What Kind Of Parent Style Do You Have?

The day a child is born is a wonderful and happy time in any parent’s life. Parents wish that their child has nothing but a lifetime of success and happiness. No parent thinks that they alone, or rather the type of parent they are can shape who or what their child will become. Parenting styles can vary from household to household, culture to culture, and even between a set of parents. Some parents swear that they will never become they type of parent that their parents were, while others swear by the way they were raised. Now more than ever we hear about how parenting style can affect a child. In chapter 4 of Exploring Psychology, Myers and Dewall (2016) we are introduced to three parenting styles, Authoritatian, Authoriatative, and Permissive, and how these types of parents affect their children’s traits. Many factors like environment, temperament and life experiences will play a role on a child; parenting style can directly affect a child’s traits and how productive of an adult they will become.

Parents play the largest role in the overall development of children. During the early 1960’s, psychologist Diana Baumrind conducted experiments that were designed to identify and understand the different types of parenting. As a result of these studies, Baumrind concluded that there are four main styles of parenting, one of them being the authoritarian parenting style. In the studies, Baumrind claims that an authoritarian parent is defined as a parent who, “attempts to shape, control, and evaluate the behavior and attitudes of their children in accordance with a set standard of conduct, usually an absolute standard, theologically motivated or formulated by a higher secular authority” (Baumrind 127). Authoritarian

Diana Braumind, a clinical and developmental psychologist, was known for her research of parental styles in the late 1960s. In her study, she and her research team followed more than 100 children of preschool-age. Baumrind 's primary research methods were interviews and observation. With her results, she was able to categorize three different types of parenting styles: Authoritarian, Authoritative, and Permissive. Elaborating on the work of Braumind, two researchers named Eleanor Maccoby and John Martin later added the classification of “neglecting” parenting.

In the mid-twentieth century, Diana Baumrind, a clinical and developmental psychologist, conducted an extensive research experiment on parent-child interactions in the home (Baumrind 1967). Upon the conclusion of the experiment, Baumrind developed the theory that there were four parenting styles that accounted for child development: authoritarian, authoritative, permissive-indulgent and permissive-uninvolved. Authoritarian parents set strict rules and demand obedience from their children. Authoritative parents set clear expectations and high standards, but are still responsive to their children’s opinions. Permissive-Indulgent parents have an abundance of parental warmth, but provide no consequences for their children’s misbehavior. Permissive-Uninvolved parents are similar to permissive-indulgent parents, but these parents display no parental warmth. Within the four parenting styles, Baumrind recognized that there were four dimensions of parent-child interactions: parental control, maturity demands, clarity of communication and nurturance. Parental control is in relation to a parent establishing and enforcing certain rules. Maturity demands concern a parent’s expectation for his/her children to work to their full potential. Clarity of communication is a parent’s willingness to communicate with his/her children and take their opinions into consideration. Nurturance is related to parental expressions of warmth and approval, as well as the children’s

Authoritarian parents normally do not interact with their children in positive ways and usually install fear into the child. Punishment is usually harsh and given without explanation. Children with authoritarian parents are often anxiety- ridden. Studies have shown that these children have lower self- esteem, show high aggressiveness and typically do less well in school. Permissive parenting consists of high nurture and acceptance, but these parents lack structure and control. These parents look at their children as “free spirits” who need space to learn and grow. Permissive parents are usually inconsistent with discipline. Children with permissive parents normally are impulsive and irresponsible. These children also lack any self- control since none was expected (Sclafani 47).

According to the New York Metro Parents, a website that combines nine regional print magazines in New York’s Metropolitan areas, several studies of babies left to cry in their rooms show that parents can’t love a child too much. Ferberized children tend to grow up to be extremely successful later in life. These children grow up to be tomorrow’s doctors, firefighters, and millionaires of Silicon Valley. (Hogan and Haskell, 2). Most of today’s kids have one of the following types of parents: Indulgent, Authoritative, Neglectful, Authoritarian*. These are generally regarded as the four main types of parenting. These four styles of parenting are the stereotypical parenting styles most people identify one or both of their parents as. Indulgent parents tend to coddle their children and protect them from disappointment. Authoritative parents are people who have reasonable demands and rules usually met by children who respond well and listen to them. Though they have high expectations, these parents’ children tend to meet or exceed the expectations due to the resources the parent’s provide. These parents are known by some children as the “golden guardians.” They are what every parent who has ever purchased a parenting book strives to become. Authoritarian parents have extremely high expectations that are almost impossible to meet and very strict rules that must be followed unconditionally. These adults are the origin of parental nicknames such as “Scary Gary” and “Evil

