I think as parent's we have all wondered what types of discipline can encourage moral behavior, and what types of discipline should we avoid? One of the most powerful types of discipline that can foster moral development is inductive discipline. Inductive discipline is a way you can teach a child to consider others feelings. For example, if your child is playing at the park and they hit another child what do you do? A powerful tool to use is talk to your child about the event of hitting another child and then help them to see how what they done hurt the other child's feelings. It is important to use positive reinforcement when having your child process what they have done. Ask your child what they could have done differently instead of …show more content…
It is important when we are trying to create a respectful relationship that you do not just focus on the negative behavior give rewards for positive behavior as well. If all a child ever hears is what they do wrong they grow up thinking that they do nothing right. There are several forms of alternative discipline that can be used like a time out. A time out allows the child to calm down, think about their actions, and it also gives the parent time to cool off. A time out should be equivalent to the age of the child so if your child is two then they go to their room for two minutes. Another form of alternative discipline is taking away privileges for example, taking away the privilege of your child's favorite television show. There are some types of discipline that foster negative moral development and are potentially harmful to a child's self-esteem, and social development. Corporal punishment or spanking can be a harmful and ineffective discipline. If a child is spanked for ever negative behavior that is displayed it begins to lose its effect. The alternative is using spanking as a last resort when all other potential types of discipline have been exhausted. When used as a last resort spanking is more effective because it teaches your child that you have fairly exhausted all other attempts at helping them to see their behavior is unacceptable. An important consideration when deciding on what type of discipline to use
Well, many parents find that time-outs and physical punishments are becoming more and more ineffective when disciplining children; this leaves parents questioning their authoritative abilities. In a recent study conducted by Dr. Shari Barkins in the article, “Positive Reinforcement is More Effective than Punishment”, “1 in 3 [parents] said they could not effectively discipline their kids” (Pope). This shows that many parents are experiencing difficulties and challenges when using punishing methods when disciplining
One very simple word that describes discipline is training. A child is not born with the knowledge of what is acceptable or expected. A parent must invest their own time and patience while showing love and exemplary behavior while molding their children into becoming well behaved (Child Abuse vs. Discipline). Being a parent is a hard enough job already, but when it comes to being a parent having to discipline your child, it becomes much harder. It takes time for a child to learn and process new behaviors, and this is a reason a parent must not have a short fuse when it comes to discipling their children.
With discipline is all about reinforcing positive behaviors. One example can be to give out praises when a positive social behavior has been shown and encourage to continue the behavior. As the previous example that I used, if the parents had explained that it is not appropriate to hit or throw things at people. Then the child would have learned that what he did was wrong and would likely learn not to do it again if he is given an acceptable consequence to his behavior. When disciplining a child they must receive a consequence that is appropriate for his or her age.
The main reason that parents use spanking as a discipline technique is because it is what they received when they were children. However, in many cases spanking has nothing to do with helping the child. It is used as a quick solution to stop negative behavior with no real regard for the long-term outcome. Parents often spank their children because they themselves are angry. These parents simply cannot handle a situation and take it out on their child. Spanking might be more accepted if it was the only, or the most successful, form of discipline, but it is not. Spanking is simply a short-term fix of a child 's discipline problems. Two of the widely used alternatives to spanking are the time-out and restriction punishments. Time-out is most effective when administered to children under ten years of age, and a restriction mostly benefits children over ten years old. Both of these methods, while effective, also have a positive influence on the child, they teach the child discipline without the use of force, help the child
Child discipline is an important part of parenthood. It is challenging for adults to manage children’s behaviors and find the correct lessons that will benefit their children. According to the research performed by Flynn (1998), most parents in the United States agree that "it is sometimes necessary to discipline a child with a good, hard spanking" (p.26). Socolar et al. performed research which agreed that “corporal punishment of children persists—roughly fifty percent of the parents of toddlers in the United States use corporal punishment as a regular method of disciplining their children.” (as cited in Gershoff, 2010, p.32). That is not to say that physical punishment is the solution as it can stop a behavior immediately but the results
For example: if a child decides to do drugs or physically harm someone, then they should get a spanking or a harsh scolding accompanied by a week of restriction on things they enjoy. Luscombe includes a quote involving the alternative punishments to spanking being more effective than spanking (par. 9). I normally agree with this, however I would add that it also depends on the child and their attitudes after the punishment has occurred. For instance, if a parent was to eliminate one of the stars on “The Star Chart,” and the child’s response was, “I don’t care,” then the parent would have to apply harsher punishments until the child has changed their attitude towards the punishment. Luscombe also includes information on the negative effects physical punishment may have on children, which should be taken into account when disciplining (par. 5).
