Do Kids: Do They Get Things That They Want?

(Baumrind 1966). I have come to realize that my parents and grandparents had this same parenting style. I have realized that I am repeating the cycle and I must break the cycle because if I do not them my children will continue this same cycle as an authoritarian parent instead of an authoritative parent. I would never want to be a permissive parent. This parenting style you are not teaching your children structure. “There are not held accountable for their actions”. (Coon & Mitterer, 2016). As parents we must teach our children there are consequences for our actions. If you do not apply any boundaries or rules as they get older they will feel like the rules do not apply to them. “Permissive parents will cause their children to be dependent, immature, and misbehave frequently.” (Coon & Mitterer, 2016). I believe some parents are like this because they want to be their child’s friend. It is okay to be their friend but there must be some type of guidelines in place.

Children have a lot to say and parents have to remember to stop and listen to their child and then maybe offer suggestions and ideals. Recognize how the child feels and acknowledge the flaws the child has. Nobody is perfect. Realizing the imperfections of the child helps a parent better understand the type of encouragement and guidance the child might need to become a more productive adolescent.

Parents come home from a long day at work tired and agitated. When agitation gets the best of them, anything a child may do could possibly send them over the edge. A child may be loquacious and that makes their parent/guardian upset. Instead of being pragmatic towards the child, the parent takes all of the stress from work out on the child. Even though the parent may not mean anything of the words being said, they still affect the child. After the parent is able to calm down and realize yelling isn’t the answer, they talk to their child. Parents apologize for what they did and say they overreacted. Sometimes a parent feels compunction for yelling at their child and will bribe them with a toy or food to make them feel better. To conclude, each and every parent is able to relate to yelling at their children when they don’t deserve

Another situation in society today is that kids are expected to follow in their parents footsteps. Some parents that own companies expect their children to take over one day without ever asking the child’s thoughts on the idea. An example of this situation is from the movie "Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer". There is an elf named Hermey. Like all other elves in the North-Pole, Hermey is expected to make toys for all the children around the world. There is one problem; Hermey doesn't want to make toys. Hermey wants to be a dentist. After hearing this, the head elf gets very angry at Hermey. Hermey is known as a misfit due to his choice and he later runs away to not have to make toys anymore and to learn more about being a dentist. It is important to always ask your children what they think of certain things and what they want in life instead of just expecting or assuming what they want without their consent. Expectations put a lot of pressure on kids and it would just be easier on them to let them make their own decisions (but still guide them in the right path).

This is not to say that the parents are bad parents or stupid, they just do not realize that children can pick up on things at a young age as they watch them. As parents they should monitor what they do around their children, so that the child does not have to learn bad habits. If the children does happen to do something bad they should take the necessary course of action to make sure that the child knows that the act is bad and should tell them the right course of action. Showing your children the way of life and how it should be lived could positively affect their growth as they mature into teenagers and eventually adults. Now I know everyone is not perfect and we may fail to be a perfect role model, but at least try to keep the negativity to a bare minimum around the child. Parental guidance is always necessary in life. As parents you have experienced the things that the child may be going through and can relate to them on matters because you have been there. I believe if more parents were to talk to their children and try to blend it into being their child’s best friend the problem with aggression can seize itself because every learned action can be unlearned.

Parenting is not one of the easiest jobs in the world to have; you either are responsible enough to parent or you're not responsible enough.You have to be able to raise a child from birth and teach he/she all the necessary tools to succeed in life. As said in The Blackwell Encyclopedia of Social Work, “Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood” (245). All parents will raise their children in different ways, whether they are very strict or they’re lenient, others can be easy going and strict depending on the situation and the way they group up will shape them into who they become as adults as shown in The Glass Castle with Jeannette Walls and her parents.

Some of us parents take it for granted when our kids talk so much, ask so many questions, or clown around all day long. We tend to forget how there are some parents that don’t get that right away.

Children have the attitude that their parents should be able to work through and solve any

“Spoiled children display a lack of consideration for others, demand to have their own way, have difficulty delaying gratification, and are prone to temper outbursts” (McIntosh). Parents shouldn’t spoil their children as spoiling children causes dangerous results. In “The Veldt” by Ray Bradbury the parents spoil their kids that later wish that the parents were dead. Parents don’t allow their children to do certain things, following this they wish death upon their parents. George and Lydia, parents of spoiled children Peter and Wendy, deny their children access to a magical nursery that transforms and does whatever the children imagine. This causes the children to wish that their parents were dead, which is then fulfilled by the nursery. In

Living in a household with western style parenting, I disagree with Amy Chua. Yes, your parents want you to do better but most do not run and blame it on the school or school system.

Parents, most of people have them and as teens we think they are unreasonable when they are just trying to protect their kids. In "My Favorite Chaperone" by Jean Davies Okimoto Maya's parents are unreasonable with Maya because teen life is different in America than where her parents grew up. In the text Maya was playing around with boys after her gymnastics practice. Maya's father came and saw her messing around with boys and gave her the cold shoulder. That was unreasonable because she was playing with her friends not doing anything bad and she got in major trouble. While Maya's dad was giving her the cold shoulder, Maya's mom broke her leg and couldn't work and do anything around the house. So Maya stepped in and did mama's job and cooked

Parenting is like taking on a jobof its own, it's a job like no other where u have to offer everything from silly giggles and heart-warming smiles to harsh attitudes and angry tears. Yet not everyone is cut out to be a parent and take on such a responsibility, some people are still stuck in a habit of only thinking of themselves.

But as soon as children start feeling that their parents care too much, they try to get back at them and do just what their parents don't want them to do. On the other hand kids who face lack of freedom may end up turning into introverts afraid to speak to other people or not as social (which is not a bad thing though).

that they expect their children to obey without question. They penalize behavior harshly, frequently with

Another time that shows this type of parenting is when teens ask their parents for money and are given what they want without earning a bit of it. Taking the same child and mother from the previous story, she asks her mom if she can have money to go to a basketball game out at school. Now, I know for a fact that you don’t spend $20 at a high school basketball game unless you are eight and your mom gave you the money and you buy five suckers, a pop, nachos, 8 laffy taffy’s, and a hot