This book evaluation explores and highlights Dr. Daniel Siegel’s interpersonal view of a well-rounded ‘mindsight.’ This includes the importance of compassion, mindfulness, and a wide window of tolerance for emotions when being self-aware and self-accepting. With a healthy mindsight, anyone can overcome past hardships, traumatic experiences, and present fears of uncertainty to become a better, self-loving individual who embraces reality. Siegel’s book utilizes research supported theories along with first-hand accounts to assist readers in accepting and altering their own personal hardships and mindsets in ways that promote transformation and growth. This book evaluation of Dr. Daniel Siegel’s “Mindsight” will provide insight into …show more content…
In order to have a well-rounded mindsight, one must possess the three capabilities of openness, observation, and objectivity. These three characteristics make up the tripod that supports an effective and efficient mindsight, thus leading to a better understanding of oneself (Siegel, 2010, p. 48). Openness refers to recognizing antagonistic thoughts and negating their effect; observation is the ability of self-recognition even in times of distraction; lastly, objectivity is the ability to not let a certain feeling preoccupy or consume our thoughts. In the past, I have struggled with these three characteristics that have prevented me from developing a healthy mindsight. Throughout high school, I battled with extreme self-confidence issues, and found it difficult especially to be open and objective with myself. Consumed by these unhealthy thoughts, I would allow my own restrictive judgements of myself to devour my life and dominate every aspect of it. Unbeknownst to me, I was enabling these judgements to control my life, rather than realizing that I was only battling myself. As I grew older, I came to realize that learning to be objective and dismissive to unwanted and detrimental thoughts was the key to overcoming my issues. Building on this idea of dismissing unhealthy thoughts of oneself in order to promote positive transformation, a person has to be able to be compassionate when reflecting on who
Often times, many forget to be kind to one another. When we are performing out our daily activities we forget to think about other people. Individuals can be naturally selfish or self- centered. There are multiple obstacles working against our being kind to one another. Our own success being one of them. We must remember to put ourselves in the shoes of the other person, in order to understand the issues in front of us. It is not easy to become detached ourselves from how we usually are nor how we are born, but it is imperative that we try to ensure a brighter future.
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss (...) These people have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen” (Elisabeth Kubler-Ross). Compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern make mankind beautiful, but it also makes it defenseless . When one has concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others, he takes sacrifices, risks, and lives with uncertainty. When man is compassionate, he lives a vulnerable life. Love and compassion bring out the beauty in mankind, but they can also bring out its weaknesses. Because of man’s compassion, he
Everyone is born into this world with a sense of innocence, completely oblivious to the cruelties of the world. However, as humans grow up and reach early- adulthood, they begin to realize the realities of this world, all that is real and all that is, in fact, a figment of the imagination. As people learn that it is truly impossible to stay hidden from the harsh realities of adulthood for their entire life, they also learn that it is impossible to shield others from these truths as well. They learn that although they may not be able to protect themselves from life’s misfortunes, they must perceiver, move forward, and not hold anyone back in their tracks. Just as all humans eventually learn to accept and move past life’s various misfortunes,
During the following assignment I am going to explore how I myself, through the studying of counselling skills and theory, have developed my understanding of self and how I apply this within whatever environment I am placed in.
Brene Brown, a researcher in social interactions, takes an unexpected perspective in her ted talk called “The Power of Vulnerability”. She starts out her speech by telling a joke and explaining her education and experience in social work. A quote her professor put on the board led her to research the connection among people. However, this led to many other things such as shame, fear, and the most prominent factor, vulnerability. She realized that for connection to occur we must be seen completely for who we are. This led to 6 years of research, including hundreds of stories and thousands of pieces of data. Brown wrote a book about her findings but she felt that something was still missing. It turned out the missing component was worthiness. To delve deeper into worthiness, she did a study on people who think they are worthy and people who don’t. People who thought they were worthy had these four things in common, courage, compassion, connection, and vulnerability. Brown realized at this point that she needed to understand vulnerability thoroughly by facing it herself. A therapist helped brown face vulnerability head on for a year straight, and in the end, she potentially won her life back. Brown stated “…vulnerability is the core of shame, of fear and of worthiness, but it is also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love…” After facing her fear, she knew that vulnerability was the core of not only fear, but also happiness. Brown goes on to say that we
People are challenged with many of life’s obstacles every day leaving them emotionally damaged and left feeling helpless. How one copes with these feelings depends on how he/she was raised in terms of solving problems. Success must occur in physical, social, emotional, moral, and intellectual aspects in order for one to achieve his/her full potential. Through the deprivation of emotional and social support in one’s early years, levels of self-esteem are lowered; one is then prevented from achieving his/her full potential. Over time, the accumulation of traumatic experiences can lead an individual to overwhelming guilt and depression; this unhealthy state of mind contributes to lower self-esteem. In order to reach one’s full potential, he/she must meet every need leading up to self-actualization; lacking self-confidence prohibits a person from becoming the best version of his/herself. Richard Wagamese’s Medicine Walk explores how childhood experiences and relationships, whether positive or negative, fundamentally shape an individual; later on in one’s life, healing may allow relationships to be mended, allowing people to become better versions of themselves.
