Divorce Is More Common And Much More Socially Accepted Than It

Divorce is a very common word in today's society. According to the American Heritage Dictionary, "divorce is the legal dissolution of a marriage or a complete or radical severance of closely connected things"(Pickett, 2000). This dissolution of marriage has increased very rapidly in the past fifty years. In 1950 the ratio of divorce to marriage was one in every four; in 1977 that statistic became one in two. Currently one in every two first marriages results in divorce. In second marriages that figure is considerably higher, with a 67% average (National Vital Statistics Report, 2001). One critical aspect of divorce is often not taken into consideration: How it affects children. Every year 1.1 million children are affected by divorce

Divorce is viewed differently by many people. Sometimes this is due to experiences, what others have said, or looking at studies that are not always accurate. However, not everyone can have the same views about marriage ending in divorce. In the article, “No Easy Answers: Why the Popular View of Divorce Is Wrong” by Constance Ahrons she shows her view on divorce. Ahrons believes that divorce does not have long-lasting damaging effects on children (65). Divorce can affect children in the family but the way the decisions are made is what will change the way the kids are influenced.

Divorce is a rising social issue in the United States of America, but it is not a new concept. Divorce has been a social issue since at least 1867 when for every 35.9 marriages, one couple were to get a divorce (Huth, 1947). Although divorce is not a new concept, it has become more social acceptance which is raising the divorce rate over the years. Another controversial topic in divorce is when the two people divorcing have a child or children together. Approximately 150,000-200,000 children in the United States of America are affected by divorce yearly (Huth, 1947).

With a major upsurge of divorces beginning in the forties, experts argue that divorce was and still remains a social problem. From a religious perspective, historically theologians and moralists have disapproved of divorce and decreed divorce as a dysfunctional and disruptive of the stability of society , the family and the welfare of children and the well being of adults. In addition, sociologists imply that divorce is undesirable and promote familial disorganization. The increase of divorce has threatened the normativity of intact families, thus divorce defies the desirable family structure. Psychologists, including children psychologists and social workers emphasized several deleterious consequences of divorce in terms of the

“Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce,” states Jennifer Weiner, a New York Times Bestselling author, in her novel, Fly Away Home. Although Weiner has a point in voicing that a dispirited and forlorn relationship can corrupt the innocent mentality of children, it is vital that she also considers the darker, more sinister side of divorce. To put the term ‘divorce’ simply, it “is what husband and wife do together when they no longer wish to do anything together“ (Yantiss). If for any reason one may feel as if their current marriage isn’t right, isn’t working out, for them, one way to solve that problem would be divorce: the

I agree and disagree with the statement that divorce rates in the United States are increasing to an extent that the stability of the family is being threatened. I believe that a lot of divorces can happen for a number of reason and that their are many factors to consider when we think of divorce rates. We have to factor in if it was a marriage of obligation or actual love. There are marriages that are contracted, by this I mean that they got married for a green card and after a few years of the agreed upon time they get divorced and go their separate ways. There are marriages that have been arranged, there are marriages that happened at a young age, and there are common law marriages. With different types of marriages there are different reasons

Divorce is becoming all too popular in our society today. When a couple experience tough times or have one too many arguments, they automatically think divorce. Despite its prevalence couples are not prepared for it’s long, drawn out, hurtful process. Divorce does not only hurt the individuals involved, it also affects the children tremendously. While many people don’t think divorce is a bad thing. Hollywood makes divorce look cool and uneventful. When in all reality, it is disruptive. Some people would say that divorce is a lazy way out of a marriage; the cowardly thing to do when a situation presents itself. Divorce is not the only answer to marital problems, in most cases.

