Divorced Fathers Homework

Cookston, Jeffrey. "Six Obstacles to Father Involvement-and How to Overcome Them." Greater Good. N.p., n.d. Web. 12 Nov. 2015. .

Although single parenthood is on the rise in homes today, children still often have a father role in their life. It does not matter who the part is filled by: a father, uncle, older brother, grandfather, etc...; in almost all cases, those relationships between the father (figure) and child have lasting impacts on the youth the rest of their lives. In “I Wanted to Share My Father’s World,” Jimmy Carter tells the audience no matter the situation with a father, hold onto every moment.

What is a fathers “responsibility”? Is it to nurture, or is it to provide, maybe even he could do both? In the novel Your Fathers, Where Are They, and the Prophets, Do They Live Forever? Dave Eggers, describes trivial emotional and mental repercussions that occur when there is an absence of a father figure. Sons and daughters alike, any disconnection with a meaningful individual, supposedly relatable in blood, would bring question and concern. A fathers’ relationship and support can be beneficial to any child’s growth. Giving children a solid basis of what kinds of responsibilities go along with being an adult and showing them compassion individualism and what it means to “be a man” is important.

Some scholars have argued the notion that fathers are important contributors to their children and adolescents’ psychosocial development (Mandara, Murray, & Joyner, 2005). According to Allgood, Beckert, and Peterson (2012), researchers are beginning to understand the importance of examining children’s perspectives and the relationships and levels of involvement children have with their fathers.

The data was collected in the Netherlands. “...highly educated divorced fathers were better able to maintain high-quality relationships with their children than divorced fathers who had a lower level of education” (Kalmijn, 932) meaning the upper-middle class fathers have a better chance of a relationship with their child than the lower-class. The Netherlands divorce rate is similar to other Western European countries but lower than in the United States. In 1998, arrangements for after divorce agreements changed in the Netherlands, and ensured in more frequent visits of children to divorced fathers. Gender roles in the Netherlands are becoming more considerably democratic in the past few decades and is now more equitable than the European average. However most of the respondents that were analyzed, experienced their parents divorce before these changes occurred.

According to the U.S. Census, one in three children, or approximately fifth teen million, are growing up without their father. This is what I would consider an epidemic because the numbers continue to rise yearly. With the numbers continuing to grow, American children continue to suffer. It is critical that a father is positively active in their child or children’s lives because father’s provide a sense of safety, mothers cannot teach a child everything that a child needs to know, and households gain balance when the father is present. I will now better explain.

Throughout this entire I have learned so much about men, and the variety of behaviors they possess in different social contexts. Out of all the ideas I learned I found one extremely important and interesting, father-child relationship. Specifically, the differences between a traditional and an involved dad. I always knew that not every parenting style was the same among fathers, and how some were more involved than others. I never thought there was a category of these two types of fathers. After breaking down each category, a lot of it made so much sense. The most important thing between the two was the emphasis on how the traditional dad tends to deflect the responsibility of parenting, while the involved dad has a committed

here's no question that fathers do play an important role in their children's lives. A father's presence and involvement can be as crucial to a child's development as is a mother's. Fathers also play role in to child's relationship with other and the way they behave. In Wil Haygood's essay "Underground Dads", he writes on this topic. His essay helps readers to understand that father or father figure are necessary for a children.

James Baldwin once said, “If the relationship of father to son could really be reduced to biology, the whole earth would blaze with the glory of fathers and sons”. A father has a responsibility to teach his son how to live morally and face the hardships of life. However, the distant father who was never involved in his son’s life is a common theme seen throughout literature. A father’s role in shaping his son is both impactful and pivotal. Often boys will grow up to be just like their dads. While super heroes and famous sports stars can be seen as key role models for boys growing up, they don’t compare to effect a father can have as a role model. When thinking about the choices people make it 's important to go back and figure out what lead to that decision.

The video/ article was called "Breaking The Cycle of Absentee Father". The video is about a nonprofit organization for African American males so that they can be better father figures for their children. The man who started this is named Sheldon Smith. He created this organization because he wants to bring up the low percentage of father figures in Chicago. This organization works by having meetings and helping these men become better fathers through talking about problems and how they can fix them

A man from Chicago, Illinois named Sheldon Smith started a program to help fathers and give them the needed skills to successfully raise their children. Smith speaks from experience when he says that not having a father-figure while growing up made him the person that he was when he was “17, he was charged with robbery and went to prison.” Ever since he started this program, he has helped “more than 200 young fathers” by “[teaching] life skills, such as financial literacy.”

The chapter starts with a story about a man in a church who wanted to start a group for divorced people. The pastor said it is a great idea. He asked the other man whether he would like a special section in the auditorium just for divorced people. The man said that would be good. The pastor said that he would have a section for liars, wife-beaters, alcoholics, and others. The man got the message. A healing church must resist the urge to categorize people. A pastor could play the gender or race card, pit the old verses the young, or rich verses the poor. Each could have their own section. “Yet, one of the first, giant steps away from love is to view a person as a representative or a statistic-something other than the unique individual God created.”

Father has been viewed as presented in a variety of different images to describe the script that they have been fulfilling. They have variously been presented as, normal observer, breadwinner, sex role model, and nurturing the most severe trauma that a child can suffer. The loss of parents causes so many problems that a deprived child faces, among those problems the important problem is the effects on academic performance of children. Although father absence did not seem to have consistent effects on children's intellectual, which are “more difficult to change than non-cognitive skills and behaviors,” there is consistent evidence that father absence lowers children's educational attainment and decreases the likelihood that they will graduate from high school. Workers without high school diplomas experience very high levels of unemployment and make less money than more educated workers, so failing to finish high school places young people at a major disadvantage in life.

A man needs to have good authority while being selfless. Even though a father and mother may get divorced it is crucial that a father makes an effort to stay connected with the life of their child because men have a connection with children that a mother will never have. While this will show difficulty because of all the ugliness in the divorce. The result of this decision the fathers are still optimistic in the situation, but it is up to the fathers if they want to see it. Whitehead speaks about how fathers need to make sure men are still in the lives of their children despite what their ex wives say about them. She encourages that the men need to love the children, granted they are divorced because men do not always need women to show them

Divorce is a plague that is destroying numerous families across the United States of America. Sadly, when husbands and wives divorce, the children are often caught directly in the middle. Throughout the years divorce has been becoming more and more common. In the 1920's it was a rare find to know a person whom had been divorced, today it is a rarity not to know of one who has been, or will be divorced. Divorce has numerous effects on the structures of families, and many devastating effects on the children that must experience it, although sometimes necessary, divorce radically changes the lives of adolescents and adults alike.