Commentary On 'The Invisible Grip' By Tom Chiarella

Eye contact is important in America and Europe, but it can be rude in most of Asian countries and in Africa. Closing your

Give them your full attention, by making eye contact you are showing you are actively listening and are interested in what they are saying. Sometimes this may mean you need to find a quiet space with no distractions.

Social contact was a main distribution of what residents wanted within two people to be sure they were in the same social class and for safety reasons. However, the behavior of looking into one another’s eyes was a sign of being aware of each other’s presence (Anderson, 220). Eye contact is perceived as whites tending not to hold eye contact with a black individual (Anderson, 220). Although, it was very uncommon for a white man to hold eye contact with a black man, rarely it would happen where the black man would be very surprised (Anderson, 220). Today, eye contact in different situations mean different things: awkwardness, politeness, and rudeness. In my life experience, I tend to avoid eye contact when passing males at nighttime because of safety

A standout amongst the most fascinating advancements in nineteenth-century American writing school courses as of late has been the presentation of old well known books by ladies to the syllabus. Among works of this kind, E. D. E. N. Southworth 's The Hidden Hand is the book understudies appreciate the most.

If you are talking to someone and they are not making eye contact that shows a few things either they don’t understand what you are talking about or they are not interested in what you are saying. If they are looking at you but have a puzzled look on their face that shows they are listening but

How contact is made, what the responses are, and how a person has grown up are all main factors in communication. When two people are exchanging information in the form of talking face to face, making eye contact lets the talker know that the listener is in fact listening. Every person is different and has their own way of listening and responding. “Yeah”, “mhm”, “uhuh”, are all ways to let the person talking know that the listener is

Usually you use eye contact with your parents if you are in trouble to show respect (rez, 1999). If you are just having a normal conversation you do not need to use eye contact. If you are speaking to a stranger especially two males, eye contact can be interpreted into a challenge or to intimidate. With younger people you also do not need to use eye contact. Facial expressions are also use to show special meaning. When you are sad, angry or happy your facial expressions will show others what you feel. The acceptable way of greeting people is by giving a hand shake that ends with a hug if you are a male greeting another male. And if you are a female, you usually give kisses on the cheek to greet another female or

According to Liu, there is much difference in nonverbal communication and their meanings among China and the United States. In Chinese culture for example, direct eye contact and staring is uncommon and is considered disrespectful to stare into another person's eyes. Even in crowded situations Chinese people avoid eye contact to give others and them privacy. But here in the US we consider eye contact to be a form of attentiveness, listening, honesty, and directness. When it comes to body language we usually see it as a way of expressing feeling, exchanging ideas, and conveying messages. Many people feel that with body

In some ATSI group culture avoiding eye contact while talking is a sign of respect. Whereas in most of the other culture avoiding eye contact while talking is a sign of disrespect. Silence,

I struggle making eye contact with strangers. I feel uncomfortable talking with strangers when they have good eye contact.

One day, in my speaking and listening classes the thing what happen totally change the ways of my life. I made my first presentation and I was indifference frustration by my accent, fragment of speech, and lack of eye contact with my teacher and classmate. After my presentation my professor Ann Krowniski emphasis on how eye contact is important for me and she told “Eye contact is the important part of communication skill in The United States of America as well as it is a culture that everyone should use it at any conversation with anyone.” Finally I realized this wonderful advice and I practice at anywhere with anyone through my conversation. However, it was not easy to be perfect in one night because it was opposite with my

We are an individualistic society. Thus, the need of being assertive and able to speak for oneself. There is a cliché “If you don’t toot your own horn, who will?” Eye contact is vital. Yet in other nations, it is a sign of disrespect, but in America, it is an indication of sincerity, honesty and interest.

“Look into my eyes” During class, we were paired-up and instructed to communicate for 3 minutes without losing eye contact with the other person. This activity brought us closer, especially since we were still in our experimenting stage of our relationship. Another activity we had to do in class as a pair was to sit across from each other and maintain a conversation together, but we could not look at one another. This activity seemed easy when it was introduced to us. However, when you are told that you are not allowed to look directly at the person across from you, while holding on a conversation with them, is quite difficult.I have explained to several people, “I tried to tell her my whole life story within two days of being with her.” Every time I explained this to someone, they would laugh and think I was being hilarious. In reality, I was not trying to be funny, I was just being honest. While unloading our belongings from my minivan after class one day and the expression on her face, worries me. I am subconsciously thinking, “Oh, no. I just ran this girl

Being an active listener all of my life, I realized that the two things I always do when I sit down and talk with a person I care about are to lean forward and look at him straight to the eyes. Surprisingly, when I disengage with someone, I stop looking at him. That made me also think of some people that are normal, but when they talk to you, they look between your eyebrows. I was always finding it annoying, but now I can see that it is something they may need to do to avoid the distress and the overstimulation of an eye contact. However, some cultures such as the Japanese and Navajo forbid the eye contact with elder or strangers. As Kate Shela - a shamanic healer – states, looking at someone’s eyes is an active deep intimacy that frightens us, but at the same time liberates us.

• Whilst for others indirect eye contact, shyness and passivity is shown as a sign of respect for some Chinese people (Southern Migrant Resource Centre).