Sabotage and self-sabotage are things I am familiar with. I have burnt many bridges in my life, and have often undermined my own success because of fear and other poorly developed emotional responses to stress. The reading material on communication sabotage reinforced what I already know: that sabotage is preventing me from reaching my highest potential. The readings on sabotage in communication also helped me to recognize what sabotage is in the realm of human communication and how to recognize it before it happens. For example, Reisinger refers to six "unintentional" ways people sabotage their communications. One of those ways is what Reisinger calls "giving analyses." Giving analyses is jumping to conclusions about someone based on one behavior or one incidence. I have over-analyzed what someone says to me, such as by assuming the other person thinks I am fat or dumb just by the way they looked at me or failed to look at me. Analyzing non-verbal communication is a big mistake, but so is analyzing verbal communication. One of the ways I sabotage is by overusing sarcasm. The Power Point presentation shows how sarcasm and put-downs can be damaging to relationships. Although it may seem obvious, many of us use sarcasm automatically because it is part of our communication arsenal. I need to learn how to stop being so sarcastic and therefore stop sabotaging myself and other people. As the Power Point presentation points out, sabotage is almost always subtle. It is about
The first four chapters of that’s Not What I Meant focus heavily on communication styles, metamessages, and the devices, signals, and strategies used in conversation. The book also delves deeper into the explanations of these conversational mechanisms, examples of where issues commonly arise in communication, and reasoning behind why we communicate the way that we do. The author Deborah Tannen details how these aspects of communication can make or break certain situations. She also explains that these are common problems, and within the preface and first four chapters there are multiple instances of people telling Tannen that she’d helped them to recognize certain communication failures and make positive changes.
A man named Michael Argyle who was a social psychologist that researched human communication and discussions between people created the Argyle theory in 1972. He believed that interpersonal communication between individuals was like learning how to drive a car. Argyle first explained that human communication is a process that involves people sending and responding to messages in a non-verbal and verbal way. In 1972 Argyle created the ‘communication cycle’ and the aim of the communication cycle is for people to understand how communication occurs between them when they are one to one. The cycle is made up of six main steps and the steps involve, being able to understand and observe how people communicate. It is also about being able to reflect and listen to what the person is saying so that we understand and are able to respond to it correctly.
Communication is primarily an exchange of information, ideas, or thoughts. This paper will focus on the process of verbal and nonverbal communication as well as the components of each. It outline the formal and informal channels of criminal channels. This paper will also list the different barriers to effective communication within a criminal justice organization. Finally it will cover strategies that can be implemented to overcome communication barriers within criminal justice organizations.
For as long as I can remember, I have been fascinated by my social environment and felt compelled to analyze the underlying facets of human communication. As opposed to readily advancing my own opinions, my nature has always been to observe, listen, and try to find solutions on a case-by-case basis. This interest in analyzing social interaction has not only helped me to understand others but is has also been an innate gift that I believe has assisted me in persevering through some of the most difficult personal challenges I have faced.
In society today, we encounter various types of interpersonal communication. We all must understand the balance and the outcomes communication provides, nonetheless, helps us improve in our own relationships. In David Russell's’ film, “ Silver Linings Playbook” the main character, Pat, is trying to rebuild his life and his marriage, all while having a mental disorder. By using the film and my own daily interactions in my life, I will be using terms and concepts to be able to analyze communication styles that are effective and ineffective.
There are many causes of self-betrayal in today's society. Accordingly, Self-Betrayal comes from an individual who fails to recognize a fault within themselves, then obtains a sudden realization of said fault which affects the person in a negative manner. Before one can change others, one must change themselves. These causes of self-betrayal are seen in the article Great Betrayals by The New York Times. “Discoveries of such secrets typically bring on tumultuous crises. Ironically, however, in my clinical experience, it is often the person who lied or cheated who has the easier time.” ( Fels. A Great Betrayals). Indeed, it is true that in some circumstances the act of betraying one's self can lead to a positive outcome. With this acknowledgment
Per the author, if we see ourselves in a certain light, we will act in that way, as we are defined by how we think. She states that, if we see ourselves in a negative way, that transfers over to the way we communicate with others, or even subordinates. She used the example of, how a manager with a narcissistic personality may be off-putting to fellow employees, which in turn will cause the employees to avoid the manager. On the other hand, being compassionate and understanding, and using positive viewpoints, can help foster relationships and better communication between a manager and subordinates. I agree with the message; however, I disagree with the format the chapter was presented in. The information and guides provided, could have been condensed to facilitate the enacting of these principles. The amount of information and systems advocated caused a sensory overload when I first attempted to read the chapter. That does not mean the advice was false or that it doesn’t work, but the way it was presented was not the best for learning and absorbing the
During this week’s assignment, Peterson (2015) tackles critical components of listening skills. The listening component that I find myself needing to work on is that of not defending what I perceive as attacks against my character during my interactions both with co-workers and family. Naturally, if I am devoting my thoughts to responding or defending my actions, how can I be effectively listening? In addition, when counteracting a statement with a defensive posture or verbal cues, it insights the other individual to feel attacked, resulting in a vicious cycle of both parties being defensive and no one listening or understanding one another (Peterson, 2015).
