Dating For Dummies By Dr. Joy Browne

The methods in which men and women communicate are eminently different. This being so, their external state is an indicator of their inner state, but men and women have different external states to express themselves. This is especially evident among children and individuals in relationships, and altered between a couple who tries to adjust their behavior. Deborah Tannen, the author of “Sex, Lies, and Conversation,” argues that boys are girls are taught to have a differ inner state, that males and females usually have the same inner state but express them differently when communicating, and that individuals in romantic relationships can alter the way they present their outer state to represent their inner state in a way their partner can relate to.

In “The Cheater’s Guide to Love”, Junot Díaz presents a story about love that goes sour after the primary character, Yunior’s infidelity is discovered. But beyond just an emotionally bleak story, Díaz also uses the background of a love story gone bad to explore issues of race through Yunior’s narrative style, second-person point of view, and the characterization of the various women Yunior meets.

Quinden worked at The New York Times. She became a reporter for the New York Post after college before returning to the Times in 1977. “Sex Ed” by Anna Quindlen in the Wake Tech Reader is an article that distinguished her as being a feminist. Even though “Sex Ed” was written long ago, it is as relevant today as then because teens today are not much different from then. In Anna Quindlen’s essay, ‘Sex Ed,” she expresses that parents and teachers need to come together and talk to teenagers about sex.

At some point in our lives where we are searching for that special someone. The methods of going about dating have changed quite dramatically over the years. Going out has grown from traditional dating, to internet 'dating', to group dating.

Though, online dating and finding a date in a traditional way have a lot of similarities, and a lot of differences. However, the great similarity which is the usual goal for both online dating and traditional dating styles is to meet someone they like, develop personal relationship, love affair, romantic relationship, sexual relationship, and to establish a courtship in which the both parties study their characters, behaviors, caring, and marriage.

Online dating has altered the process used for obtaining a romantic partner as well as has altered the process of compatibility matching. Online dating has created a new platform for meeting potential partners. Romantic relationships contribute to emotional well-being and individuals crave the intimate connections that are formed through their romantic partnerships; it is a fundamental part of human motivation. These dating sites have created a medium for potential partners to meet by alleviating the daunting task of conventional dating by solving the problems such as lack of access to potential partners, confronting potential partners regarding their romantic availability, and gathering the courage to approach strangers face to face (Finkel, Eastwick, Karney, Reis, & Sprecher, 2012).

Everyone wants a partner who takes care and can do anything for him or her. Many times we see that people marry a different person in respect to their culture, race, religion, age, etc., and people wonder that why they marry or are in a relationship with different people. This has been explained in an article “Mixed relationship offers diversity “by Holly Nall. In the article Nall relates the diversity by her personal experience about her relationship. She also raised some points about the benefits of being in a relationship with different people. For example, one can learn about their culture, religion, etc. She presents her point of view mainly in pathos, but also some part of logos and ethos. This is merely significant as Nall wanted her readers to think deeply about society and marriages.

Choices & options that accompany online dating: These topics are covered in the third and fourth chapters of Modern Romance, and mostly discusses the benefits of Online Dating, without forgetting to note a dangerous problem that stems from it. Ansari starts with the benefits, which include narrowing down potential dating partners based on interests, geographic location, race, religion, and any other characteristic people would like to pick by hand. But a large theme in this

Love can be an amazing thing and it is often said that nothing compares to the bond between a mother and her child, yet before a study called “The nature of love” which is discussed in the book “Forty studies that changed psychology: Explorations into the history psychological research,” our society had a very different understand about what caused this bond (Hock, 2013). In the book the author Roger Hock explores many different influential studies but in the section called “Discovering Love,” he takes a closer look into this study and discusses its importance (Hock, 2013). The influence of this study can be found in many different types of literature such as contemporary articles like “Building your own family,” which was published in Scientific American Mind (2014). This article implicitly provides further understand of the “The nature of love” study results and shows active efforts to continue building on the original theoretical ideas in order to change our views about human development (Jacobson, 2014). Even in modern text books like Psychology: Eighth Edition, can we find traces of the importance of this study. Thus this study not only provided a tremendous contribution to the field of Psychology but also changed society by altering its views on child rearing all together.

Another theory is the Filter Model proposed by Kerchoff and Davis; they say that relationships develop through three ‘filters’. It starts with the ‘field of availables’ which are people available for a relationship where we then filter out different partners for different reasons, so it narrows down to a ‘field of desirables’ who are the people we consider as a potential partner. The first filter involves the social model where we choose people without being aware by where they live, work, have been educated or their social class. With individual characteristics not being important at this point. Then there is similarity of attitudes and values, where a partner’s beliefs and ideas come into effect. This is where communication is easier and the relationship can progress, however if beliefs and views are very different then the relationship may not move from its current position. The final filter is the emotional needs, which is whether the people fit as a couple and can meet each other’s needs.

I took part in the “Meeting People, Dating & Relationships” presented by Brittany Bouffard from the Office of International Affairs & The CU Denver Student & Community Counseling Center on 18/4/2017. This workshop gave me five new things, including challenges to know and make friend, some definitions of relationship and dating, variety of ways to meet people, how to date with person like Americans do and some tips for dating. All of these make me fascinating and are really useful. However, the latter two are most important for me. Firstly, I am an international student, so I really want to make American friends, and create more relationships, but I actually do not know how to date with people like Americans do. Fortunately, this workshop gave

Finding the Love of Your Life was written by Neil Clark Warren, PH.D., and in this book he explains his ten basic principles of finding the right mate to spend your life with. He teaches people how to understand the two different types of love: passionate love and companionate love. He states that many do not get past the passionate love portion which is why many people go from relationship to relationship when the passion wears off.

With the expedient process of getting to know someone, relationships can rise and fall much quicker.

Our innate tendencies affect out behavior patterns in the life cycle. From love, sex, and marriage and the change from societies to past and future times. The discoveries of why we have mating traits and how they are used in many meanings such as a smile or the way a person speaks with their body. The forces of culture and environment take part in human involvement in the world. While men and women start to change roles and rights are broaden in a marriage. Along comes divorce in which happens so often in societies because of many reasons. What we have inherited is from out ancestors and it repeats itself in every life cycle. The expedition of the book Anatomy of Love goes through the past to future on love, sex, marriage, and divorce and how it relates to modern societies.

     We live our lives waiting for who we think is the perfect person, but in reality that never happens. When we hear the word relationship, we think of a man and a woman. Being in a relationship is more than just being intimate. There are different kinds of relationship such as husbands and wives, parent and child, or just friend to friend. Some people say it takes two people to make a relationship fail. When two people meet, they usually know from the begining if they want to be with that person or if they want to pursue a relationship.