi Munyol, Om Sokdae, gets addicted to having power in the classroom and becomes manipulative towards his classmates in order to keep them under his thumb. Power is addictive.

The theory from chapter 1 that I chose was attachment theory. Attachment theory, coined by John Bowlby, is a concept in developmental psychology that concerns the importance of "attachment" in regards to personal development. It states that the ability for an individual to form an emotional and physical "attachment" to another person gives a sense of stability and the means necessary to take risks, branch out, and grow and develop as a personality. One of Bowlby’s main points in attachment theory is “separation anxiety is experienced when attachment behaviour is activated and cannot be terminated unless reunion is restored” (Bowlby 1969). “They also, have trouble maintaining a boundary between someone else’s distress and their own” (Weinfield, Sroufe, 1999) and they do everything possible to prevent separation. Bowlby has four assumptions: “infants and young children develop emotional ties with individuals early in life, the way a child is treated early in life has a major contributing factor to their future relationships and the way their personality is formed, attachment behaviour can form an 'internal working model ' which guide the child 's thoughts, feelings and expectations as a result of the reactions of others towards their behaviour, it is difficult to alter attachment behavior but it is not impossible” (Green 2003). There are also five different attachments styles, secure, avoidant, ambivalent, disorganized, and reactive.Secure attachment style individuals are

The most common example of this is through sexual intimacy. The human touch between two people can be very comforting. Often times relationships are bonded over the act of physical contact. When meeting someone for the first time you often shake hands, this establishes a mutual trust between two people through social courtesy. When the desire for this physical contact begins to arise, an addiction or disorder forms. The most common physical attachment disorder evolves from sexual intimacy between two people. Through sexual intimacy, the two people establish a “trust”. This “trust” is really a group of hormones that become active when certain parts of the human physiology are simulated. Hormones such as large amounts of Oxycontin for females and Dopamine in males. The body responds positively when active is sexual activities with another person. The physical attachment is present when the either genders body creates large amounts of their hormone and when the physical contact is over, ther body craves the hormones that were present previously through intercourse. An addiction has been created within the body and soon obsesses over the action that gave that

Addictions are strongholds and bondages that are more often than not difficult to overcome. The addiction holds a person’s well-being captive which result in unusual behavioral patterns. According to Gabor Maté and Arold Langeveld “addiction means be to a slave” relatively speaking when a person is addicted in reality they are a slave to the stimuli. Furthermore the outcome of addiction will result in behavioral patterns that will satisfy the addiction.

Codeine dependence normally comes about as a physical dependance. People become dependant on the drug because after the body starts to become addicted to it, it starts to produce less dopamine and other similar chemicals. This develops a person’s need for the drug as these chemicals are essential to create reactions within the body for

Love addiction and substance dependence have similar characteristics, namely, the release of the neurotransmitter dopamine, the presence of tolerance and withdrawal symptoms, and the negative influences they have on a person’s life. Love addiction is similar to addictive drugs such as alcohol, cocaine, marijuana and heroin because of the effects that dopamine have on the addict’s mind and body. These effects then lead to a person’s experience of tolerance and withdrawal symptoms. Tolerance and withdrawal symptoms are very important in the maintenance of an addiction as they cause the person to crave and need more of the addictive

Another point for Peck is that love is not dependency. He defines dependency as “the inability to experience wholeness or to function adequately without the certainty that one is being actively cared for by another” (Peck 98). For Peck, people of passive dependency lack self-discipline and cling to withering relationships for the sake of attachment. They spend so much energy in seeking others to love them that they have none to love others. In this, dependency is a form of antilove, is only one-sided, and does not foster growth.