Dating A Failure

We wake up at 8 a.m. and head to the airport, as soon as we get there we get on a plane for three and a half hours. It is 9 a.m. when we arrive, I notice that we live in one of the main parts of California, LA. Luckily it's only Friday and I don't have to start school until Monday. So on saturday I wake up and decide to go out for coffee by myself. As I am walking I receive a text from my mom and at that moment I bump into someone and fall. I get up and and see a cute guy standing in front of me, I go to say sorry but he speaks first “Watch where you're going!” He exclaimed as he walked away. I didn't even bother to stop for coffee I wasn't in the mood after that unfriendly

At some point in our lives where we are searching for that special someone. The methods of going about dating have changed quite dramatically over the years. Going out has grown from traditional dating, to internet 'dating', to group dating.

Before my big move to Houston about three years ago for college, it was my last summer back home in a little city called Amarillo, which is considered “West Texas,” although it’s actually located geographically north within the heart of the Texas Panhandle. I was enjoying every last bits of the time that I’ve had left with my friends and family. The last thing I could think of worrying about during that summer was a romantic relationship. My intentions were to make bittersweet memories and to have what they would call, fun. I went out almost every single weekend for the first month of my last summer and met tons of friends and I became closer to old casual friends. Within that first month of consistently going out and hanging out with all these friends that I became close to, I met a very sweet, charming, and interesting guy named Andy. Something about him caught my attention. He was silly and funny without even trying, so I took an interest in him. We started messaging each other on Facebook then texting and making polite conversations. Before I knew it, this was the starting point to a whole new friendship. When he first messaged me, as much as I hesitated to respond to him because I knew I was moving and I did not want to develop feelings just leave everything behind, I wanted to not just respond but to strike more conversations. I became curious about him and I wanted to find out more and more.

I thought I did something wrong. And I thought, ‘Well, maybe by meeting up with him… I was asking for it.'”

I really liked the way he was, because he was a guy who worked , he wasn't a gang member, he very respectful, very nice and sweet, and we had almost everything in common, it was like the perfect match and I though that was great. In November of 1993, we really got to know each other better. He is on vacation from work at the time and and we would see each other everyday, and also talk to each other everyday. We would go to the zoo, the park, to eat, driving around, we would also go to the lake. We always got along really well since the beginning. Out of all the places we would go to, my favorite one was the zoo, I would always asked him to take me and he would always take me, even during the winter time he would do it. Zeke has been the perfect boyfriend, which now is my fiance because we got engaged December 10, 1994, we've had our ups and downs, but that's normal because nobody has a perfect relationship, even though our relationship is as close as it can be. Zeke has a great sense of humor and so do I, that why it makes it so easy when we are together, Zeke is also a very understanding person, and he always gives me advice when I need it, we communicate a lot and we believe that is very important in a

Written by John Van Epp, Ph. D., the self-help manual How To Avoid Falling In Love With A Jerk, offers the “foolproof way to follow your heart without loosing your mind”. This book is unique compared to the numerous dating books out there, which were written by authors without any legitimacy to their words of advice. Van Epp reveals years of research on marital and premarital happiness that he claims will help people to break the destructive dating patterns that prevent them from finding the “love you deserve”.

The art of finding love has its challenges, over the years the way in which we look for love have evolved and seems to be ever changing. The one thing that stands out in the way we find love today than yesteryear is early on when you found your mate it was permanent; For instance, in 1900–1910 you were introduced by the parent or friends. Then, there were supervised dating, on to marriage almost as if arranged. That was also the era of placing a personal ad in the newspaper. The only technology that may have been used here was the telegram.

On October 13th, 2013 I met the man of my dreams his name is Justin Fever, and he forever changed my life. I knew him in high school, he was the quiet guy and I was the popular gal. We actually went to the same college, and he sent me “DMs” and always Tweeted Me. His messages stated, ….. In college we didn’t have any classes, but he asked me out for dinner, and I said yeah, sure. We met for dinner at Sparrows Tavern in New York, highly expensive, but scrumptious. He made a joke about us two having a thing for each other. I panicked, and said “no” casually, because history has taught me that only bad things happen from there. As I slowly walked to my car on the way home, I relived every moment of this magical evening. He could be my soul mate, I thought.

During my sophomore year of high school, there was this boy in my math class named Preston Brown. The bell rang and dismissed the class, I got up from my desk and saw him smiling down at me. He asked for my number and we both exchanged it, I could tell he fell accomplished because his friends were cheering for him. Months later, he tried to make me interested in him by showing me his athletic skills and his gentlemen ways of treating a girl properly. I was interested in him but I never admitted my feelings because I did not feel ready dating him.

Last month, I asked a student named Kris in my government class to be my partner for a group project. After I asked him, he looked at me with a blank expression, My heart was racing with the anticipation of his answer. I thought to myself, “This was a mistake, I should not have done this.” Then, as soft as a whisper, he said “sure.” I was not sure what to do next. Awkwardly, I nodded and went back to my seat.

I have fallen in love once, but it wasn’t your ideal love story. The guy I was in love with, seemed harmless when I first became involved with him. However, as the relationship grew, he began to abuse me: emotionally and physically. I was terrified, as he began to holler deleterious phrases and names at me, along with leaving bruises on my body. Who could I have turned to? What if he continues to hurt me, or even exceed the damage he’s already done if I were to tell anyone? Dating abuse: one of the many problems in the world that is mildly prominent, but is not being acknowledged to its full potential. Empathy and compassion should be directed towards dating abuse, because this is a continuous event that is still occurring to young adolescents today. Due to the unawareness of dating abuse, students and teachers should put in the effort to inform each other and those around them of dating abuse, as well as how to address it.

According to the Dr. who bases her book on actual real life stories we often take any man that comes along and accept them. "We get pleasure in having a good time with someone, crave the attachment and approval, and get a big ego gratification by having a man attracted to us, so when we are desperate for these things we are not too choosy we settle instead of select which makes bad dating choices" (31). We to often let feelings of sadness and depression win us over when truly we should be angry, angry at our self for the behaviors we allow to mess up our life. The Dr.'s solution is that we need to start making better choices in or life, stand up for ourselves, quit being afraid of everything, have dreams, and go for them . When we are content with our own life it will be easier to find a good person to spend it with.

I proceeded to arrange a date and time of our meeting. In our first meeting, he did not engage much with me as I started wrongly with him by mentioning his diagnosis of type 2 diabetic. This was a precipitating factor for him to disengage and he walked away. I felt really bad, but my mentor took over the key work session and reassures him that I was only trying to give him more information about this illness. For the rest of the shift, I played his favourite board game ‘dominos’ with him and at the end, he said see you tomorrow. Before I finished my shift, I reflected back at what happened with my mentor.

To covet means to desire wrongfully abilities, position and possessions of someone others. Coveting is probably one of the most violated commandments, especially among teenagers. We always want what we do not have and are not content until we can get it. It is easy to think that coveting is not as bad as murder, stealing or adultery, but make it is just as deadly. The Bible says, “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor’s” (Exodus 20:17).

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