Compare And Contrast Permissive And Authoritative Parents

Over time, many studies have achieved a common objective; to group parenting behaviors into related clusters called parenting styles. Parenting styles, according to a 2007 article in the “Journal of Education and Human Development,” are a mixture of demandingness and responsiveness. Authoritarian parents are

The four primary parenting styles are Authoritarian, Permissive, Authoritative, and Uninvolved parenting styles. Authoritarian parents are very controlling and strict with their children. They expect obedience form their children and don’t tolerate expressions of disagreement. In contrast, Permissive parents are more relaxed and provide inconsistent feedback. They require little of their children and don’t see themselves as responsible for their children’s behavior. They also don’t set limits or control over their children. Authoritative parents are firm and set clear and consistent limits for their children. While they tend to be strict they show love and emotional support for them as well. These parents tend to reason with their child as to why they should behave a certain way. These parenting styles also encourage the child to be independent. The fourth parenting style is uninvolved parenting style. These parents show interest in their children and display indifferent or rejecting behavior towards them. They detach emotionally and only see themselves as providers of materials goods such as shelter, food, and clothing.

As a young child, parents need to assume an authoritarian role, but with the love and compassion of a permissive parent. As Source B describes, the authoritarian side will assert dominance and teach children basic right from wrong while the permissive style will allow a young child to feel secure and loved. This will teach the child

Would you have come out different if your parents used a different parenting style? If you are considered “cool” now could you have come out a nerd if your parents would have used a different parenting style? “Parenting style is one of the primary determinants of your child’s outcome whether he succeeds, achieves, meets the challenges, flounders, gives up, or runs from or fails in handling life.” (6) The purpose of this paper is to describe the outcomes, processes, labor, and techniques of parenting in a psychological point of view. Parenting styles are defined as the “manner in which parents express their beliefs on how to be a good or bad parent.” (4) Each parenting style has its weaknesses and

* . Describe how Carolyn and David fit in terms of authoritarian, authoritative, and permissive forms of parenting.

Growing up my parents used the authoritative parenting style. They were warm but were firm. Communicating was not a one way street when it came to my parents. It worked both ways if you wanted the respect and freedom to be able to do things then

            In this paper I will be looking at multiple popular parenting styles found and studied in psychology. There are four common parenting styles found in most homes which include, Permissive, Authoritarian, Neglecting, and Authoritative. I will be defining only two of these styles, and giving examples of actions found in each, discussing the outcomes as well as, identifying which parenting style is most recommended for parenting. And how we as Christians view this topic as well.

Authoritative parents “set standards, but also give their child choices. They recognize the good things that their child does, but they do not overlook the bad things. These parents are more confident and nurturing. They set standards that their child can meet. Usually, this type of parenting leads to a positive self-image in the child (Black, 2008). Permissive parents “do not control their children, it is more like the other way around. There is no discipline, and the child grows up knowing they can get whatever they want. When the parent does try to discipline, the child doesn't take it seriously. These parents give in easily and avoid confrontation whenever possible” (Black, 2008). In general American parents raise their children to have an individual personality, and to be independent from a very young age. “Firm disciplines are directed toward the infant and these are gradually relaxed as the child grows” (Suzuki, 2000).

Authoritarian is only one of three parenting styles that Baumrind details. The other two styles include authoritative and permissive. These two variations in parenting styles were seen in the way my relatives and friends’ parents approached parenting. I observed how the parents of my close friend handled parenting. They maintained control over aspects in my friend’s life like school and chores but allowed the freedom to make decisions in areas of social activities. The most striking difference between my parents and my friend’s is the use of reasoning and the expression of warmth. Her parents provided justification behind their commands and or punishments while maintaining a sense of love and affection. The bond and love that is evident between my friend and her parents is not as strong in the relationship between my parents and me. The style that her parents exhibit is known as authoritative because of their focus on some parental control, use of reasoning and warmth. While on the other hand, my cousins raised their children in a completely different manor using a permissive parenting style. While they provide obvious love and affection towards their children, they fail to exert control and regulations. They did not have any real sense of rules in their household. Their children tend to act and do whatever they wanted with little to no repercussions.

Overall, there is a large body of research that points out that parenting is strongly correlated with how well an adolescent does in regards to academics. Research suggests that authoritarian parenting is more likely to help a student do better in school than permissive parenting, but authoritative parenting is the most conducive for academic success. It also remains true that permissive parenting is the parenting style most strongly connected with an adolescent dropping out, while authoritative parenting is the style most strongly linked to an adolescent staying in school and graduating. The following chart illustrates which parenting style was found to be both most and least conducive for academic success, along with which style was shown

Although authoritative and authoritarian parenting styles sound similar, they are different approaches with very different outcomes. “Authoritarian parents are highly demanding and directive, but not responsive” (Darling, 1999). They expect their children to be obedient. These parents want their children to have strict rules and live in well-ordered environments. “Authoritarian parents want their children to agree with their decisions, principles and goals without any questions” (Baumrind, 1989). They are highly psychologically controlling. They also use physical punishment such as spanking or slapping. On the other hand, authoritative parents are approachable. They are assertive, but not restrictive. They discipline children by supporting

The most influential parenting in my life was Authoritative. As a child, I knew what was right and wrong and I was often given advice on what to do and what not to do. My grandmother instilled morals in me that I still have today. As far as my father, he used Authoritarian parenting when I lived with him. I had rules and regulations on what I could and could not do and he often used force (corpral punishment) to enforce his rules. However, because I got whooped by both of them, I have discipline and respect today.

Thinking back to my childhood I remember my parents using authoritative parenting. Each of us knew the rules and when broken we knew there would be consequences. However, now that I am aware of the other two styles of parenting and how each of the styles affect the children later in life my parents most certainly used two different kinds of parenting styles. With us girls they must have stuck with the authoritative parenting the entire time. With the two boys they at some point switched and began to use permissive parenting with them. If I wouldn’t have been raised with authoritative parenting I believe I would be controlling and not as easy-going as I am. When things don’t go my way I look at it as “What can I do to fix this?” and if there

The second group is called permissive parenting. Permissive parents give up most control and rules to their children. In contrast of authoritative parents, they permit their children to do anything children like. These parents want to bring their children freedom. They want their children to develop in the free ways. They do not set any rules and routines in their children’s lives. While authoritative parents do not provide children with choices, permissive parents give children as many choices as possible, even when the children are not able to make good choices. These parents accept with all their children’s behavior, good or bad, and permit their children develop in the ways their children like. Permissive parents want to bring their children warmness and love, and they never scold or punish their children. However, like authoritative parenting, permissive parenting sometimes is not good for children. Children do things in the wrong ways and this can bring them danger; however, there is no advice from parents to put them in the right ways. These parenting style can bring children and people around them danger.

Authoritative parents are not controlling, allowing their child to explore more freely, thus having them make their own decisions based upon their own reasoning. Often, authoritative parents produce children who are more independent and self-reliant. Disciplinarian parents create expectations and rules for their children to follow. They expect their children to understand and to follow the rules without hesitation. Parents who adopt this discipline