What would have I possibly done wrong as a child? Sometimes they would've been better without me. Before my mom gave birth to me, they was your typical average couple. They did everything together like they were meant to be. Until I stepped out the bomb I saw another meaning of love. I remember when my dad came home late from work, and he would start drinking with the next door neighbor until he passed out. Me and my mom would lock ourselves in the bathroom because we knew that he would get mad at our presence. There would be days where he use the rent money just to gamble and we would move to a different apartment. I saw my mother getting hitted, yelled and even cheated on. Off course, I didn't see him in the daytime because I was somewhere …show more content…
The weekends was the worst days of my life. I was only in kindergarten, I remember that my dad would get mad and beat me with the belt because I didn't know how to read and write. He would leave me with bruise all over my body and yank some of my hair off. My mother would just watch and remain in silence. I would go to school cover up no matter how hot the weather is. As time flies by, I never heard my dad said I love you or even care about me. I have two other siblings, and they never got beaten to death or knows how it feel to be hated by your own father. I took care of them and feed them when my mom wasn’t feeling good. I was jealous at them but they dont understand whats going on? Here I am now, I’m standing at my shadow and trying to get rid of the pain feeling because of suddenly it feel just right. I saw my dad left with another woman and left my mother with my sister and brother. I grew up having the mentality that being hurt is love because you get used to it. I’m trying to hide being that shy person, avoiding guys on date, and trying to be that girl who is satisfied with life. This is my story as a …show more content…
The aggression can be intimate that includes physical violence and emotional harm. Child abuse is when they are physical abuse intentional use of physical force against a child. It is different for everybody because other might consider as an aggressive punishment that includes spankings, pushes, punched, slapped or pinched and beaten with belts or objects. For instance, the child was being hit when her father was mad because she didn’t simply know how to read. A possible explanation is that because children are spent with their caregiver is at increase becoming a victim of violence. Just as in the story, this started of with a normal couple that seem like they are having a summer love. Because many couples are not ready to fully be committed that they feel the pressure of responsibility, stressed out and not financially stable. One of the issues that most children feel in a violence home is being guilty and afraid. Guilty was a problem for her in the beginning since she blame herself if she had done something wrong after she step into the world. Children are being affected that they start losing their attachment style from their parents and they become to be afraid of being abandoned when they get older. Another way children are being effect is in a behavioral development aspect such as increase of social isolation, school problems,creating stress disorders, acting aggressively. For example, she
Believe it or not exposure to violence affects children in many ways. Children are like sponges they absorb everything they see. Children who are exposed to violence in their homes become fearful, anxious, and never feel safe. They are always worried for themselves, their mother, and their siblings. They may even feel worthless and powerless. Many children will keep the abuse a secret and not tell anyone but as time progresses they will think that it’s their fault and that that’s why the violence is occurring. Children exposed to abuse can look normal to the
I have decided to talk on a topic that people would not expect a teenage boy to talk on. And so said topic is love. Now I do not mean to talk about the love that a boy has for a pretty girl, because that is way to complicated for anyone of us to figure out. The type of love that I want to talk about is a simple love, and sadly it is unknown by most people on this Earth, and that is the love of our Heavenly Father, and brother has for each and everyone of us.
For children living in violent and unsafe homes, they are learning that hitting and verbally abusing someone is the proper way of communicating love. According to Holt, Buckley & Whelan (2008), “as they learn a generational cycle begins in which children grow up to be victims and abusers as adults.” The effects that domestic violence has on children are heartbreaking. Some of the major effects are; increased risk of poor health, poor education, isolation, learned helplessness and decreased satisfaction in such family environment.
In seventh grade I had my first real boyfriend. His name was Damonte Davis. He was a football player and he also played basketball. He was really fun for me to be around but he was a toxic person in my life. I got my first kiss ever from him. I thought he was the cutest guy in the world and I thought I was going to marry him. Well that’s what all kids the when they THINK they’re in love. My mom couldn’t stand him. She knew things that I clearly didn’t understand. She knew that he wasn’t could for me. She knew that he wouldn’t help me grow into the person that I needed to be. To me Damonte was the only support I had though. I felt like he was the only guy that supported me and had my back. This period of my life my dad wasn’t
My background goes from the island of Puerto Rico, to the country of El Salvador. As I get more in detail of my family you will discover we are not your average “Brady Bunch”. Were quite the opposite, even though I am beyond blessed with the family I have been given, we are as screwed up as they come. It was my first day of kindergarten when I came home to find out my parents were separating and getting a divorce. My life went into a tailspin. Growing up my father was always part of the picture financially. He was always a pay check at the beginning of the month. He was never there for what I felt were important life moments. As the years were to come my mom took care of my brothers and I. My brothers who were angry with my father lashed out by getting involved with the wrong crowds, and drugs. The weight of the family of fell on Victor. There were several factors that majorly effected my life. One of them being I was molested at the age of eight. So I went to very dark place. My parents were divorced, my brothers were giving my mother more than she imagined, and then I was molested. My childhood was robbed from me, it
