The relationship that I have been chosen to analyze in relation to the dark side topic, deception, is between two twenty year old, college students. Jessica and Owen have been together for one year starting from the end of their freshmen year of college here at West Virginia University to the present. Jessica is a very private, controlling, prideful woman. Owen, who is also very prideful, is more dependent, open (in relation to self-disclosure), and easy going. Within the one year time span, deception between the two has been a problem. Deception is the mindful, intentional act of communicating information (or intentionally not sharing information) that the sender knows to be false, nonetheless the sender is attempting to create a false impression within the mind of the receiver. There has been debate within the research community of the types of deception, however, for …show more content…
An example of this is when a partner does not tell you about their mother calling because they don’t want you to talk to your family.
The before mentioned study attempted to analyze the role deception plays in romantic relationships, the extent in which deception is used, and the motives behind the deceptive acts. The study used 67 participants (originally 68 but one packet was deemed unusable) from a university. Out of the 67 participants the median age was 20.51; there were 52 females and 15 males; and the average couple had been together for 22.5 months.
The participants were asked to keep a diary for one week and record an entry for every instance they used deception with their romantic partner and to not share their diaries with their partners. The entry should have included the date and time and what type of deception they used (half-truths, exaggerations, lies, secrets, or diversionary responses). Finally, they were asked to describe the act and record their motives for using that particular type of
The term deception means the deliberate act of misleading an individual some may refer to deception as “little white lies.” Deception has long been used in the criminal justice area by officers in the detecting process of criminal cases, and is one of the most commonly used tools in the investigative process. Investigators use deception in the detecting process. This involves misleading criminals during the investigative and interrogative stages, to gather enough information about the
What is deception? Deception is misleading, misguiding, dishonest, cheat and fraud. It is anything that turns someone from the truth of a matter? Could it be the way the words one say is brought across to one's hearing? According to Howard Thurman, deception is the oldest technique used by the weak to protect them. Mr. Thurman also provides illustrations of creatures in what way they use the system. I must agree to we all have a wall of defensive we put up against people. I would also say that does not mean that doing so is okay all the time. So many times we as people use this technique at the wrong times to avoid the truth at times. Although reading the story of the blind man that was killed by a law-enforcement officer stood out to me.
The Ways We Lie addresses the main topic of avoiding the truth promptly. Factions of lying, especially those not ordinarily considered deceit, are presented, and personal anecdotes as well as historical precedents magnify personal appeal along with logic. The purpose of this essay is to encourage people to abstain from dishonesty. For illustration, the author states,”I cannot seem to escape the voice deep inside
A lie is considered a false statement given to fool someone. At some point throughout the day everyone will stretch the truth. Are lies just really some version of the truth or are they bold and deliberate? Lying is discussed in-depth in "The Ways We Lie" by Stephanie Ericsson and in the article "Is Lying Bad for Us" by Richard Gunderman. The two articles discuss the types of lies, reasons people lie and the consequences suffered by all. It can be determined after reading the texts that lying causes undue stress and telling the truth is beneficial in more ways than one.
In the essay The Ways We Lie, author Stephanie Ericsson writes in depth about the different types of lies used by most people everyday. While listing examples of them, Ericsson questions her own experiences with lying and whether or not it was appropriate. By using hypothetical situations, true accounts, and personal occurrences, she highlights the moral conflicts and consequences that are a result of harmless fibs or impactful deceptions. In an essay detailing the lies told to ourselves and others, Ericsson points out one bold truth; everyone lies. Through her writing, Ericsson causes the reader to look into how they’ve lied in the past and how to effects others and the general greater good of society.
As many know, we lie to cover up things that we don’t want others to know. Maybe when you were a child you broke your brothers toy and when he confronted you, you lied and said you had no idea who did it, or maybe you completely try to change the subject. In a way, that is what interpersonal deception theory is, it’s an attempt to explain how individuals handle actual deception at the conscious or subconscious level while they are engaged in a face-to-face communication. And Actually This type of deception has 3 aspects such as falsification, concealment, and equivocation.
Deception Jehan Fostanes Nayga had once said, “Know that to understand other people, is one way of helping them to grow”. In “Immune to Reality”, Daniel Gilbert states, “ Research suggests that people are typically unaware of the reasons why they are doing what they are doing, but when asked for a reason, they readily supply one” (Gilbert 131). Gilbert’s essay is based off the foundation of happiness and its unpredictability. However, happiness is an intangible chimerical feeling that often times is obtained with understanding and knowledge.
