Dysfunctional Conflict Cycles

Listening to your partner can save your marriage. If you and your partner have an agreement give each other time to cool down. It is important to fight constructively. There is no marriage free of conflict. Conflicts can and will arise from time to time it is to be expected. Conflict can stem from finances, children, and jobs. It is best not to point finger swat the other person. In your marriage you have to be

Interpersonal conflict happens in every relationship. It is inevitable when two or more people disagree on something. Conflict is a result of a misunderstanding because of a miscommunication. In the movie Hitch (Mordaunt & Tadross, 2005) we can notice an interpersonal conflict between two people due to a lack of communication. Communication is a key role in any relationship, whether platonic or an intimate relationship. When starting a relationship it is primordial to be able to communicate effectively from the beginning in order to avoid any conflict. However “people are usually cautious about what they tell each other and how they say it, and they make a conscious effort to present positive

The dance of forgiveness is six steps to be transformed from being a selfish self-absorbed human being. To being a person full of grace and accepting of everyone. The first step is truth telling. This helps build trust between people groups and starts on the path to a relationship. The second step is acknowledging anger. A person should not try to hide their emotions even if it may be an emotion of anger. To get rid of it is by bringing it out in the light and praying for God to help you with the anger. The third step is having concern for others. One of the ways of understanding someone else is to think how life would be in their shoes. Having a genuine concern for someone besides yourself can change a person’s, heart. The fourth step is recognizing, remembering, and repenting. As humans, we need to recognize what we have done wrong and not pass off blame to others and repent for what we have done. The fifth step is

When you are in a relationship, arguments or disagreements can arise. They can often trigger strong emotions that lead to hurtful words and uneasiness. If these conflicts are not resolved in a healthy way, resentment and a dissolved relationship could follow. However, when they are resolved in a proper manner, it could promote growth between the couple and fortify the bonds of their relationship (Conflict Resolution Skills).

Handling conflict is a skill which can be learned. It requires practice, discipline and self-control. In the midst of conflict, most people forget the overall goal in addressing the conflict: Having your partner understand your feelings and resolving the disagreement. The more a couple can keep this goal in mind the less likely either will engage in criticism, yelling or name-calling. These behaviors only fuel the conflict (Managing Conflict in Your Relationship,

Avoiding typically leads to unsatisfying relationships, while avoiding isn’t always an atrocious idea. Accommodating is a lose-win it occurs when you allow others to have their way rather than asserting your point of view. If accommodation is a genuine act of kindness, generosity, or love, then the chances are favorable leading to enhancing the relationship. People from high-context, or collectivist backgrounds are likely to regard avoidance and accommodating as face-saving. Competing is a win-lose, and appears when there is a high level of self concern, and a low level of concern for others. Direct aggression arises when a communicator expresses a criticism or demand that threatens the face of another. Passive aggression occurs when a communicator expresses hostility in an obscure or manipulative way. Compromising is a lose-lose, and presents both parties a minimal fix of what they desire, although they both sacrifice part of their goals. Compromising actually negotiates a solution where both lose something, while leaving both parties

Places value on individualism, self-assertion, and competition. Not common in cultures that prioritize cooperation, keep others from failing, finding areas of agreement

As Eilerman (2006) explains, “a person knows there is a conflict but decides not to deal with it by ignoring, sidestepping, being non-committal or withdrawing from the issue or interaction. It puts parties in a lose/lose relationship where a choice is made not to address the feelings, views or goals of either party” (para. 1). In reality, though, the person may truly value the relationship but is simply avoiding the conflict because they might fear that engaging in an argument or dispute will end in harm to the relationship; so instead, the person simply avoids the confrontation altogether as to not risk any damage to the relationship. On the other hand, “avoidance and lack of overt conflict may indicate that the participants are unable to reach an agreement and that they will gradually drift apart” (Hocker & Wilmot, 2014, p. 150). Still, while most situations of conflict aren’t comfortable, all avoidance does it prolong the