About four years later my mom kicked my dad out and then the following year they got divorced. It was absolutely awful. How do you go from seeing your dad everyday to seeing him every other weekend? I blamed myself for the longest time. Was it me? Could I have done something different to keep them together? I soon came to realize there was nothing I could have done. They were already apart in so many ways. I had to grow up a lot through the divorce. My mom had to work again and I had to take care of my four year old sister all the time. I never had the chance to really be a kid because I had to take on a lot of responsibilities. I also believed that love would never last. That I was bound to get a divorce too when I got older since my parents did. I look back now and come to the conclusion that I wouldn’t want them to be together. That whole experience changed me for the better. It taught me how to grow up, maybe faster than I would’ve liked, but taught me how to take on responsibilities. It gave me the jumpstart to the person I am
You know how when your a kid and you dont think anything could go wrong: well thats what I thought and then everything went wrong. Let me start at the beginning though I was born July 1st 1996,i was sort of an unexpected surprise my mother had only wanted one child and she was already planing on leaving my dad when she found out she was pregnant. Not wanting to leave two kids without a father she tried working things out with my father again that only lasted 6months after I was born and mom came back home with her parents with not one but two kids. My grandparents immediately took charge of the situation and helped there single daughter raise her children in doing so they took us in as there children. How you may ask well by they took us in as there children they literally took us in my mom
Love and passion is the burning sensation that drives humans to lead their lives into new horizons: following the heart hoping it will guide the way. Janie, the lead character in the book, Their Eyes Were Watching God, written by Zora Neale Hurston, is suppressed by family, and two different husband too, only to find pain and sorrow by not following her heart until she is freed by a man who loves her deeply with only one thing on his mind, to protect and love her like nobody else before. Through this story Hurston shows the love passion and compassion a man could show and the growing of a young girl to a woman. Hurston uses money to represent a unnecessary want for women, hair as the dictator of love and freedom, and a sun set to show the exciting new night life of a life she will have after her decision.
I believe that love is the most enticing, vigorous, and mysterious force on this planet. I believe it is also the cause of many shattered hearts, and endless suffering. It is the one thing everyone is searching for, yet terrified to find. Love can be phenomenal and make you feel elevated to a level of pure ecstasy, or it can bring you tremendous affliction, trapping your soul into the heart of a demonic and dreary abyss.
Love is something that can be dated back for thousands of years. Love has always been a concept. According to Dictionary.com, Love can be defined as a tender, passionate affection for another person. It can also be defined as a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection as for a child, parent, or friend. Love can be defined in many other ways according to other people's view of it. I define love in a different way.
When I was younger about 12 maybe 13 years old I could tell you many wonderful things about my parents. They would always talk to one another, have smiles on their faces, they were practically joined by the hip. It was very rare for them to argue. However when they did argue things always got ugly. My mother would be crying for hours and my father would leave the house and not return for days on end. It came to no surprise when it surfaced that my father was cheating on my mother during those days. After that, the household dynamic shifted drastically. My mother became the breadwinner of the house while my father began doing less and less. Ultimately, my mother and father decided to separate. Looking back now, I can understand why they were
What is love? According to Mega essay. com love seems to be the main underlying goal that we all strive for in our lifetimes. For me love is when you attracted to a person without any reason. Love is a variety of different feelings, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection to pleasure. Love is utterly unconditional and only truly exists between family members, or between people and a deity. Love is where you feel that the person is important to you. For me the meaning of love is my family and friends.
Love is such a vast term. There are numerous definitions for the beautiful word, so many variations of the feeling that most people sense very differently. The focus of this assignment though will be on the type love one feels for their partner. This is the most important type of love that there is. The inexplicably amazing surge of warmth and happiness that spreads within you when being with your partner. When you love someone deeply enough just looking into each other’s eyes makes your face flush and heart skip a beat. It’s the most wonderful feeling you can possibly imagine. During those comforting late night talks, wrapped in each other’s arms is when love is felt the most. That tingling feeling that rushes from your face all the way down
I couldn't tell my Dad what I saw because he wouldn't believe me. He always took her side in everything and that constantly frustrated me. A few weeks after this incident I came home after school and half of everything was gone. She had left and it was because she moved in with this guy that she had been texting. My Dad didn't take any of this well. He was sad and depressed and out of it. I stepped up and was the parent to my younger sisters for awhile. It hurt me but I had hoped that my Dad would wake up and realize that I was right and that I’m the one who will always be there and that truly loves him. He never realized that though because two weeks after she left he let her come back. I decided to give her another chance because I wanted my Dad to be happy. That didn't work out to well though. She just went back to her old ways of making me feel rude and disrespectful. My Dad constantly sided with her like always even after everything she put us through. I decided to stand up for myself and I left to go live with my Mom. Neither of them were happy about it but I couldn't deal with them
Growing up, I had a happy life. I had two of the most loving parents in the world. My mom was the best mom in the world to me. She was so loving, always taking me on adventures to places, and spoiling me with anything that I wanted. My dad was like my best friend; I guess you could say I was a daddy’s girl. He always took me outside in our big back yard to play ball and even set up a swing set for the both of us to swing on in the cool evenings. For 16 years of my life, I was able to enjoy a happy home. Unfortunately, my perfect childhood turned into dreadful teenage years in the blink of my eye.