There are two main elements that are used when measuring communication within families. The first one being conversation orientation, the degree to which families create a communication environment in which all family members are encouraged to participate in unrestrained interaction about a wide range of topics (Koerner & Fitzpatrick, 2002b). Families who
The reasons as to why people communicate is to express themselves and their needs, to share ideas and pass information, to socialise and get more information, share experiences, give instructions, share opinions, give encouragement. Observation helps humans understand the effectiveness of communication.
* Authoritative parents set clear and consistent limits for children. They are flexible but firm, whichs leads to children who are responsible, cooperative, and self reliant.
Children, and people in general, are who they are because of their parents. The manner in which a child is raised will resonate with them for the rest of their lives. If a parent is too overprotective, the child may lack autonomy and self-confidence. But if a parent is too distant, the child may be more prone to act out and defy authority. The sweet spot is authoritative parenting, one in which there is an open relationship with regulations but communication. In fact, authoritative parenting is the most successful independent of the age, behavior, and situation. The parenting style may need to be slightly altered in some cases, but it is all a form of authoritative. In order to successfully raise a child, regardless of the situation and relationship, the key factor is trust.
Thesis: The authoritative parenting style is the most effective style for producing children that have desirable traits, such as good morals, obedience, compassion and responsibility.
Parenting can be challenging for most parents, and we don’t always get it right. Parenting takes time, unconditional love and understanding. Balswick and Balswick, (2014) suggests that “authoritative parenting” is more efficient. The development of a child is a very important and impacts their life overall into becoming a mature reciprocating self. I believe that good parenting starts with prayer, commitment and loving your children unconditionally. Authoritative parents do not let their children get away with wrong behavior, bad attitudes. These children are responsible and will more likely succeed in life.
How we communicate depends on the person. Whether adult-to-adult or child-to-child etc.., the style needs to be adapted accordingly in order for any positive relationship to be developed. Positive relationships should benefit everyone, and we are more likely to communicate information to each other if we have a positive relationship.
The ability of family members to engage in clear and direct communication when conveying messages.
Frist, Authoritative Parenting is considered the most successful way to parent a child (Hughes 2013). It is considered the most successful way to parent children because it has a high parent involvement rate and the levels of control are well balanced. These types of parents have very realistic expectations and limits for their kids. The parents also have a more natural way to approach consequences when needed. Authoritative parents tend to listen to the child’s point of view when they are talking, and allow the child more opportunities to be independent. These parents will have set rules that have to be followed and will explain their reasons why the rules are there, but also explain what the consequences will be if they choose not to follow the set rules. The parents in this category are also more lenient with the children as well. They will bend and allow exceptions to their set rules and consequences in certain situations. For example these
The most successful child-rearing practice is the authoritative style. This particular style involves warm, caring, attentive and patient parenting. Parents are also perceptive to their child’s needs. All these characteristics allow for a close bond with their child. In addition, they permit gradual autonomy by allowing their children to make decisions once they show signs readiness. Parents who use this style offer encouragement to express how they feel and think without judgement. If disagreements occur, parents involve them in joint-decision making. Parents place reasonable demands on their child, but at the same time offer explanations as to why they are enforced. Because of this, children are normally more compliant.
Communication is the cornerstone of any relationship, but between parent and child it is both unique and special. It is forged and developed through love and a special bond that can only be understood by them. It begins before a child is even born, and continues through their life. Communication is how we make our thoughts, feelings, needs, and thoughts known. As babies, children convey this through cries and sounds; and is often best known by their parents who seem to know which cry and sound mean different things. It is imperative that this strong level of communication is fostered in a positive way, throughout their childhood.
The optimal parenting style for child development, authoritative, can be seen in Sue’s parenting. Authoritative parenting, characterized by high warmth and control, is seen in parenting when rules and expectations are set, but these are discussed with the children before setting them into place (Kail & Cavanaugh, 2016, p. 238). Consequences for breaking these rules, or not meeting expectations, are fair and doled out only when necessary, and the children are given support by their parents that allow them to flourish as much as possible (Kail & Cavanaugh, 2016, p. 238). This is true for Sue, as she has set goals for her teenager that range from passing her classes with at least a B, to doing chores that were previously discussed with her on certain days, which are posted on a daily schedule on the refrigerator in clear view. If these expectations are not met, Sue’s daughter is given a calm description of how she did not achieve what was expected of her, and another chance is then given. If she repeats the mistake a second time, the daughter is grounded from using her phone or going out with friends for a certain period of time that matches the severity of the mistake. It is worth noting that the daughter is highly successful in school, earning
While I am grateful to be independent and self-sufficient today, I don’t want my children having the same worries I had as a child. I don’t want them wondering if they are loved, wanted, or just in the way. That is why I work hard to be an authoritative parent. I want my children to know that their voices are heard and that I care. Jane Brooks explains how children of authoritative parents are “self-reliant and self-confident and explored their worlds with excitement and pleasure.” (Brooks, 2013, p. 101) These are the traits that I can only hope to instill in my children through my parenting
46). Whereas “Authoritative parents are demanding and responsive, controlling but not restrictive” (Ballantine, 2001 p. 46). This idea of responsiveness and unrestricted control allows for solutions that are acceptable to both parties, the child and parent. Resulting in a more communal, open ended atmosphere bolstering positivity and progression. Moreover, the idea of unrestricted controls allows for the child to feel like he is in control within a given set of parameters. For example, if a parent is to ask her child what she wants for dinner; between steak or pasta, it allows for a communal, positive environment, where the child feels somewhat in control. This eliminates the negative externalities caused by the “my way of the highway” parenting and further improves the relationship, development, and growth of the entire family. Furthermore, in a study done by Diana Baumrind at the University of California pertaining to parenting styles on adolescence competence and substance use it was found that authoritative parenting style on average results in the child being more highly responsive, have low: problem behaviour, stress levels, and substance use. (Diana Baumrind 1991,
According to Walsh (2013) communication it the “practice of conveying messages”, which can be verbal (tone of voice) or non-verbal (facial expressions and hand movement) that assist with establishing roles of other family members and rules that are expected to be followed within the family. While reviewing the Clark’s family case study it is clear that they have some communication issues between spouses and their children. When it comes to communication there are a few concepts that also falls under communicate that are used to better understand how individuals and families communicate, such as assertively, aggressively, and argumentatively (Martin &Anderson, 1997). Studies have shown that these are the commonly used communication traits that are used between young adults and their parents, which is the case for the Clark family (Martin &Anderson, 1997). Communication is also a concept that is discussed in the social cognitive theory by Bandura during 1977, which indicates that individuals learn behaviors and communication from others close to their environment that is achieved by observation (Martin &Anderson, 1997). According to Martin and Anderson (1997) there are a number of studies that are focused on the communication styles of parents that are past down to their children.