First and foremost, Jesus tells us tells to forgive. Jesus suffered, died, and resurrected for us to have forgiveness. The wine drunk at Passover represented the pouring out of his blood when he was crucified on the cross on Good Friday, which he spoke about in Matthew 5:28 (New Revised Standard Version with the Apocrypha) saying, “for this is my blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins.” Forgiveness is one of the Ten Commandments in the bible just like loving thy neighbor. No one sin is superior to the other, so how can we not forgive others when God forgives us every day for multiple different reasons. Unforgiveness stands between our relationships with God because we are all sinners and through Grace, God has forgiven us and see us all as righteous. Matthew 6:14-15 (New Revised Standard Version with the Apocrypha) says, “14. For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly father will also forgive you. 15. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” When we harbor bad feelings, we hold onto bitterness that can cause us to have negative thoughts and interactions with others bring damage to one’s relationship. These types of behaviors will not get us in the kingdom, but it will open the door to our lives to the devil who wants to come in and cause havoc. Forgiving one that has cheated or wronged you is empowering. When we forgive those who have did us wrong it gives us the power back. Forgiveness unbinds one from the effects of transgression and will open the door for the Lord to deal with the situation you are dealing with even if you’re struggling with forgiving

According to Hess and Cameron (2006), forgiveness is an attribute of leadership; he also state that forgiveness is a fundamental human virtue, meaning it represents a moral and spiritual goodness in the human experience. Furthermore, it is widely understood that within organizations, conflicts are inevitable at one point or another. Therefore, conflict management resolution structures are required to be implemented to enable success. Forgiveness started when God sacrificed his son Jesus to cleanse us of our sins. The gospel teaches us that “If you forgive men of their trespasses your Heavenly Father will forgive also you: but if you do not forgive men of their sins your Heavenly Father will not forgive

When the opposite sex does not understand the other on a certain issue, problems and disagreements arise. When one person has disentanglement in views, everyone involved is affected because people tend to feel misconstrued in what they believe is right. This is a significant problem because, if men and women cannot understand each other, the essence of communication is lost on many levels, in terms of the work place, love, life, and as well as affairs. Miscommunication in relationships is often a result of breakups and unhealthy relationships. Women are often much more affected by the ways that men communicate and resolve issues. Fighting in relationships is a representation of not fully understanding your mate. People in relationships argue all the time and those arguments are usually based on a misunderstanding. Women often say that they do not understand men, and men don't understand women. They try to understand deeper, rather then remaining at the surface of the problem.

Forgiveness is a process. You can not simply wave your hand in the air in the sign of a cross, and suddenly all is forgiven. Once the need for forgiveness in a situation makes itself known, you will note that the action of forgiveness falls down like a set of dominoes: pain, frustration, and trauma run deep. An attempt to forgive one thing or person, often leads to a plethora of unresolved conflict within your mind for many other unjustifiable wrongs that have been committed against you. But the outcome of forgiveness begins and ends with releasing the ego and this overwhelming sense of youness. Like a rip tide, one must surrender and lay in the cosmic energy, the push and pull of the forgiveness process. Fear not that you will be lost in an ocean of rage, when the flow of forgiveness has released, swim diagonally across the tide, to a shore of mental stability and joy. The exercise of forgiveness itself will make you strong. Learn the art of surrender, acceptance, and letting go. This is the first inner-standing of how to

The text book describes conflict as “a process that begins when one party perceives another party has or is about to negatively affect something the first party cares about.” There are different views on dealing with conflict. There is the traditional view that seeks to eliminate any conflict and the interaction group that seek to use conflict as a stepping stone to greater things. Conflict can arise in any situation and, following the managed conflict view, it is not necessarily something to be push under the table but something to

Interpersonal conflict is described as “an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent people who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, or interference in the achievement of their goals (Beebe 221). As with many other things, people have developed some myths about it. One of the interpersonal conflict myths is that it indicates a relationship of poor quality. This is, however, incorrect because the conflict can instead demonstrate the complete opposite. An example would be when a couple is arguing about what to eat for dinner. Such a disagreement can show that there is a supportive environment between the two of them. Both people feel comfortable enough to voice their differing opinions without the fear of being negatively

Conflict can occur in a marriage when one spouse needs or desire are mismatched to the other