Different Adrenting Styles Contrasted By Working Class Parent And Working-Class Parents

In The Merits of Meritocracy, by David Brooks, Brooks discusses the lives of middle-class children growing up in America. He opens up with an anecdote about his daughter, to lead into one of his main points: middle-class children have busy and protected childhood, filled with many opportunities supervised by adults (193). For instance, his daughter has four different helmets for biking, pogo sticking, skateboarding, and playing baseball (193). She is a prime example of how the middle-class is presented with opportunities and busy lives; because of this, Brooks claims the general middle-class parent fears their child is too spoiled by abundance, and will never have to commit to one thing (194). Another large fear Brooks states they have, is

As we all know mother does know best, yet in some cases mother can do more harm than good. There is a big debate on how people are raising the newest generations and whether or not they are properly being introduced into the realities of our society. Are children being spoiled too much or not enough? This topic is thoroughly discussed by Alfie Kohn in his essay, “ The One-sided Culture War against Children” and by Nick Gillespie within his essay, “The Current State of Childhood: Is “Helicopter Parenting” or “Free-Range Childhood” Better for Kids?”. Although Kohn offers valid explanations, Gillespie does surpass Kohn’s explanations; parents need to be less overbearing and stop pampering their children.

Primary education, Supplemental tutoring, summer camps, secondary education, family activities, higher education, first full-time job, subsequent employment, present employment with the age of the person, present residence, second residences"(pp.336-340). He lets you look into the life of different people, some from upper-class families and some from lower class families. The reader can see for themselves that the way they are brought up, whether it is from and upper-class family or lower-class family, it affects them. It

The book Unequal Childhoods describes observations made by Annette Lareau to shed light on the significance of social class and how it affects student’s learning. Lareau presents her observations by highlighting the two dominant ways of parenting that ultimately affect how successful students become as they transition into adulthood. These styles of parenting consist of Concerted Cultivation where parents put through kids through structured activities, and Accomplishment of Natural Growth where unrestrictive freedom and directives are exercised (20-22).

For example, when the Asbury Park Press wrote about helicopter parents ( which falls under concerted cultivation), they pointed out how constantly trying to micromanage everything “can stunt a child’s development when it comes to making their own decisions and not allow them to learn from their mistakes (Media 1).” On the other hand, accomplishment of natural growth has a lot more drawbacks than benefits. Since these types of parents leave their children to be more independent, “these children tend to lack self-control, have low self-esteem and are less competent than their peers ( Cherry 1)”. Having these types of traits will make becoming successful much harder than for a child raised in concerted cultivation. Another distangante is how in contrast to concerted cultivation, the children raised based on accomplishment of natural growth don’t really see themselves as worthy of the attention and interest from adults. In order to be successful, people need to have the confidence to believe in themselves and persuade others to believe and trust in

She also talks about how middle class parenting differs from the other social class. The middle class parents mostly dominate the lives of their children while the working class parents cannot concentrate that much on their kids. She also brought a name for this phenomena called “Concerted Cultivation”.

A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.

Poor and working-class parents were found to hold to an “accomplishment of natural growth” parental philosophy. Natural growth promotes a clear separation between children and adults, employs the use of directives, places little emphasis on the importance of verbal communication and eye contact, allows children greater independence, and promotes deference and submissiveness to adults. Inspiring and positive qualities can be found in children raised in homes exercising this perspective, qualities such

Lareau explains how different social class: middle class, working class, and lower class have individual parenting styles to discipline their child. Using the technique of naturalistic observations, the author analyzed that the relationship of children between their families and the extrinsic world differs by their social class. Each chapter takes the reader on a journey of one child’s experiences at home and in social institutions and how different parenting styles influence a child’s life at home and in the outside world. Through her study, the author discovered significant differences between each social classes, in regards to the practices of child-rearing. Lareau explains that how distinctive practices of child-rearing in different social classes can result in social class inequality.

In roughly 95 million middle-class American homes the notion of making last minute plans to share quality time with family and friends is challenging. With their priority for leisure time being focused on their children’s futures, making plans often involves two to four weeks advance notice. However, 200 million working-class and poverty level families accommodate those last minute plans with ease. Parenting styles in American families is what Annette Lareau addresses in Unequal Childhoods: Class, Race, and Family Life. Lareau identifies middle-class families as concerted cultivators, mothers and fathers that dominate their children’s lives with established, controlled and organized activities intended to give them experiences that

According to sociologist Annete Lareau in “Invisible Inequality”, there are two main rearing styles that can be seen in families across races. These styles, termed “concerted cultivation” and “accomplishment of natural growth”, are defined by a number of features, the most significant being social class; the method of concerted cultivation dominates the middle and upper social classes, while the rearing method of accomplishment of natural growth dominates the poor and working classes. After interviewing my own parents, I found that the rearing styles they were raised on coincided with their families’ social status; however, my rearing style did not entirely match up with the social status I belonged to. Although I was raised mainly

All families want their children to be happy, healthy, and grow. Social classes make a difference in how parents go about meeting this goal. In Annette Lareau book, Unequal Childhoods: Class, Race, and Family Life, she promotes middle class parents as concerted cultivation. Middle class parents encourage their children’s talents, opinions, and skills. For example, engaging their children in organized activities and closely monitoring children’s experiences in school. According to Lareau, middle class children gain an emerging sense of entitlement through this pattern of converted cultivation. This causes a focus on children’s individual development. There are signs that the middle class children gain advantages from the experience of concerted cultivation. However, the working class and poor children do not gain this advantage.

I believe the author was trying to convey that people will pretend to be something they're not just to fit in with their peers. This article was interesting but it did leave me feeling a little bit upset. Those working-class kid's parents worked their butts off just so they could provide food, shelter and an education for their child. To act all embarrassed at what your parents do for a living just seems like a giant slap in the face for all the hard work they have done to provide you that opportunity to go to a prestigious college." I generally don't tell people what my father does or what my mother does. I notice that I'm different, but it's not something other people here notice because I can fake it."(pg 121) I can't imagine being embarrassed

class, take care of their children through concerted cultivation. They put their children in numerous activities such as club teams which control a family’s life, particularly for the mothers. The reason behind this is because parents believe these activities are important skills to learn for their children. Families also in a higher class talk to their children to discipline them. Parents in the working class and poor class apply natural growth. Many parents of the working class provide love, food, and safety anticipating their children will advance and succeed. They do not focus on developing their children's special talents. For this reason, working class children have more free time and better relationships with their extended families. Working-class and poor also use

Another journal written in 2007 by Carol Vincent and Stephen J. Ball that will help me answer my question is Making up the middle-class child: families, activities and class dispositions. The journal draws on data gathered from a qualitative project to point out the interest of middle-class parents in signing on their under-fives for enrichment activities and the role this plays in the child's development. I have included below a full Harvard Reference for each of these materials.