Communication Is The Key Of A Marriage

Listening to your partner can save your marriage. If you and your partner have an agreement give each other time to cool down. It is important to fight constructively. There is no marriage free of conflict. Conflicts can and will arise from time to time it is to be expected. Conflict can stem from finances, children, and jobs. It is best not to point finger swat the other person. In your marriage you have to be

advice that families should apply to their life. After reading Chapter 4: Fight Smart, fighting is a large part of families unnecessary unhappiness. Feiler gives examples of his wife and him fighting each night at a given time and it is the most inconvenient time for their evening. He mentions that fighting often happens when couples are leaving or coming together. His everyday fight happened when his wife and him would come together after a long day and have to figure out the details of the next day. Fighting should be isolated to a certain topic and should only last short amount of time. Fights often spirals out of control when outside conflicts are also put on the table and the conflict last longer than it should. Negotiation is a powerful tool for couples to use and should be experts at.

When a couple has been together for at least forty years, one may ask them, how have you put up with one person for so long, or what is your secret to marriage? Unfortunately, a secret may not even exist, but learning how to deal with everyday relationship conflicts, maybe the answer to a lasting marriage. “Gottman and Declaire, discovered that couples have conflict over the same issues sixty-nine percent of the time” (1997) (pg.214) Gottman quotes “We need to teach couples that they will never solve most of their problems, and that couples need to” establish a dialogue” about the problems.”(1997) (pg.214) Validating, volatile, and conflict avoiding, are three approaches couples use, when resolving conflict. Gottman studies show how managing conflict could lead to lasting marriages. Communication practices are also important when trying to resolve conflict. Gottman’s Four Horseman of the Apocalypse are “four communication practices that have very negative outcomes for the particular interaction and for the relationship.”(pg.225) Conflicts are going to occur in every relationship, but learning how to communicate with one another is essential.

Finally the author concludes, If the marriage is already in trouble, both partners in the marriage must be dedicated to working on their communication skills in order to improve or salvage their marriage.” (McNicholl) Both partners need to be willing to put in the work to improve their communication skills in order to save there marriage if there are any conflicts in the marriage. Without communication the marriage will continue to take it’s turn for the worst. Both of you need to want to improve your communication skills and to want to

Division is prone to occur in a marriage situation in case of a divorce. For the married partners to embrace endured togetherness and unity in their marriage, they must appreciate common interests of concerns in their practices. In case one of the partners dissent from the unity and togetherness set up, the marriage is susceptible to division brought about by breaking of the legal bonds that hold the marriage partnership in unison. Continued lack of an amicable compromised solution between the two conflicting partners will thus lead to separation. Continued separation will see the two partners seek a divorce in a court of law and the marriage will fail completely. Most marriages nowadays are failing as a result of continued disagreements of interests between the married couple. As per words of Lincoln that a divide house cannot stand, thus the divided marriage partnership cannot even endure survival thus it breaks up.

Unshared perspectives can be a huge issue in many marriages. Having different views on things usually lead to arguments. While arguing, the other is usually tempted to say something that they do not necessarily mean and that hurts their partner. In the article "The most frequent cause of divorce" it says, "Sure, there are more modern reasons as well as career, one partner wants children the other doesn't (the choice is what's new), different religions (such as Muslim and Christian) and finding neither wants to change." This is a prime example of unshared perspectives. career, children, and religion are all topics most couples would disagree on that could cause many arguments. Also, to know

The conflict theory is described as society is in a state of eternal conflict and there is competition for resources. According to the conflict theory, a person who possess more resources in the relationship often leads to domestic violence. This happens because the individual knows that they can’t

This scale, is directly related to communication. The results of this core scale suggest both Chris and Olympia feel as if their issues that they have, at times never get resolved. Further both strongly agree that they engage in very serious dispute over small or unimportant issues. Another dynamic that both Chris and Olympia scored high in was in the dynamic of partner dominance. Though Chris scored slightly higher than his wife Olympia, they both feel that their partner is trying to take control of or mange their life. This can be very contributory to the low PCA score in the scale of conflict resolution. Whenever the couple experiences a dispute if both are only interested in forcing their views on each other or they both interpret each other as controlling, they may become defensive and something small can escalate quickly. Similarly to communication, conflict resolution is a two person task in a marriage. Chris may need to be sensitive to his wife’s past of being abused and how it may effect her opening up.

In conclusion, interpersonal conflicts arise often during times of miscommuniction or the lack of transparency in relationships. In order to maintain healthy relationships, couple should practice more positive relationship maintenance behaviors like creating a safe place to offer advice and practice conflict management to resolve their interpersonal conflicts. It is how each party handles the situation that can determine if the relationship can overcome conflicts and be able to maintain the relationship or if the challenges are too damaging and will hinder the growth of the

In contrast to marital conflict, dysfunction also occurs when one partner applies pressure on the other to react or think in a particular manner, and the

Conflict is “an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from others in achieving their goals” (Hocker, 1991). There are two basic types of conflicts: substantive and emotional. According to Schermerhorn et.al., substantive conflict is a fundamental disagreement over ends or goals to be pursued and the means for their

Throughout the last half of the century, our society has watched the divorce rate of married couples skyrocket to numbers previously not seen. Although their has been a slight decline in divorce rates, “half of first marriages still were expected to dissolve before death.” (Stacy, 15, 1991) Whatever happened to that meaningful exchange of words, “until death do us part,” uttered by the bride and groom to each other on their wedding day? What could have been the cause of such inflated divorce rates? Perhaps young married couples are not mature enough to be engaged in such a trremendous responsibility, or, maybe, the couples really do not know each other as well as they thought. Possibly, they have been blinded by infatuation rather than by

Friendships and romantic relationships makes our lives go round. Without them our lives would be dull and lonely. Unlike family members, we are allowed to choose our friends and lovers. There are various levels of friendships and diverse forms of romantic relationships, and they can all lead to being close, intimate, and loving. Both friendships and romances considerably enrich the well-being of our physical and mental state. Friendships can lead to romantic relationships, and romantic relationships can lead to just being friends.

Beaton, Norris, and Pratt (2003) support this by claiming that unresolved issues do not necessarily cause tension in the family. “From our perspective, conflict refers to those issues in relationships that couples overtly verbally or nonverbally express continually” (Beaton, Norris, & Pratt, 2003, p. 144). Although they focus on intergenerational communications within the family, they point out that unresolved issues concerning intergenerational differences can create problems in marital relationships. So it is more important to focus on reasons why individuals choose to create continuous conflict, and why it is so important to impose personal opinions and beliefs on other people. Understanding what determines human behavior is the only way to understand why

Conflict begins when on person does not get something they want (Parrott & Parrott, 2005). Opposite attract, as mention in the next section one spouse may be a saver and the other spouse may be a spender, preventing the couple to come into agreement on the finances. Different financial strategies can cause conflict in a marriage. It may be difficult to discuss financial issues in the marriage, but talking to each other will enhance the understanding of the