Authoritative parents know what they want their children to do, but they also treat them with respect and warmth. Children raised with this parenting style are independent, self-reliant, competent, and tend to do well in school. Authoritarian parents have strict guidelines, are very demanding, and do not respect or communicate well with their children. Their treatment of their children is cold and rejecting. This parenting style tends to cause hostility and resentment in children. The children are less confident, do not do as well academically or socially, and are often anxious and irritable. Permissive-indulgent parents are easy going and have low attempts to control their children. The children are treated with warmth and support. Children raised by permissive parents tend to be resourceful and have high self-esteem. However, research supports the idea that these children have less self-discipline and are less responsible than children from authoritative families. (Permissive Parenting) Rejecting-neglecting parenting involves having low demands for behavior and low attempts to control their children. “The children of neglectful parents are the least competent, responsible, and mature.” (Rathus, pg. 167)

            In this paper I will be looking at multiple popular parenting styles found and studied in psychology. There are four common parenting styles found in most homes which include, Permissive, Authoritarian, Neglecting, and Authoritative. I will be defining only two of these styles, and giving examples of actions found in each, discussing the outcomes as well as, identifying which parenting style is most recommended for parenting. And how we as Christians view this topic as well.

Parenting style is one of many factors that strongly influence the child's development and their behaviors. Researchers have demonstrated many times that the environment in which children are raised has significant effects on a child’s intellectual, physical, social, and emotional development. For decades, researchers have also been interested in how parents influence their children's development, and one approach in this area is the study of what has been termed as parenting style. In 1971, clinical and developmental psychologist, Diana Baumrind came up with three main categories of parenting styles: authoritarian, authoritative and democratic. Parents can be a mixture of three styles or fall into one or more categories.

All parenting styles associate with the area of a child’s social skills, educational capability, psychosocial growth, and also the negative actions of a child. Parenting is extremely important in a child’s life in order to have a happy and successful life without dealing with unnecessary negative issues that can arise. This portion of the proposal describes literature relevant to the proposed study of this topic. It is organized into four sections: (1) the two aspects on how the parenting styles were based, (2) the four main types of parenting styles, (3) the effects that can result from the parenting styles, and (4) evaluation for results of previous research. The detail of effects on a child’s behavior will be further discussed in the methods section of the proposed study.

Parenting styles have been widely defined by Baumrind into three categories, authoritative, authoritarian and permissive. Parenting styles can be defined as a pattern of attitudes in how parents choose to express and communicate with their children. These styles are categorized based on the level of nurturance, parental control and level of responsiveness (Dwairy, 2004). Authoritative style exhibits high levels of demand, responsiveness and nurturance; authoritarian style exhibits high levels of demand but low levels of responsiveness, permissive style exhibits low levels of demand but high in responsiveness and nurturance (Dwairy, 2004). These parenting styles have been proposed to have a significant impact on a child’s

Given the circumstances, the parents of Michael have a number of ways to handle the current situation. This paper will outline the four main ways that they could do so. The first paragraph will describe how an authoritarian parenting would handle the situation, and how that would effect Michael. In the second paragraph, I will do the same as I did in the first, but from the authoritative perspective. This trend of analyzing how the parenting style will affect the child will continue for the next two paragraphs, the third paragraph covering permissive, and the fourth covering uninvolved/disengaged. In my conclusion, I will review which on would best fit the situation.

What kind of parenting style is the best overall method for the most children? That is the question that will be explored as the three major styles of parenting are examined throughout this essay. I will be analyzing these three styles known as permissive, authoritarian and authoritative parenting. Each style has various levels of what Diana Baumrind classified as demandingness and responsiveness. These characteristics determine which style or category of parenting that a person best fits. The concept of the three major parenting styles allows a better understanding of the effects of parenting on a child’s behaviour and development.

The parenting style used to raise a child is what will alter them as people and help them grow into successful adults. Chinese moms are a decent representation of how the true world is, but it is not healthy to put a child in school through that amount of pressure. A Chinese mom is similar to a bucking bull in the scheme to motivate children. She takes the reigns and hopes for the best for her children. Amy Chua explains in the article Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior how Chinese mothers have respectable intentions for their children, yet it is just an extra strict and severe way of displaying it. In Mother Inferior? By Hannah Rosin, she believes that American or Western mothers do not have the capability of being forceful and demanding as

Hirshi (1969) expressed that the bond between parent and child had a large factor into the child’s delinquency; Gottfredson and Hirschi (1990) also believed that poor parental management leads to low self-control in children which would also lead to delinquency. In 1960 Diana Baumrind had identified 3 dimensions of parenting by conducting a study on over 100 preschool children by interviewing parents and observing the children’s actions by using four aspects: disciplinary strategies, warmth and nurturance, communication styles and expectations or maturity and control. As a result Baumrind came up with three styles. Authoritarian (demanding and responding), Authoritative (Demanding and unresponsive) and indulgent (undemanding and responsive. In 1983 Maccoby and Martine developed a fourth style, Neglectful (undemanding and unresponsive). Thompson’s mother was a violent alcoholic when Venables’ mother didn’t seem to play much role