Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option. ~ Dr. Maya Angelou
I am a firm proponent of the belief that, “we train people how to treat us.” Clear and concise boundaries must be established to ensure that you do not end up emotionally bankrupted.
Referencing our previous bank account analogy, recall the imbalance of withdrawals and deposits. If you are constantly making withdrawals and are not making deposits, you are going to end up with insufficient funds. When you unselfishly give, give, and give and there is not an equal exchanged; there is no equal balance. If you do not replenish, you are going to end up depleted. You must be specific about what you what you will or will not be willing to accept in
your…show more content… Setting boundaries is a way of caring for myself. It doesn’t make me mean, selfish, or uncaring (just) because I don’t do things your way. I care about me, too. ~ Christine Morgan
By creating healthy boundaries, you are opening yourself up to more possibilities to expand upon your passions and to pursue your purpose. You may reach a compromise but it should not be at the sake of jeopardizing your freedom, obligations, peace, finances, health, and/or happiness. Do not abandon your own dreams in an effort to be nice or helpful. When you set restrictions, the people that truly matter will understand and respect those parameters.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. ~ Charles Swindoll
First and of the utmost most importance, is imperative to ensure that you have made yourself a priority in your own life. When you have established clear and definite limitations, you will model how others should respect and treat you, by how you treat yourself. By exhibiting the valuable characteristics of self-respect and self-worth, you avail yourself the ability to genuinely love and to be truly loved by