Domestic Violence - Why Women Stay

2831 WordsMay 9, 200512 Pages
Why Do Women Stay? Domestic violence is a serious and complex plague of society that affects all, but women make up the largest number of victims in most case studies. In the United States alone, "1.5 million women are raped or physically assaulted by an intimate partner each year. More than 500,000 women victims require medical treatment, and 324,000 victims are pregnant at the time of assault" (Berlinger, "Taking" 42). Numbers like these show how intense the situation of domestic violence truly is. "Two women a week are killed by a current or former partner and domestic violence accounts for 22% of all recorded violent crimes" (Jamil 70). Domestic violence takes such a large number in percentages regarding violent crimes, yet often is…show more content…
She is looking for a man who promises everything, delivers nothing, and possibly is physically controlling. In the beginning of time animals and humans only chose a mate for procreation and it was not until the last thousand years that humans would choose a life partner. The only problem with dating is that people put on a facade and the true self takes time to get to know. In a domestic violence relationship there may be months or even years of psychological and emotional abuse that might start off as jealousy, which many women find flattering, but will escalate to name calling or making her feel guilty over some uncontrollable situations (Marvin 16). Over time this will crush what little is left of her central ego making her feel responsible and no longer in control. This characterization of verbal abuse and sometimes mild physical aggression is the first in a three stage pattern in the "Cycle Theory of Violence" called the "Tension Building Stage," (Celani 70). This is the longest phase in the cycle. "The male abuser sees his female partner as a rejecting object, perhaps because she failed to meet his (infantile) needs… Now he has the power to actively revenge himself against the object that he feels is frustrating him," (70). Many women can sense when her partner has become increasingly agitated and become more nurturing or compliant to
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