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In her essay,” ‘Hooking Up’: What Educators Need to Know”, Kathleen A. Bogle illustrates that college students are having more casual sex aka ”Hooking Up” (248). Also Educators need be able to tell the different of casual sex and sexual assault. Bogle illustrates hooking up is a more common practice because the shift of social and dating. She explains that hooking up is the new dating system for college students to find “sexual and romantic partners” (249). According to Bogle hooking up is the thing to do for today’s generation even if it has been a part of social culture since the 1960s. Because so many students are doing it in today’s generation Bogle believes hook up culture has changed the way we react to subjects such as sexual assault. “Sexual assault on the college campus stems from the ambiguity of the ’unable to consent’ provision of state laws” (Bogle 250). “Hooking Up” usually occurs at parties towards the in the night when students are under the influence of alcohol. In Bogle’s view the shift of dating practices to hooking up have created more problems in the prevention of rape. She goes to explain that because of the rise in drunken hookups sexual assault is no longer limited to date rape situations. Bogle states that students also have a hard time of distinguishing a sexual encounter and rape due to victim-blaming. Bogle stresses that though college administrators can’t stop the fact that students are going to hook up they should educate students more on the

Olive quickly gains popularity when most of the student body witnesses, from the other side of the door, her having sex at a party with a boy from school. Little does everyone know that it is all a ruse to get them to think that Brandon, her fake sex partner, is not gay in hopes that this very public display of sexual activity will prevent daily beatings at school and it works! (Perry et al., 2011)

There was a dance at the highschool and Scott decided to go with Lee. When Mouth decided that he wanted to go to the dance he figured that he would have to have a date. So he started to ask girls and they sadly had all declined him. He asked out every single girl in the grade. He kept track just to make sure that he asked everyone. After all of the girls that he has asked none of them said yes. “Mouth was there, too. He got turned down by at least seven girls in the brief time I was watching. I had to give him credit for being resilient. Nothing seemed to bother him. If I asked a girl to dance and she said no, I’d want to crawl into a hole and die”(Lubar 184). The day after the dance had occured Mouth went over to Scott’s house so he would return Scott’s money that he had given to him. “But he didn't ask to come in. “Here,” he said, holding out a couple of dollars. I figured he would spend another fifteen minutes describing the whole event, but he just said “Thanks” and left”(Lubar 195). Scott did not think anything of it. Scott’s thoughts was just that he was going to give him his money and he did not think about all that much the way he was acting. Scott, if anything, was thankful that Mouth came here and left with no complications. Mouth changed the most because if Mouth had have given that money back, and was

Of students who reported hooking up, 41 percent used words such as “regretful,” “empty,” “miserable,” “disgusted,” “ashamed,” “duped” and even “abused” to describe the experience. An additional 23 percent expressed ambivalence, and the remaining 36 percent said they were more or less “fine” with hookups — “fine” being the most common description.

A group of youths entered a vacant apartment to finish drinking their beer. They locked the door behind them with a chain lock. A caretaker noticed their presence and when they refused to let him in he called the police. All but one of the youths, named John James, ran away.

Free-and-easy sex prides itself on being commitment free, no emotional ties attached. Today, this idea of leaving all emotions at the door is the supposedly, sophisticated choice on campus. It is now well understood that traditional dating in college has mostly gone the way of the landline, replaced by “hooking up”- an ambiguous term that can signify anything from making out to oral sex to intercourse - all complete without the emotional entanglement of a real relationship. As times have changed, students begin to view a relationship as “too time consuming” and something that no longer takes priority amongst their busy, high achieving schedules. However, hooking up threatens the sexual, physical, and psychological health of college-age youth. Today’s youth may want to think twice before engaging in the prevalent hook-up culture. Despite the popularity of positive feelings, hookups can include negative outcomes including emotional and psychological injury, and even more concerning consequences such as unintended rape. In order to protect our generation, and more specifically our women, society must acknowledge the detrimental effects of a hook up culture to create a greater understanding surrounding this risky sexual behavior and ensure a more powerful, positive presence for women in our society. The combination of a society seeped in rape culture and an alcohol infused hookup culture creates a compromising sexual environment where women have limited control, opening the

During the spring of 2014, a 15 year old girl at St. Paul’s School had been raped by then senior, Owen Labrie Jess Bidgood and Motoko Rich, from The New York Times, state in their article, “Rape Case Puts Focus on Culture of Elite St. Paul’s School” that the senior had pre- planned his “senior salute”, a school ritual in which older students make sexual advances towards the younger ones. With the evidence of a handwritten list, prosecutors concluded that Labrie had the intentions of “scoring” the most girls, with the victim’s name in capital letters. Prosecutors said that the young girl did not feel comfortable with his advances at first, but after some persuasion from a mutual friend, she decided to go along with it. However, Labrie’s plans