We are told from a very young that we should tell the truth, and that lying is wrong; an immoral action which we should not engage in. Yet lying is a large part of daily life, whether it be our lying to others or others lying to us, around us, or lying in ways that affect our lives. Oftentimes, the lies we tell are for social gain; for the purposes of esteem, affection, or respect. We lie as a way to manage others impressions of us. Studies have found that women are generally more intimate in their interactions, which would suggest that they lie less. However, might women lie more to benefit others, as opposed to self-centered lies? A study by DePaul et al. (1996) set out to answers questions about the frequency of lying, types of lies told,
According to “When Lying is Good” by Elizabeth Segran, she states “ The truth is that we all lie but sometimes it’s with the intention of sparing the feelings of others or preventing others from experiencing psychological harm”(Fastcompany). Whether it’s lying to prevent harm or lying in general it’s never the right thing to do. It prevents you from having trust, allowing your relationship to have arguments which leads to a break up anyways. Before your relationship gets worse and you’re doing is holding on to a thread, it’s better if you leave that relationship. The tiniest lies always lead to bigger and bigger lies. It is hard to be in a relationship with a person that you have to question every move. Such as, when your partner receives a text, your first response is “who is that,” or when he/she says I’m going out with my friends, you say “ with who? when? where?” this all happens because your not sure what to believe, you don’t trust your partner.
A significant form of interpersonal communication that plays an enormous role in relationships is lying. Lying has evolved into a frequent practice in today’s society. Even though, lying seem to be fond upon, we all have done it multiple times for not just our benefit but for others. In relationships, lying is turned from a negative to positive act depending on the circumstances. It seems as if, you lie in attempt to help another person it’s celebrated than if you lie for your benefits. Lying is known to only mislead or give a false impression in which the false hood can only cause negative acts. Why does one enange in lying if the outcome is negative? The most found reason that people find themselves lying is because of the truth. It is said that many people lie because long-term the truth is worse than the short-term lie. Lying is judged off its cost and benefits. In each situation, there will be outcomes when it comes to the lies being told. Lying to those you have impersonal connection with has less of an impact than those you have an interpersonal relationships. Those that has an impersonal relationships is nearly never affected by the lies told because normally they do not see that person as often as those with the close bonds. I understand that lying can be beneficial in relationship of any kind, but I personally feel that the truth is preferred. There are two consequences that puts strain on the relationship. Termination is the last step in a relationship; there are
Deception According to Hyman (1989) deception implies that an agent acts or speaks so as to induce a false belief in a target or victim. Deception can occur in everyday life. Whether it is telling someone they look nice or not telling them that they look fat. This is an important process for forming relationships and general social interaction.
WHO CAN CATCH A LIAR?’ , Ekman and O’Sullivan, 1991. What is the definition of lying or indeed deception? Well deception can be defined in many ways, but it was termed by Vrij (Vrij, 2000, p.6) as a successful or unsuccessful deliberate attempt, without forewarning, to create in another a belief, which the communicator considers to be untrue. Telling lies is a daily life event, which varies in quite complex ways depending on the situation the person is in and the person being lied to.
Lying the one form of communication that is the untruth expressed to be the truth. Immanuel Kant states that lying is morally wrong in all possible ways. His hatred for lying has made him “just assumed that anyone who lied would be operating with a maxim like this: tell a lie so as to gain some benefit.”(Landau,pp.171) This is true for a vast number of people, they will lie in order to gain a certain benefit from the lie rather than the truth.It is similar to if you play a game of truth or dare, some rather pick a dare because it would release them from having to tell the truth. However, those who do pick truth still have a chance to lie to cover up the absolute truth.People lie in order to cover who they truly are. Even if you lie to benefit someone or something else, it would not matter to Kant because he does not care for the consequences. If you lie but have a good intention it is not the same for Kant, he would argue that you still lied no matter the consequence that a lie is a lie. “ While lying, we accuse others for not being transparent. While being hypocrites ourselves, we expect others to be sincere.” (Dehghani,Ethics) We know how it feels to be lied to by a person, so in order to not have the feeling returned, we hope the person will be truthful. We rather be surrounded by truthful people constantly despite all the lies that some people tell. No
Dishonesty takes many forms, some more insidious than others. While you may recognize that lying about where you are is dishonest, there are other ways that you may employ deception in your dating relationships. For instance, pretending to enjoy opera just so the other party will like you.
In summary, the telling of the truth and “white lies” are both essential parts of a healthy and devoted relationship. The truth is sometimes challenging, but a “white lie” can ease the pain associated with the truth. Trust is the corner-stone of all healthy relationships, in the same way that telling the truth is essential to a healthy marriage. Moreover, relationships are strengthened by the truth, and the trust that comes from that truth. In conclusion, the truth is sometimes hard to convey to the ones you love. When making the choice between the truth and using a “white lie”, people must take into consideration the effects of, dishonesty and honesty to a marriage, as well as the consequences of telling a “white lie.” The use of a “white lie” to protect a loved one is acceptable, and will continue to be used in the future as a tool in a healthy marriage. The truth may be the gears of a good relationship; never the less, the “white lie” is the grease that makes it all run