Conflicting Styles Of Parenting Styles

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Conflicting Styles of Parenting Parents will treat their children the way they see fit. In the authoritarian parenting style, there is no room for freedom. In permissive parenting, there can be more freedom than the children know what to do with. Authoritative parenting combines the gist of both of the other styles and allows both freedom and structure. Both authoritarian and permissive styles have components that authoritarian parents see as productive methods if used properly. Many people associate authoritarian parenting with Asians. They often produce the people considered to be the smartest in our society. But authoritarians do not always produce children who are the best at something. Often times they are strict and shelter their…show more content…
Although this is an honorable reason, the way in which it is carried out is questionable. There are ways to have structure, but also show love at the same time. In many Asian cultures around the world success is not an option; it is a requirement. According to one Asian mother, Amy Chua, “Chinese parents believe that their kids owe them everything” (221). They do not expect their children to pay them back for every cent they put into their educations or activities, but they see their accomplishments as their payback. She says, “Chinese children must spend their lives repaying their parents by obeying them and making the, proud” (Chua 221). These parents demand success because that is their way of feeling successful in their own field of study- children. Authoritarian parents want what is best for their children and they believe strict rules and harsh consequences is the way to accomplish it. My father grew up with permissive parents. They were not necessarily carefree, but they did not provide the structure and authority that is needed in a household. When asking my dad about his childhood, he reminisces on many fun and reckless activities that he did with the neighborhood children. Some of these activities include feeding Alka-Seltzer tablets to seagulls and watch them blow up in the air. He was frequently sent to the principal’s office and paddled because of his terrible behavior in school.
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