Education And Parenting Has Changed Us

- While children are influenced by many things, there are no stronger influences that that of their parents as they are usually their child’s first playmates and while the world expands with each passing year, parental influence is still one of the greatest factors in determining the ways in which a child will grow and develop.

Throughout the years parenting has changed in many ways. Some of these changes are positive and some have been negative and have been corrected. Parenting continues to change even today from the methods in the past based on new studies and known information about development. Different styles occur over time that separate that era from another. The 1960’s and 1970’s are no exception. Parenting continued to change in the 60’s and 70’s as similar to how they have always and will continue to change. Parenting in the 60’s and 70’s was unique due to little research, lack of physical restrictions, social trends, and views of kids’ capabilities.

Ever since I was a young child, my parents always told me to try my best in school, they always told me this for the reason that they never had the opportunity to have a good job because they never finished school. This event is shaping me to care a lot regarding my education. In addition to that, another event that has shaped me to become the person I am today is that since my parents don’t have good paying jobs they have to work hard to take care of me and my siblings this event has caused me to become a hard working person and to seize all opportunities to live a good life because I don’t want to struggle like my parents.

Asian immigrants raised their children on the values of filial piety. Filial piety is based on Confucianism ideology which is one showing respect to one’s parent. American-born children are raised with two values which are Confucianism and the American values. The American values allow an individual to make their decisions either in their career, marriage, or lifestyle. Unlike, the American values, Confucianism decisions are decided by the parents, which have created tension in both generations. The immigrant parents stress the importance of a proper education to their children because the parents did not have the opportunity for education. Education was a privilege meaning only the families that had money could send their children to school. The parents began working at a young age to support their family and maintaining the household was more important than education. The immigrant parents are motivated by the “American Dream” instead of a financial benefit, the better the education and the employment, the more opportunities that would be offered. A person without a proper education would not succeed in life compared to the ones that have an education.

In “The Shock of Education: How College Corrupts” Alfred Lubrano uses his personal experience with college education and his parents to come up with the statement: “Every bit of learning takes you further from your parents". In his writing, he goes over how his eyes were first opened to the idea that school could bring you further from your parents, when he read a book titled “Hunger of Memory: The Education of Richard Rodriguez”, where the writer was quoted as saying: “Home life is in the now, school life exists on an altogether different lane, with an eye towards the future”. Alfred’s belief throughout his article is that school brings you to a reality that separates and distances you from your parents and home-life.

Western parents allow their children to to accept that fact that they got a bad grade on some assignment, while Chinese parents make their children correct whatever they did wrong. Chinese parents order their children to get exceptional grades, while Western parents can only ask their children to do well. Chua says, “If a child came home with an A- on test, a Western parent will most likely praise the child, but the Chinese mother will gasp in horror and ask what went wrong”(Chua 307). Chinese parents believe their children are capable of doing anything as long as they work hard at achieving it. Western parents can only help their children do well in school by trying to prepare them, and not pushing too hard. Chinese parents think that their children owe them everything and not the other way around. This is most likely because Chinese parents work very hard at raising capable children, and that they have worked hard to make them productive in life. Therefore, the parents expect much in return. Chua says “my husband Jed actually has

In “The Shock of Education: How College Corrupts” Alfred Lubrano uses his personal experience with college education and his parents to come up with the statement that “Every bit of learning takes you further from your parents". In his writing, he goes over how his eyes were first opened to the idea that school could bring you further from your parents, when he read a book titled “Hunger of Memory: The Education of Richard Rodriguez”, where the writer was quoted as saying “Home life is in the now, school life exists on an altogether different lane, with an eye towards the future.” Alfred’s belief throughout his article is that school brings you to a reality that separates and distances you from your parents and home-life.

Not only does education and parenting plays a huge role in determining someone future but where they live. The other Wes Moore book is a prime example on how two people with the same name and lived in identical neighborhoods could grew up to be either successful or imprisoned because of all the personal choices they have made. It is important to try to receive the best education and follow positive people because you never know what path you may end up going

Bruni quotes the President of the National Center on Education, Marc Tucker, “ Our students have an inflated sense of their academic prowess.They don’t expect to spend much time studying, but they confidently expect good grades and marketable degrees”(par.25). From a young age we need to teach these children you succeed from hard work. Many parents have been exempting their children from test and are expecting them to learn? In order for kids to be able to learn what they need to, parents need to allow them to deal with the difficult times.

Parents believe their kids are too young and immature to make a decision by them selves, therefore they pressure their kids into attending college believing it is the best thing for them. The author does not agree with these actions and thinks that students should decide for themselves whether or not they want to continue their education. If students feel that college is not for them, they should not stay there just because somebody expects them to. Furthermore, she states that if everyone got a higher education everybody would be on the same intellectual level, and there would be no difference in people.

A person cannot simply escape the responsibility of tomorrow by ignoring it today. Not only does the present flow into the future, it decides the future. Because of my knowledge of this simple fact, I have been aware throughout high school that my academic decisions and extra-curricular activities will shape the person that I will become. My choice of academics and extra-curricular activities have instilled what I need to confidently and comfortably step into the real world.

Children need guidance to become successful in life. One exceptional man wrote about the wrong type of parenting that causes children to be unproductive. In this article, he talks about how these styles can ruin a child’s life, because they are not being taught to be survive everyday life. Throughout this piece, the audience begins to understand his argument, because he uses many examples and rhetorical questions to persuade the readers. During the reading, he also brings up that severe parents are overprotective, since they think they are helping their children become wise, but they are actually afraid of teaching them about the necessities of the world. Furthermore, he supports his idea by saying things such as the wrong type of parenting

In American and Chinese culture self-conduct is used to teach children. In the Chinese culture they practice Guan, which is to educate, care, control, support and love. They follow Confucianism, which is criticism to encourage to push them to gain social values. Confucianism is a strict action that is practiced. China continues to make every effort to reach for success. China has high values for individualism and respect of adolescents to others. China always looks toward the future and never lets any short interests interfere with that which they praise and are valued ideas in which made China a secure society and held together for thousands of years. China’s stable society is payable to the way they obey to their future commitments established by discipline practices that were taught at childhood.

They teach us what we should and should not do, what is right and wrong and the moral values that are deep rooted in their mind. “You should respect your family’s senior members”, “You should be obedient”. These are some common Chinese traditional values that I have learned in my childhood. To please our parents and avoid punishments, we would rather obey their rules and be a “good” girl than argue with our parents. We start to put up our own masks to protect us from danger and to get reward. In particular, we pretend not to be interested in playing video games to prevent scolding from our parents. We also pretend to be a hardworking student to delight our parents. We even accept their moral teachings such as the unique sayings we must use to greet our seniors. “Even if we the knowing also find words in our mouths twisted by the ingrained moral hypocrisy that is now part of our insuperable ‘flesh and blood’” (Nietzsche, p.25), through family socialization, each teachings from our parents thicken our masks and we become less

Like this phrase, when we care about something “too much”, it can be a poison. Of course, there are many cases, but I think the most serious one is parent’s “too much care”, in other words, their interference with children. In my speech, “too much care” means parents do what their children are trying to do instead of them, even though they do not need their help. For example, when children have trouble tying their shoes, then the parent immediately ties their shoelaces instead of letting them learn to do it. Of course, children need parents’ assistance, but is it really the best support for children? Today, I would like to talk about parents’ attitudes of interfering with children’s attempts at learning. Through my speech, I want parents and future parents to think of the circumstances that enable your children to try a lot of things.