2. "A guidance or discipline encounter is an interaction between an adult and child and often includes helping the child alter her behavior in some way" (Marion, 2012, p. 115). Negative discipline strategies tend to focus, as one would assume, strictly on negative behavior. Punishment is often utilized as an attempt to make the child behave in desired manner. A controversial form of negative discipline that it still used in schools is time-outs. During a time-out a child is removed from the group and is isolated for a set period of time. While in a time-out, the goal of the teacher is to have the child think about their negative behavior and to have the child feel remorseful about their previous actions. According to Dan
Conversely, teaching parent’s behavior management aids in decreasing unhealthy disciplinary actions through proper techniques of reward and punishment behavior (Cohen et al., 2005).
After reading “To Spank or Not to Spank”, “What Science Really Says about Spanking” and watching an episode of Super Nanny, I learned a lot about parenting. The article and episode of Super Nanny helped show me the most effective ways to disciplining a child. For example, after watching Super Nanny, I observed some extremely vital parenting techniques that are much more effective than spanking. Super Nanny believed in being very strict, she let her words punish the child rather than striking the child. This was an extremely effective method, because Super Nanny would advise the parents to be strict and punish the child. She then would tell the parents to explain to the child what they did wrong. In doing so, the child would cease the negative
In my personal philosophy, a positive discipline will begin with the adult and how they “set the stage” for interaction with a child who may be needing direction in his or her behavior. If the adult can clearly limit settings and clearly communicate limits for his or her own life, they will do a much better job with the boy or girl in their care. This, in turn will meanan ability to teach a more appropriate behavior to the child. Better behavior will be encouraged and strengthened by: giving cues for the new behavior, giving choices instead of demands, making some changes in the situation to make it better, and ignoring some behaviors with the emphasis on emphasizing the positive. These are somewhat general in nature. In the next section, more specific strategies will be
This is a very effective way to discipline a child because this helps that child be a responsible family member and citizen of the society (Bugwadia).
All of these reinforcements and punishments are shaping the child to grow into an individual who has the right morals in life. If a parent wants their child to do well in school and clean the house they need to set a series of gradual daily goals for their child. The parent then can reward them for
Discipline is one of the basic things a child learns from his parents before he or she faces the outside world to learn more about life as a whole. Teaching this trait can depend on how the parent shows it to their child and how they explain the importance of having this trait both in and out of their homes. Misbehaving children cannot be avoided as they are curious little beings and they have a tendency to explore. But there are some parents, even teachers, who do not tolerate misbehaving and they resort to corporal punishments such as spanking to make sure the child never forgets how painful it is to misbehave as they will remember the punishment entailed to it and become more disciplined. However, not all children would understand the
Children are like flowers, if well taken care of they will bloom. If ignored or tortured, they will wither and die. Child discipline is one of the most important elements of successful parenting. Today, many people have this notion that physical abuse is in no way a solution to helping children discern between right and wrong. Since generations children have been taught the art of discipline through physical punishment. Often this approach to disciplining has resulted in two outcomes, one is where the child becomes more tolerant and is willing to adhere to what he/she has been told, or the other which more often results in children developing a sense of anguish and desire to revolt.
For many years parents have been disciplining their children in various ways. Discipline is required to train a child in doing what is right and staying away from what is wrong and dangerous. Discipline has always been used in order for the child not to grow up spoiled and choosy. Giving children what they want always is never a good thing, while teaching them that they cannot have everything teaches them patience. Discipline is very critical in a child’s life because it is a determining factor on how that child is going to turn out in the future. People will always relate bad parenting to a child’s bad behaviour and good parenting to a good behaviour. So how must parents discipline in order