Compassion can change lives and it can change
Dalai Lama once said “Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.” But how does one learn how to love or feel compassion for others? People all around the world wonder why the feel compassion for others. Most people feel compassion because it helps them understand how others are feeling so they can respond appropriately to a certain situation. Barbara Lazear Ascher, a former attorney and a current author, focused on compassion and how it is developed by people. Ascher’s purpose is to show that compassion is not something that you are born with, it is something that you have to learn and practice throughout your lifetime. A way to practice compassion is when you see homeless. Ascher’s reaches her
I am currently a Behavior Health Technician (BHT) at Children Hospital of the King’s Daughters (CHKD). My role is to provide guidance and support patients with acute mental health and suicide ideation. I relatively enjoy my job and often find it very easy to build strong client-worker relationships. Before a recent event as well as other current life experiences, I was very confident of myself. Even though I did not always apply what I was under the assumption was intrinsic self -confidence. I have always believed in my heart; “I can accomplish anything I put my mind to.” However, recently indicative of several challenging experiences my philosophy was put to the test. In this paper, I will be discussing a particular event that made me reevaluate my impartial subjective thinking and its potential fallacy.
In this world we have people who are successful and others, who aren’t. But what's make them different from each other? What if I should tell you, that you can be successful by just changing your mind? I don’t mean by just thinking positive, I mean changing the way of viewing thing into a growth mindset. Don't know what a growth mindset is, well you should read a book that will change your way of thinking to become a better you and even successful. Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck, explains how there are two different types of mindset. These mindset plays a big role on who’s successful and why. It is not rocket science, the book just explain to us on thing we might have never thought about and bring it to better light. This book can change everything for you.
The change in perspective of a situation can revitalize the possibilities of what you can do. Mr. O'Leary opened my eyes to how I need to remind myself to always strive for the best version of myself, so that I can lead others into the
At the same time, we have a need for positive self-regard - to develop a sense of trust in the accuracy and reliability of our own inner experienced, it is on this we must depend if we are to become independent from and able to make good decisions about life and how we are to be in it.
Do you think others share the same experiences, emotions, and thoughts that make us human? John Langan has proven that I’m not alone in my own insecurity in his article; “The Power Within.” Langan explains different obstacles, responsibilities, and self-help situations that anyone can personally relate to. “I feel in my heart of hearts that nothing is going to stop me. It’s my life, and I’m going to work hard and respect myself and gain success and happiness” (Langan90).
An untrained empath may feel discomfort in reading this. Yet, it is significant that he realizes his limitations, especially when it involves emotions like fear, deep sadness, intense rate, and deep passion. As an empath, he must understand where he draws the line for his own sanity. Furthermore, he must realize the limitations that hinder his desire to help other people. At times, he may decide not to cross the boundaries. At some other times, he decides to push ahead. By recognizing the difference, it becomes the turning point to either keep oneself whole or help other people.
Initial empirical work has shown that self-compassion is positively and significantly related to psychological health (e.g., happiness, optimism, positive affect, wisdom, personal Initiative) beyond personality (1). Self-compassion appeared to have an impact on well-being as well for the general population (2), older adults (8) or adolescents (9). Self-compassion may be a useful resource to protect caregivers from stress (10), and may be applied in different clinical settings as depression (11,12), shame (13) or social anxiety (14). Self-compassion is investigated as a resilience factor in situations of traumatic stress (15) or psychological vulnerability (16). It may be seen as a buffer when facing distressing events (17). Recently, intervention