As soon as this course started, I realized that there was a lot for me to learn. I communicate with many individuals at work and in my personal life. I have always felt that my communications were clearly received. However, I realized that each receiver of my communication is different. Joseph A. Devito explains that each person is unique; each person’s communications are unique (Devito 9). When at work I deal with many employees concerning various matters. The employees typically come to me because they need help with a matter that I am knowledgeable in. I can usually answer their questions quickly, and with great detail. The part I fail to consider is that the employee is not as knowledgeable as me, and may not understand some of the terms and processes I am referring to. And for fear of appearing to not understand, an employee will just agree with me and leave. That employee may leave my office not fully understanding everything I said. This miscommunication is
* Explain the role of effective communication and interpersonal interaction in health and social care context:
“Self-defeating behaviour is the idea that sometimes people knowingly do things that will cause them to fail or bring them trouble. It is defined as “any deliberate or intentional behaviour that has clear, definitely or probably negative effects on the self or on the self’s projects.” The concept of and theories behind why a person behaves in ways that are self-defeating is one that has been examined by many psychological approaches over time. In this essay I will define and explain self-defeating behaviours, their origins, causes and reasons for maintaining them, together with examples of such behaviours. Subsequently I will focus on two approaches to
Throughout this semester in communications I have learned a lot about myself, how to deal with others, relationships, and more. There were some lessons that stood out to me the most, and that I thought about after class. The first was in chapter 3 about interpersonal communication and the self. During this chapter, we took a piece of paper and put four people that we knew down. We chose someone who we were just getting to know, and then others that we knew very well or that were very close to us. In this lesson, we were discussing the social penetration theory. The first step is the breadth which is a volunteered amount of information that we tell someone as subjects are being discussed. The second step is depth which is when we began to go deeper into personal information. The four people that I chose were a girl I had just met at work, my sister, my dad, and my boyfriend. After completing the circles and filling in the amount of information that I have covered with them, the girl I work with had the least, and my sister had the most filled in to the core. After completing this lesson, I looked at my paper and realized that almost everyone was more filled in to the core than my relationship with my father. This lesson struck a major cord with me because I never realized how surface level my relationship with my dad was until talking about this lesson. I knew that my father and I were not that close to begin with, but I never knew why. After this lesson, I understood that my
In the 21st century our communication mediums have changed, know we Whats App Facebook or email rather than calling or visiting in person. What hasn 't changed is that when we communicate most of the time another human being is on the other end and. This chapter will discuss not only how to communicate with diplomacy but how messages of communication are interpreted. In the workplace communication is probably one of the most important factors as people need to receive clearly communicated messages to be on the right track. It could be that you need to so some public speaking at the workplace and not only is your confidence being shook up, your nerves are on edge worrying how to communicate you message. Not only how we communicate with others that impacts our success what’s also a key part is how we communicate with ourselves and overcome internal negative dialogue. Did you know that only 8% of our communication is based on the words we say? Also did you know that 37% of our communication is based on our tone of voice? Did you know that the remaining 55% comes from our facial expressions and body language? If you find this hard to believe just think of when someone says something to you and they come across as rude. More often than not it was the way they said it vs the actual words they said. When communication is open and employees are connected
As a new auditor for the CPA firm of Croix, Marais, and Kale, you have been assigned to review the internal controls over mail cash receipts of Manhattan Company. Your review reviews the following: checks are promptly endorsed “For Deposits Only”, but no list of the checks is prepared by the person opening the mail. The mail is opened either by the cashier or by the employee who maintains the accounts receivable records. Mail receipts are deposited in the bank weekly by the cashier.
What have been the emergent strategies of Level 3 over the last few years? How do these emergent strategies fit with Level 3”s original plans?