Comparing Ruth Chang's Commitments, Reasons, And The Will

These continuing opposing qualities in our relationship ultimately created an imbalance in our relationship that could never be made balanced again. Before I knew it, my husband had become the person of lesser interest in our relationship. The principle of lesser interest occurs when one partner in a relationship is more emotionally involved than the other and that the less involved partner can exploit the more involved partner in various ways. “A significant gap in emotional involvement could lead to a situation of one partner’s taking the other for granted, or an even more extreme situation of exploitation. When relationships of this type result in marriage, the results were expected to be unsatisfactory (Waller, 1938). This suggests that it might be better if romantic relationships with unequal emotional involvement dissolve before getting to the point of marriage” (see also Sprecher, Schmeeckle, Felmlee, 2006, p.1256). In my marriage, I always felt as if I had to walk on a tight rope and I’, sure that you can see why. At its worst I was made to feel as if I were a child that couldn’t do anything right. As I sit here and write this paper, I see so clearly just how it evolved to this. The assertiveness that I was so attracted to morphed into an arrogance that made him an unbearable, controlling egomaniac. It is so easy to see now how becoming the person of lesser interest would be the next logical step.

Commitment- self-knowledge and an ability to trust others are the building blocks of commitment. Commitment to a joined set of goals and values provides direction and motivation for individuals members.

Commitment to a particular person involves focusing on one person, being responsive, sensitive and emotionally available to their needs, emotional states, their attitudes, judgements and showing a concern for their well-being. It requires putting that person first and taking care of them before you take care of your own

Being held by your word because you make a promise, or commitment is frustrating and tough. You don’t always want to do what you promised because it could be hard, or get you into trouble. Throughout the book Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet, Henry and Keiko’s relationship comes at a cost. They make commitments that comes with sacrifices which makes them hard to keep. Through Henry and Keiko’s relationship Ford shows that commitment is difficult.

From birth, man is taught to strictly adhere to the ethical, philosophical, and institutional criteria set forth by society. Although susceptible to change over extended periods of time, immediate and permanent change to society’s principles comes with fierce opposition and resistance. In The Tragedy of Romeo and Juliet, the medieval community in Verona forbids the romance between two lovers, solely for its disparity from the expected nature of sexual relationships. Shakespeare suggests that a rigid alignment to societal expectations can distort one’s perception of love.

It should be noted this model cites antecedent apprehension concerning commitment as the cause of increased break-ups and

Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce. Although studies vary across the board, roughly fifty percent of men and women will admit to committing infidelity at some point in their marriage. And while infidelity is not the only cause of divorce, it is certainly a top reason. A marriage is meant to be a lifelong commitment with another person, fully and completely. The presence of trust in any relationship is not only desired, but vital. Trust is utter confidence in the truth of someone, something, or some event. The knowledge of infidelity creates distrust and once said trust is lost, it is difficult - sometimes impossible- to gain back. Trust is earned, not given. Robert Heinlein’s “The Long Watch” demonstrates how distrust creates a society without function.

Free Will: “For the most part, what philosophers working on this issue have been hunting for is a feature of agency that is necessary for persons to be morally responsible for their conduct.” (2)

Marriage has been a heated controversy for the past few years because people often marry for the wrong reasons. Anyone who thinks of an ideal marriage would think of two people loving each other and sharing a personal bond or goals together. Marriage is regularly defined as the legally or formally recognized union of two lovers as partners in a personal relationship. This definition remarks there is an actual connection between two people in marriage, but do people actually consider this when committing to “love” and “support” their partners forever? As research and studies have shown, people ultimately get married for many reasons, except love. This philosophy can be easily applied to the short poem, “Marriage” by Gregory Corso. In this emotional poem, the author argues marriage is more effectively understood or known for culture and convenience rather than through the abstract considerations of love. Here, we can identify people generally decide to marry for the incorrect reasons, for instance the story of the author himself. Corso finds himself confused multiple times, wondering if he should marry to not be lonely, for tradition and for his physical and mental health. He disregards love, a relationship or a connection with his future wife. General ways of convenience like loneliness, health and economic status between cultural stereotypes and religion are usually the true reasons of why people chose to have the commitment of marriage with another person.

I felt so connected with this force. In everyday life, we make some commitments to avoid some losses. Even, we make some commitments in while making our decisions, in relationships or, may be in choosing a career that may be in future proved to be as good or disaster. I make commitments as in my choosing, my career from the day, I started my college, I committed to myself that I want to complete my major within 4 years. Commitment is important in my definition because it helps me to achieve goals. It helps me to keep going with my goal that I had decided. To get done within that limited time I have to take at least 15 units. I am a full-time student who works part time and go from there. There are a lot of distractions that keep distracting me from doing my classes. Most of the time I don’t get enough sleep, have to cancel out my plans with my friends, don’t want to buy the expensive books, don't want to go work. Because I want to get done in four years, I don't want to waste my time. If don't commit I’m never going to get done in a specific, timely that I set out for my goal. Expanding more than four years, it’s kind of like I’m losing my time. So, for me commitments are better. Commitment just not affecting me, but my career too. Some time commitments can be good or bad for us it just depend on the situation. Like in book, captain Van Zanten was so committed to his decision of taking off the plane. But, in his case commitment

Relationships: one of the most discussed topics in the world. If one isn’t asking for advice on it, they’re giving it. But in order to give good advice or adhere to advice given, one must first take a step back, look in the mirror and face themselves. In Mistakes Were Made (but not by me), the authors, Carol Tarvis and Elliot Aronson, examine how self-justification alters and shapes relationships, new and old, through the good times and bad times. Both authors are well known for the great work they have done in their field.

* Dr. Cialdini explained that commitments are more powerful when they are active; public; effortful; and viewed as internally motivated. The statement of the commentator is accurate because the motorcycle owners had made their commitment public by tattooing their commitment on their

As the movie progressed, their relationship took on another component; commitment. Commitment, as defined In The Triangular Theory of Love, is “[a] willingness in the short-term to create and maintain a relationship and long-term plans to sustain the relationship” (Hill, 2012, May 18). The commitment exhibited between Margaret and Andrew is not the

Commitment follows when the two parties know enough about each other to develop the ability to predict each others’ behaviour and therefore elicit reward/pleasure/satisfaction from each other.

Commitment is more than a promise to do or give something. It is the state or quality of being dedicated and maintaining an attitude of someone who works extremely hard to do or support something. Commitment not only requires full attention, but also requires diversity. A person who processes the quality of commitment should be very responsible and well-rounded. I believe I am a person who represents this unique quality by processing patriotism, willingness to place service above self, ability to set goals and achieve them, friendliness and helpfulness, diverse interests, strong work ethic, confidence and leadership, and a strong sense of humor.