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Entrepreneurship is discovered in many forms. Dale Carnegie, for example, wrote a novel about ideas that had never been touched before. These ideas can help show why Martha does not have many close friends in her workplace even after an extended period of time, and why Mario danced with his new co-workers in the kitchen on his first day of work. Martha is socially challenged because she unknowingly fails to exercise crucial principles regarding attitude, appreciation, and arguments. These principles are mentioned by Carnegie, a well-known American author born in 1888, in his most popular work entitled “How to Win Friends and Influence People” first published in 1936; this incredibly famous self-help novel has sold fifteen million copies worldwide. …show more content…

Deep down the subject people like to talk about most is themselves because people desire a feeling of importance. Carnegie explains this quite well when he states, “people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care,” (unknown). This can entail praising people directly or asking people questions about things they are interested in to show them you care about what they care about. However, having not read Carnegie’s book Martha fails once again at dealing with people. A great example of this is when she talks to her neighbor Sam. She lists off that she knows “...[he’s] Samuel Thalberg, [he’s] an architect, divorced, two children. [ And his] friends call [him] Sam,” (Bella Martha). At first glance it may seem as if Martha is taking an interest in him by trying to talk about him. But with closer examination Martha’s motivation becomes evident. She is not listing those things to show Sam she cares, but instead to show him how smart she is for knowing all of those details: her reasoning shows and it defeats the purpose of trying to take an interest in him. She does, however, get some credit for trying. Mario, on the other hand, understands that people want to feel appreciated. When Mario first meets Martha, he begs her, “Please tell me the secret of your saffron sauce,” (Bella Martha). This compliment (of wanting to know her amazing …show more content…

Winning an argument is impossible because one or both parties end up hurt and no one who is hurt or upset will ever change his or her mind; the only thing created is a rift in the relationship. When me and my father talk about the art of persuasion, he often reminds me that “a person’s opinion changed against his will is of the same opinion still,” meaning that forcing someone to change his/her mind does not work because he/she is ultimately in control of his/her opinion (Spears). Martha gives a good example as to why using force does not work. After Martha’s argument with Lina, it took a while for Martha to regain Lina’s trust after being yelled at and literally slapped in the face by Martha. Martha eventually regains Lina’s trust by trying to explain that she “couldn’t [replace her mother], even if she wanted to,” (Bella Martha). It is clear that no one won that argument; both people felt awful afterwards. Martha desperately wished there was “a recipe [she] could follow” for Lina, and Lina tried to run away and buy a ticket to Italy, (Bella Martha). The whole situation could have been avoided if Martha took a step back instead of diving head first into an argument. Mario, using his natural carnegie-like skills, dodged conflict between himself and Martha. At one point in the movie Mario and Martha were having difficulty working together in the kitchen. Martha felt

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