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In my country, the Philippines, thousands of women suffer from domestic violence (Raposas, 2008). Women suffer in silence to keep the family together. Violence is unreported due to embarrassment, and the thought of it being "normal" and that nothing could be done anyway. Research have confirmed that "most abused women are not passive victims but rather adopt active strategies to maximize their safety and that of their children (Koss, et al, 1991, p. 59).

Men in this society come from a traditional position of power, dominance and privilege (NCBI, 2004). Male dominance and control can still be seen in the modern times. It is easy to see how the women in this society are at risks for being abused. Philippines is the only country in the world …show more content…

I have lived in the U.S. for about 15 years and I would say I have acculturated to the dominant culture in the United States. I have adopted to the Western culture, although I stayed distinct, and retained some of my original culture's traditions. I was a victim of domestic violence and I have decided to leave the marriage after 4 years. Concern for my child, lack of emotional and financial dependence, fear of retaliation of my batterer, and the hope that he will change kept me in the relationship. The cycle of violence (Creative Communications Group, 2015) which are tension building (abuse happens), making-up (the abuser promise that it will not happen again) and calm period (the abuser acts like the abuse never happened) just kept repeating. Leaving the relationship was a process for me - denial, self-blame, and suffering before I could finally realize the severity of the abuse. Identifying my resources for safety and protection, securing a job and a place to live for me and my daughter, were all planned before fleeing. I feared for my life for retaliation of my abuser, nevertheless it didn't stop me. I filed for annulment and sole custody of my daughter and it was granted. I was only 24. I recovered completely from this horrible experience. Moving to the U.S. with my daughter changed my life and helped me move on. Everyday, I am grateful for another chance in

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