Essay about Conflict in Interpersonal Relationships

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Conflict in Interpersonal Relationships Conflict. It could happen with a friend, romantic partner, co-worker, or complete stranger. There are many researchers out there who study conflict and all of the aspects to it. One thing that is clear is that conflict is inevitable in every interpersonal relationship, and it requires understanding, management, and reconciliation to prevent damage to the relationship. Dean Tjosvold and Lin Wang both of Lingnan University out of Hong-Kong wrote Developing a Shared Understanding of Conflict: Foundations for Sino-Western Mediation. This provided a very concrete understanding of conflict. They provided the definition of conflict as “opposing interests involving scarce resources and goal divergence and …show more content…
On the other hand Dean Tjosvold and Lin Wang used the idea that “conflict conflict should be best considered as dynamic process, including antecedent, conditions, individual awareness, affective states, overt behavior and aftermath” (Thomas 1990). A good example of this would be; for the past month a guy has been hanging out only with his friends instead of his girlfriend (antecedent condition). The guy knows that this will eventually anger the girlfriend and the girlfriend starts to realize that him doing this is going to create conflict (individual awareness). After realizing this, the girlfriend becomes angry about the situation and decides to confront her boyfriend about his neglect to her over the past month (affective state and overt behavior). After the confrontation the guy agrees to spend more time with her and tell his friends he has to limit his time with them (aftermath). Of course this can change with each situation but it gives the general idea. Gerald Ledlow wrote a book called “Health Organizations: Theory, Behavior, and Development” and in chapter nine he talks about conflict in interpersonal communication. He provides information mainly about conflict management including management styles. This includes the Thomas and Kilman Model for Management. The author discusses the Thomas and Kilaman model
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