Confrontation Vs Individuality

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Most people shy away from confrontation because it’s painful for both parties. It easier to ignore the offense than to rock the boat and create waves that supposedly is going to drown everyone. Most people presume that the best way to maintain peace is not to confront. Nevertheless, the wrong way to attain peace only drives people to pieces. As the saying goes, ‘No pain, no gain’, confrontation may be unpleasant, but the result can be sweeter if it is done correctly.
If you are a perfectionist, you will probably find fault in everyone and everything, yet not everyone and every issue needs confrontation. If you pick on people often, you probably are not going to be very effective, as it will drain your energy, plus people will take your attitude
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Do not confront people if your motive is to get even with them. Confrontation should always be done for the good of the offender as well as the victim, it should be done with a motive to challenge people to change their inappropriate behaviour, leading them to repentance and reconciliation. While confronting, one should clearly address the offense. Nevertheless, it should be done with gentleness so as to attain reconciliation with the offender. Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted (Galatians 6:1 ESV).
Confront basically means to come face to face with someone with argumentative intent. The best way to confront someone is in person rather than on the phone or through emails or letters. However, it may not be possible to always have a face to face confrontation. Paul confronted Peter face to face, because of his hypocrisy in dealing with the Jews and the gentiles. When Peter came to Antioch, I had to oppose him to his face, for what he did was very wrong (Galatians 2:11
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If they do not listen, then you have the responsibility to forgive them anyway. God always wants us to forgive others. However, forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. In cases where the offender refuses to change their spiteful behaviour, reconciliation is not possible. Forgiveness is given for past offenses, it does not mean that when you forgive you give the offender the right to hurt you again. When Jesus forgave people, he said to them your sins are forgiven, but do not sin again. Forgiveness is not a permit to continue in sin. Likewise, when you forgive others, it does not mean you are permitting them to hurt you again.
We are called to live in peace. However, some people may not want to live in peace. We are only accountable to do what depends on us. When it comes to reconciliation, if the offender is unwilling to cooperate or change from their wickedness, their decision to not reconcile is not our responsibility. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone (Romans 12:8
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