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Descriptive Essay : ' Happily Ever After '

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I say, if you are not happy and nothing seems to be changing (and won’t change), do not dig the ground deeper under your feet. The deeper hole you dig, the harder it is to get out. The longer you dig, the deeper the hole becomes, and the longer you will feel miserable. Is this what your idea of ‘happily ever after’ is about - to sit in a deep hole and feel miserable? If not, then it is time to leave. Let’s take a look at this chart. It shows how our ability to leave is connected to the amount of B.S. we are willing to tolerate. The red line represents what we USUALLY do and the blue one – what we should be doing instead. Let’s take a closer look to understand what it all means. You see, there are times when we need to pause for a …show more content…

By the time we are ‘critical’ it means we are jaded and damaged way too much to peacefully move-on AND recover quickly. ~ Think of long term relationships where two people won’t even talk to each other. When they are in the same room they are still… miles apart. They have learned to co-exist without communication and they have learned to be alone. Is this the ‘skill’ they think they can utilize in their future relationships? Is this the only ‘communication’ model they think works? If this is the ‘new normal’ for them then communicating openly in the next relationship will seem hard and uncomfortable. ~ Think of a dating situation where a woman waits for years for her commitment phobic man to be ready. She is unhappy with the situation and HERSELF. In her mind, the minute he proposes she will become happy. She is looking at another human being as the source of her own happiness. And, if she stays long enough, she may actually believe that this is the only way (to feel happy). How twisted is this?? ~ Or how about relationships where we get preoccupied with ‘changing others’. We do not think we are in a happy relationship until they do A, B and C and then become D, E, and F. We want it our way, and rather than enjoying the present, we are stuck on their future potential. As time goes by, our biological clock keeps ticking, our waist line gets bigger, our face won’t look as fresh anymore…and we are still at square one. We are on a

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