Relationships with others in our lives and it is very important to many people. An awful relationship understood is a cross-sex friendship a conflict, intimacy, self-disclosure, and communication style within them. In our everyday lives, friendships with others serve a purpose, standards, expectations, differences, challenging situations and validate one’s sense of affections towards one another. Is it possible to have long-lasting friends of the opposite sex without becoming “friends with benefits”? I have always been a “guy’s girl” and I could probably say the majority of my best friends are males. To sit here and say with what the majority of our society tells us, that it is not possible to have close platonic cross-sex friendships, …show more content…
Telling these individuals that they are placed in a certain category because of their gender is immoral. For example, I definitely think that I manage conflict more so like a male than a female, therefore when I am going through a difficult time I would much rather confide in my male friends than my female friends. I don’t like spending long periods of time talking about a problem, and my male friends understand that (Thill M. R., 2012).
As far as communication goes, many may think that topic avoidance will arise the most in males, especially when it comes to males and female relationships. There are many who think there is a lack of communication and topic avoidance in cross-sex friendship. However, research has found that cross-sex friendships and same-sex friendships have more in common than one would think. A study was conducted with undergraduate business and communication students (101 females and 76 males) where they were asked to complete a questionnaire about topics (negative life experiences, dating experiences, relationship issues, friends, and sexual issues) they avoided within six different relationships consisting of same-sex friendships and cross-sex friendships. Results found that individuals were only more likely to avoid topics consisting of romantic undertones when with the opposite-sex, compared to same-sex friendships. Yet, individuals avoided disclosure to males more than females on only two
When Bryce Loski was seven years old, he moved into a new neighborhood. A little girl named Juli Baker lived across the street. She insisted on helping Bryce and his family move in but was a little too pushy and had muddy shoes and Bryce was immediately annoyed by her. Juli was constantly at the door wanting to play; Bryce's dad made many excuses for him for several weeks. Bryce started second grade, Juli Baker constantly pestered him, following him around at school, This went on til seventh grade, when Bryce's grandfather Chet Duncan moves in with the family. Chet finds Juli different, special, kind of girl who's hard to come across. there was this old sycamore tree that Juli loved to climb and no one ever understood why. One day, the
People need companionship to help them in times of hardship. Women tend to confide more in their same sex friends rather than men who, most of the time, find competitiveness in their friendships rather than telling them things that may show signs of weakness. People who have friends of the opposite sex at this time in their life, usually share some sort of romantic bond. These types of friendships normally come from school or work, but decline after the person is married. All friendships often decline after marriage because the people involved in the relationship find the closest bonds between themselves and spend most of their time together. During marriage people find friendships with their siblings to be closer than most.
I am put into a social category as a female with other females because we all
The stereotypical labeling of genders can determine one person’s outlook on life. The judgment can make one feel like there is a set rubric to follow in order to remain in the lines regarding which gender they belong to. Such influences from peers or partners can alter
As everyone knows that men are objective, unemotional, and inarticulate. Yet men formed friendships and they usually have larger friendship groups than women, their way to ‘connect’ with each other is impersonally and unemotionally. This result in a much more realistic view of Homosociality in Men's Talk. Men does not like women that chat and exchange ideas often due to gender difference which men and women has naturally difference in biology and behavior. Men are to normatively want (and need) to do things with groups of other men exclusive of women. Man are too dominancy which means they has masculinity with dominance or authority; to be a man is to be strong, authoritative, and in control. However, when personal feelings (friend love) transforms into special feelings (homosexual love), the difference of morality between human has decided they admit to be a gay or not. Implicit in the belief that extraordinary friendship is the base foundation of homosexual
She then identifies the importance of friendships in general and how these bonds are formed. There is discussion of same-sex, heterosexual friendships and same-sex, same orientation friendships. These topics were the precursor of delving into the discussion of intersectional friendships and how Muraco conducted this study.
247). Thus, since females and males have different expectations of them and are treated differently from one another, females and males have different situations within their family life and their mental and physical health. Plus, a woman’s educational level will not benefit her since “men out-earn women at every level of education” (Ferris & Stein, 2014, p. 253). Similarly, certain jobs are still classified for men or women. Although, the jobs for women are underpaid compared to jobs classified for men (Ferris & Stein, 2014, p. 253). Also, the military is largely male-dominated with very few females since the military is expected for men, not women because of certain cultural beliefs (Ferris & Stein, 2014, p. 255). Furthermore, the criminal justice system targets men more than women, because men are viewed as aggressive when women are not (Ferris & Stein, 2014, p. 256). Lastly, gender is associated to certain words which influences society’s views on women and men which also affect the expectations of them and how both are treated in society (Ferris & Stein, 2014, p.