The article begins by explaining the 1970’s concept of a “no-fault divorce”. This was the belief that children will not be negatively impacted by divorce if both parents act civil towards one another. However, it continues on to explain the findings of Judith Wallerstein who thoroughly studied the effects of divorce on children. She was not only the first scientist to listen to what the children had to say, but also considered the long-term effects. She concluded that these effects last well on into a person's life and are clearly evident when the child reaches a point in their life where they are searching for intimacy (usually the mid 20’s). It was found that the children had grown to be scared of intimacy and commitment, fearful that they will have the same fate as their parents. Their subconscious is constantly worried that their relationships will result in the same kind of heartbreak that their parents did. For this reason, they are also less likely to want children out of fear of putting the child through what they had to go through. Additionally, they had difficulty enjoying themselves in any relationship because of the psychological impact their parents divorce had on them. They had never suspected what had happened with their parents and so in a means of self-protection, it’s as if their brains do not allow them to enjoy themselves too much because it is constantly worried that all of a sudden something bad will happen and ruin that joy. The article also mentioned that children of divorce were more likely to do drugs, have premarital sex and drop-out of highschool. It also blames society for the view it has set on marriage and divorce. It claims that today’s society has warped the meaning of marriage to be something more self-centred and glamorous than it really is. It fails to acknowledge that marriage involves procreation and the

As with most life transitions, divorce can be liberating, depressing, frustrating, or traumatic to any person who experiences it. Perhaps the most painful part on the process of divorce is when the children get involved and when they all get trapped in the situation. These children may suffer significant losses in their lives and unless the situation can be handled in a civil manner, they will become prone to the psychological torment that could affect them for the rest of their lives. The issue of divorce however is becoming more and more intense since for the past ten years the divorce rate in the United States has skyrocketed to a record high of almost fifty- percent. It is also believed

How many people get divorced a year you ask? About 877,000 people get a divorce a year. About 2,118,000 people get married a year. About half of the people who get married get a divorce. About half of the people who get a divorce have children. The 82% of children would rather their parents get a divorce than stay together because of the children. The children only say that because the parents do not know how to be kind or even be in a relationship. This is why couples should get educated and counseling

I do not believe that society should spend more effort attempting to lower divorce rates simply because I do believe that divorces are justified in many ways. It makes little sense for two people to be together if they are made unhappy by the simple presence of their spouse. This is even truer when we bring children into the situation. I speak from personal experience when I say that I understand what it feels like to be stuck in the middle of a toxic relationship. As the child, you are stuck in the middle of this unhappy relationship and the negative emotions that are created from it spill over into the child. These negative emotions follow you long after the divorce and can change your perception of marriage for the remainder of your life. It is due to this line of thinking that I agree with our text when it was written that, “children who come from divorced families are more likely to get a divorce themselves. (Carl, Pg. 221)” However, it makes sense for the parents to separate in order to spare their child from additional damages that can be accrued during this flawed relationship.

Research has said that there are few differences between a child with married parents and a child with divorced. Few kids have problems that carry on throughout their life. Four out of ten face divorce, yet of those four, one will face serious social, emotional, and psychological problems. Only one out of ten children whose parents stay together will have the same problems (Scientific American). Divorce alters lives. Children start to pull away from their parents and peers. Kids whose parents stay together usually have better grades than those who’s were divorced. There is only a small difference though. Teens start to understand divorce and blame themselves, causing them to have a low self-esteem. Teens become more aggressive, anxious, irritable, and depressed when their parents are divorced. Some teens start to behave better to try and bring their parents back together. Most children feel like their world is falling apart. Parents are supposed to make sacrifices for their kid, not the

Divorce became popular in the 60’s and 70’s when individual rights became popular. Only 20% of American women believed that parents should stay together for the children’s sake by 1977 (Whitehead). It used to be that you had to have a valid reason for getting a divorce, such as: adultery, chronic drunkenness, abuse… (Gruber). “Unilateral divorce raised annual divorce rates by 0.44 divorces per 1,000 people” (Friedburg). 34 states now allow unilateral divorce, which means a divorce is granted if only one person wants the divorce (Gruber). “Unilateral divorce laws lead to two to four additional

Compared to children of divorced families, children of non-divorced families are not exposed to custody battles, divorce settlements, etc. Children of intact families are less likely to be exposed to traumatic experiences at a young age, thus keeping their lives stable and secure, while children of divorce are more likely to have an unstable life moving forward. Because of this, children of divorce are more likely to latch onto abusive behaviors throughout adolescent years, such as drug abuse.

Divorce is becoming more and more common. People can marry and divorce however many times they would like. It’s a different world compared to fifty years ago. Years ago many people didn’t get a divorce they