Comparing Kelsi's Relationships With Low Self-Esteemm

Many experts feel that self-esteem is at the core of everything you do in your life. While people with high self-esteem are willing to go after the life they want, people with low self-esteem tend to make choices that don't

Most people face self esteem problems at different levels. At some point in life people face this problem without realizing it. In the essay The Trouble with Self-Esteem written by Lauren Slater starts of by demonstrating a test. Self esteem test that determines whether you have a high self-esteem or low self-esteem. The question to be answered however is; what is the value and meaning of self-esteem? The trouble with self-esteem is that not everyone approaches it properly, taking a test or doing research based of a certain group of people is not the way to do so.

The concept of self esteem is widespread in life. When it comes to academics and extracurricular actives people associate high self esteem is necessary for success. Society makes promoting self esteem an important goal. With that in mind, it is surprising that only recently scientific literature began providing insight into the nature of development of self esteem.

This is shown extremely well in To a Louse when the lady walks into the room and he spots a little louse jumping around on her hat but he decides not to tell her because he knew if he did it would make her feel like less of a person. “Now hard ye there yere out o' sight” ( Line 19 from To a Louse) When he says this, he is talking to the louse hiding under the woman's hat because he didn't want anyone else to see it otherwise they might judge this woman who believed that she was perfect. Often times we as people judge the person next to us or say something that might hurt their feelings or be detrimental to someone's self esteem. We only care about ourselves and things that will help us individually. Frequently self esteem can lead to multiple different consequences one of them being stress. “Among the individual differences that can explain capacities and risk factors in terms of suffering from stress in the individual's self-esteem”(Dolan) I believe this is important to understand because people commonly don't understand that what they say can hurt people in ways that might not be imaginable by

Low self-esteem has been an issues with many people since before the 1970’s. This issue has gradually picked up since the 70’s and has progressed 37% in the last 200

Throughout human history, character flaws have shown through people and their actions. Similar to branches of a tree, the ego could grow to be too big, leading to a collapse of the whole tree crushing the person beneath it and wounding those nearby. From the end of an army wounded in battle to the end of a career, it is shown that the development of an egotistical self image leads to situations where one meets their downfall in any way possible.

Self-esteem and self-concept may not be synonymous on the surface, but after looking over their meanings, they appear interconnected. Just as self-esteem becomes impacted by personal surroundings and environments, McGraw posits that one’s “self” is, “like a chameleon, takes[ing] on the emotional colors of history and environment in which is has existed” (McGraw, 63). A person’s family, parents, and other negative life experiences shapes self-esteem impacts self and self-esteem. Throughout class discussions, the idea rose that even with environmental factors shaping self-perception or self-esteem, these emotions or feelings do not have to impact a person’s future. McGraw in his first chapter appears to be leading a reader down the same path to reach the realization that distorted self-concepts do not have to stay or

I enjoyed reading your post and found the story to be sad as well as tragic. I believed it to be very disturbing that a child would do such harm to herself in front of her family. It seems as though the child was in need of a lot of help and attention. A strong sense of self-worth and sturdy moral compass are elements widely viewed as important for building and participating in a civil society (Broderick & Blewitt, 2017). There was not enough support for her bulling issue in the home. The building up of self-esteem begins in the home but continues throughout the developmental process. I have a son and he had self-esteem issues but I constantly built him up to try to make it difficult for anyone to bring him down. It is not an

Research completed by Gardner, Gabriel, and Hochschild (2002) reveals that when the target for comparison is part is self-construed, it leads the successes of the individual to become a cause for celebration rather than a cost to self-esteem. The current research was based on the theory of self-evaluation in which an individual gains self-esteem when they outperform others and lose self-esteem when they are outperformed. The research from the study shows that we, as humans, are not always greedy and wish to outshine our in-group. Pleasure in successes can be achieved even when we include our friends in our self-views.

Summary of Contents Simon Blackburn, a professor of philosophy who has worked at the University of Cambridge and the University of North Carolina explores self-love, self-esteem, pride, and integrity in his book Mirror, Mirror; The Uses and Abuses of Self Love. Blackburn uses references from Greek mythology, pop-culture, literature, and the history of philosophy in his essay. Self-love, he argues, is important when directed at a person’s abilities. But, self-love threatens to become over-bearing, particularly in society ruled by greed. Blackburn also references Kant, G. E. Moore, Christianity, and Aristotle.

Mirroring the concept that self-esteem based off of social comparison is unreliable, Olga Khazan offers another solution for when one’s self-esteem seems to be distorted in the article, “Why Self- Compassion Works Better Than Self - Esteem” (2016). She asserts that self-compassion is more effective than self-esteem because self-esteem results from a comparison to peers. She instead suggests talking to yourself like you would your best

People with high self esteem are able to define their obstacles and work on solving them effectively. However, people with low self-esteem will have lack of confidence in their abilities, which

At a point in life we all suffer from some type of psychological frailty, not everyone is capable of finding their own way out of darkness that has been created by insecurities. The book Love’s Executioner by Irvin D Yalom, gives insight on those who dealt with conflicts that ultimately diminished their self-esteem. “Something good happened and she felt great, one criticism from someone and she was down for days. It was like trying to keep your house heated with a furnace thermostat placed to close to the window” (Yalom, 221). This was a compelling piece to me because it unmasked the exact issue of needing justification from others to feel good about myself. Having control over something that can completely shift your sense of self is necessary to break the cycle of a deranged notion of self-esteem. Everyone has been critiqued at one time or

Jealousy is like an eloquent wart, that has . Jealousy occurs when someone doesn’t feel content with themselves and is debilitated by someone else’s capacities. The underlying cause of why someone may feel threatened by others success is due to insecurity. This can influence individuals who lack self-confidence to have self-hatred. Jealousy can eat away the core happiness of person’s well-being that can lead to a mentally destructive path. Jealousy can end the possibility of relationships; however, jealousy seems to be a human trait or human instinct that can be learned over time. Above all jealousy should be examined, debated, discussed in regard to how it affects an individual that has this trait.

People’s self-esteem either high or low is shaped by their life experiences. I believe a person’s self-esteem begins to take shape at an early age, with their parents being a major influence. Kind, positive, knowledgeable and caring parents help children create a positive self-image. Parents who do not feel good about themselves or others, sometimes take it out on their childern by belittling them or discouraging them. This leads the child down a path of self-doubt and eventually given the right circumstances a lower self-esteem.