Differences in childhoods can impact individual’s communication with each other in relationships. At a young age, children tend to play with other children that seem to be of the same gender as them. Both groups of genders have different ways of building a friendship. Tannen says that, “Little girls create and maintain friendships by exchanging secrets” (276). It is important to girls to share secretive things to get closer to one another and to get a mutual understanding. Unlike boys whose bonds are, “based less on talking, more on doing things together” (Tannen 276). Boys do not talk a lot unless the need to prove something. While girls are comfortable about talking about their feelings, boys feel uncomfortable because it is not something they discuss much.
There are some confusions about these conflicting situations. Firstly, it’s different when men and women define and evaluate gender identities and behaviors. Secondly, men and women will exhibit different personal characteristics in terms of various social status, occupations, personal ideologies, gender superiorities, etc. Thirdly, the social ideologies manifested by outside world and the subjective ideologies formed by people themselves have complicated differences as well, in such a social environment, various gender ideologies mutually interacted and linked, therefore, it'll be very hard to explain or even draw an accurate conclusion for these confusions by relatively theoretical researching and analysis.
"Life without a friend is like death without a witness." -Spanish Proverb. We all have friends, different people have different tastes and temperaments and hence make different types of friends. They tend to bond with some and stay away from some. With time and growing trust, some people get really close to each other and remain true friends. They stand up for each other in times of need and provide full support when you lose confidence in yourself. However, every friend is not the same type. One might have more close friends than acquiantenaces, while others might have more acquaintenaces than close friends, but either way, majority of people that develop great friendships either fall into one of the
There exists a disparity in the communication phenomenon between men and women. This disparity according to scholars can be attributed to the male dominance in the society today and relationship tensions between couples. A study on cross-sex conversations showed that, when men and women engage in a friendly conversation, they do so as equals but they do not play the same roles in the communication. Women tend to ask more questions and likely to utter utterances that encourage responses from the other speaker. Men, on the other hand, are more likely to interrupt their partner’s conversations and make direct opinions and facts to control or dominate the conversation. Thus, the communication phenomenon between men and women is strikingly distinct.
Gender and sexuality can be comprehended through social science. Social science is “the study of human society and of individual relationships in and to society” (free dictionary, 2009). The study of social science deals with different aspects of society such as politics, economics, and the social aspects of society. Gender identity is closely interlinked with social science as it is based on an identity of an individual in the society. Sexuality is “the condition of being characterized and distinguished by sex” (free dictionary, 2009). There are different gender identities such as male, female, gay, lesbian, transgender, and bisexual that exists all around the world. There is inequality in gender identities and dominance of a male
What does it take to be a man or a woman? Our sense organs alone do not determine whether we are men or women. Our gender includes a multifaceted combination of beliefs, behaviors, and characteristics. How do we act, behave, and talk like a man or a woman? Each one of us has a sex, a gender, and a gender identity that are all aspects of our sexuality. These aspects describe who we are, in different personalities and attributes but related. Society’s categories for what is masculine and feminine may not capture how we truly feel, how we behave, or how we define ourselves.
A cross-sectional survey method was employed to test CPM in the context of disclosing romantic feelings in cross-sex friendships. Specifically, it examined whether people would choose implicit or explicit demand message strategies when revealing romantic feelings to a friend of the opposite sex in hypothetical scenarios. Participants were college students enrolled in two academic institutions—a small liberal arts college and a large university. A student sample is appropriate when studying cross-sex friendships because young adults typically have
“The two ladies, who had been intimate since childhood, reflected how little they knew each other”. This is how, author, Edith Wharton shows the relationship of two characters, Mrs. Ansley and Mrs. Slade, in the short story “Roman Fever.” These two women who are supposed to be friends, led envious lives of each other, and because of the way they lived they were very contrasting and conflicting characters. In the end, I believe Mrs. Slade was guiltier for her actions and in fact the whole incident would have never happened if it weren’t for her.