Dale Carnegie 's How On Win Friends And Influence People

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Taylor Varrato
MCB Sec. 7
30 November 2015
Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People I will never forget my first MCB lecture. A large syllabus was presented, one that seemed to be jam packed with deadlines, reading assignments, quizzes, and to my surprise extra credit assignments. Upon hearing that one of the extra credit assignments consisted of reading a book published in 1937, I was not too thrilled. However, after skimming through the first few pages of How to Win Friends and Influence People, I became instantly intrigued and skimming turned into close reading. I have never been one to read, or for that matter, one to be glued to a book, but this book really spoke to me. You see, I am currently going to school to become
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Of course I never meant any harm, but there have been several periods of time when she has resented me for it. Not only have I made others resent me at times, but I have resented others for being criticized. Just recently, I received a B- on an English paper that I put hours into. Obviously, I am not the best writer, but I put a lot of work into that paper and consulted with the professor multiple times before handing it in. Now, I understand that constructive criticism is necessary in order to enhance one’s writing skills, but the professor had absolutely nothing good to say about my writing. This made me resent class, resent seeing her, resent doing reading assignments, and above all resent writing. The key word here is resent. Carnegie sums this up well by saying, “Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person 's precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment” (23). This ties together two points, the emphasis on one’s sense of importance and resentment. Going off of this idea of criticism, I like how Carnegie touched upon it later in the book. Another principle of his is: Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person. This is such a key principle because, as stated above, criticism is necessary in some cases. The hard part about criticism is that it can invoke feelings of resentment. Therefore, in order to provide criticism in
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