Criticism Of Our Relationships With Others

One thing in particular that sticks out to me is, “I’d see a group of girls purposely not making eye contact with me, just shaking their heads in judgment and gossiping with each other as I came near, and my urge was to go up to them and say, “What’s so interesting? If you have something to say, say it to my face” (Rodriguez 131). This was so thought provoking because I began to think how the world would be different if others did not talk about people behind their backs. As I continue to ponder on this idea I realized that there would be a lot of repercussions because if everyone said what was on their mind to someone else’s face a lot of feelings would get hurt. Although this is a possible consequence, I remembered that normally if what the person is saying is hurtful or bad many people would not say it to another person’s face, which is why it so easier to do it behind his or her back. There are many other things that were thought provoking but this stood out to me the

Many people have significant difficulty in accepting criticism in any form, even where it is intended to be supportive and constructive. If we are aware that you are likely to have difficulty accepting criticism, we should try to prepare ourselves to view feedback from any source as precious and useful information that can add to our ability to reflect effectively on our work. This is not easy, but it is essential.

People can take the negative speech spoken about them and use it as a stimulus for success, proving their harmful peers wrong. Without criticism, self reflection would no longer remain. Glen Greenwald points out that "empowering the State to proscribe and punish speech is not only the most dangerous step a society can take-though it is that-it's also the most senseless. It never achieves its intended effect of suppressing or eliminating a particular view" (qtd. in Gallagher 59). In other words, Greenwald is saying that regulating freedom of speech would, in fact, harm the American society. Consequently, freedom of speech should not be regulated due to the fact it suppresses one's inspiration.

‘ "Whenever you feel like criticizing anyone," he told me, "just remember the advantages that you 've had..." In consequence I 'm inclined to reserve all judgments.’

Again, I would like to rebut Gee’s claim by adding my belief that the perceived value of the person and or group applying the criticism has a lot to do with the way the criticism can be received to effect change within a discourse. This belief ties in perfectly with the next statement made by Gee, which I shall now address, as within that very same point Gee writes, ‘But what one cannot do is stand outside all discourse and criticize any one or all of them – that would be like trying to repair a jet in flight by stepping outside it.’ In my estimation, Gee’s loses his argument here when he chooses to speak in this all-encompassing term, as by crafting this sentence in such a manner he essentially paints himself into a corner. In our culture any individual or group (regardless of background, religion, education, experience, etc.,) has the right of freedom of speech and as such may freely criticize whatever another person or group

By encouraging others to give their feedback gives me the opportunity to see ways of improvement from a different perspective to my own. A colleague’s perspective may highlight work

The articles that I read for this assignment were “Bullies and Victims: Revenge Revisited”, “The Partner as Enemy”, and “Competition: Who’s the Greatest?”. Each one of these articles is an in-depth analysis on the human psyche, and each one gives the reader a chance to grapple with some of the bigger questions in life. These articles all talk about subject matter that should be relevant to the reader at one time or another in their life. As I read the articles more closely, a central theme began to emerge. That, through a fixed mindset, one is unable to make the changes necessary to better one’s self. That one is unable to truly move forward with becoming a better person until one loses that way of thinking.

Specifically, I have learned that: (1) With a little effort, it is usually possible to identify some of the barriers to effective interpersonal interactions; (2) There are appropriate and inappropriate levels of self-disclosure in relationships; (3) It is important and often quite helpful to understand the process by which our self-concept is developed and maintained; (4) It is equally important to recognize how our self-concept relates to both defensive messages and supportive messages (and behaviors) because they often corresponding to positive and negative communication climates in our relationships; (5) Our subjective perceptions, emotions, and nonverbal styles of expression affect interpersonal relationships; and (6) The words we use have the power to create and

Sanders, Frankland and Wilkins. (2009) Next Steps in Counselling Practice. 2nd Edition: Ross-on-Wye: PCCS Books Ltd

     The first thing one must know when handling people is “don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.” When you criticize

There are people all over the world that criticize the way people think and behave. People think that it is so easy doing what others have to, even if they have never been in the same situation. If you were the president and you chose to bomb a country that was planning to bomb you soon and another country suffered from its aftershocks and somebody said that you are doing your job wrong, but they never seen or done the job before do you think that that person’s opinion would be right. When you tell someone that what they think is right at the moment is wrong and you do not have enough knowledge of what it is about, you are not seeing the situation from their People should learn to see the situation from other people’s point of view.

Another example of criticism, is when on the ship, Peter and Gamora are talking, Peter is calm listening to her. Even though she is already using an aggressive tone. After talking about the topic, Gamora tells Peter his ship is filthy. Making Peter feel a little upset, because he is letting people he does not know on his ship.

“If we allow ourselves to become unreflective persons, we are likely to do injury to ourselves and others, and to miss many opportunities to make our own lives, and the lives of others, fuller, happier, and more productive.” (Foundation for Critical Thinking, 2013) This is so important to understand because when I do have an opinion and try to voice it or ask questions, people do not take me seriously.

Learn to Handle Criticism – To maintain a sense of self-respect we need to learn how to deal with criticism and not take it personally, but to look at it from a detached perspective. Maybe it is false, in which case we should ignore it. If there is some truth we

“Negativity is the enemy of creativity”-David Lynch. Over the past few months of being on my Instagram account and looking at the comments and pictures of tof people on Instagram, I noticed that people in this generation are more critical of other people than generations in years past. Two people in particular, who have been on the receiving end, are Alexis Sanchez and Mesut Ozil- two professional soccer players who play in London for Arsenal FC. Lately their team has not been playing very well or getting good results in their games; it’s evident in the pictures and captions, or lack of captions, that they post on Instagram. You can tell that people who follow them are very upset by the negative and dismissive comments on their posts. This exemplifies that in today's society, people have become more judgemental of the pictures and comments others post on Instagram.