On a college campus, a young female slowly returns to her dormitory a few hours before sunrise. She is a college freshman and she is embarrassed and confused. Late last night, she attended a party where alcohol flowed freely, the music blared and young men and women unabashedly flirted through the night. She vaguely remembers a young man guiding her up the stairs to a secluded room. She begins to cry as she reassures herself that she said the word no multiple times and physically attempted to stop the young man from stripping the clothes from her body and sexually assaulting her. She questions how she let this happen. After all, only months ago she was attending her high school graduation and weeks ago her parents were helping her move her

Nick was new to Stephon, Virginia. On his first few days at his new school he met a guy named Eli and days later they became good friends. Nick had always wondered about the kids at Stephon high school since he’s been going there for about 5 weeks. There was this one group of kids that seemed up to something, Eli was also very mysterious about this group of boys, also known as the Whispertown Rogues. Soon, Nick had found out that Eli was also doing research on finding out who the rogues were. The both of them ( Nick and Eli ) went looking to find clues around midnight and ran into each other, Nick and Eli told each other that they had been searching for the rogues all along. Early the next morning the two boys

Ronnette Jones was just like any other teenage girl. She attended school at Riverside high school, where she was a member of the school’s dance team. While balancing school and dance, she also got a job serving food at the local hospital. Going to football games and going out with her friends were a common Friday night for her. In January of 97’, on a breezy fall afternoon, Ronnette and some of her friends were out for a stroll in the park when they came across a group of guys. Ronnette began talking with one of the guys, Shaun Washington. They

A stressed college student, Margot, is walking back to her dorm late at night when suddenly she feels a tap on her shoulder. When she turns around, she sees a seemingly kind face of a peer. He offers to walk her to her dorm and asks to come inside. The next day she is still in shock from the night before, she never said no when he came onto her, but she never said yes either. She doesn’t want to cry rape in fear of what people might think. This is the harsh reality for college students all across the United States today. Nobody wants to believe that their child or friend could be guilty of such a harsh, but common crime. The truth is, these crimes happen on a daily basis. Sexual assault has been an issue on college campuses since the early

In the book American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus, By Lisa Wade, she addresses the issues and concerns that she sees within the “hookup culture”. Lisa Wade’s book is a mixture of important statistics and personal accounts of what happens in the hookup culture on various college campuses. To define the hookup culture that Wade is addressing, we can look to the book as Lisa defines the hookup culture as essentially casual sex with no strings attached, another sociologist Kathleen Bogle described this as a “new norm” for campuses and that this an be very harmful for women especially (Wade, 2017, p.16). Michael Kimmel a well-known sociologist of masculinity was quoted saying that hooking up is “guys-sex” and that guys run the

Hooking up has become an increasingly studied culture by many sociologists around the country. These studies have been done to understand the shift from the old culture of dating to the new culture of hooking up that we experience now. Many people find it interesting that the kids of our generation have become so sexualized and carefree compared to the college days of our parents. Many people wonder how we got to this point and how the dynamics of hookups work, and why we continue to go on with them even sometimes at cost of our mental and physical help. One of these people was Kathleen A. Bogle, who wrote an entire book on the subject called, Hooking Up: Sex, Dating, and Relationships on Campus, which is the focal point of this essay.

College and universities have made great strides over the years. The campuses have grown, and the resources have improved tremendously. However, it is questionable if that social scene on these campuses has changed for the better over the years. “Work hard, party hard” has become the motto of college students to live by. Students spend the week focused on their academics, striving to grow as intellects. However, the weekend becomes the time when students look to go out and socialize at the various parties. And this is exactly what the weekend is for. With growing causal party scenes, college students have been more inclined to have a casual relationship with the opposite sex. Traditional dating on college campuses is rarely seen anymore

Most undergraduate students are legally adults, albeit often very young legal adults, who may or may not be prepared to deal emotionally with the ramifications of an intimate personal relationship with a superior. A close personal friendship or a romantic and/or sexual relationship with a professor in general can significantly complicate this inherent unequal balance of power. Issues of favoritism can arise, especially if other students know about the relationship. Despite the fact that the issue is being discussed among college administrations and faculty boards, students are often left out of the conversation (Barbella, 2010). Ultimately, college students are adults and thus have the legal and ethical right to choose with whom to engage in a personal, romantic or sexual relationship as long as his/her partner is a consenting adult. Navigating the emotions and politics of these relationships can even provide a lesson that cannot be taught within the confines of the classroom.