Educator in a Pastoral Role

Pauline and her siblings lived a life filled with fear. She was taught at a very young age about the challenges that her parents had gone through in order for her and her sibling to lead a better life. Pauline and her siblings faced physical abuse from their demanding and controlling father. Only the letter ‘A’ was accepted on their school report caard… anything below that deserved a wack with a stick from their abusive father.

Sexual abuse involves forcing or enticing a child or young person to take part in sexual activities, not necessarily involving a high level of violence, whether or not the child is aware of what is happening. The activities may involve physical contact, including assault by penetration or non-penetrative acts such as masturbation, kissing, rubbing and touching outside of clothing. They may also include non-contact activities, such as involving children in looking at, or in the production of, sexual images, watching sexual activities, encouraging children to behave in sexually inappropriate ways, or grooming a child in preparation for abuse, this also includes via the internet. Sexual abuse is not solely perpetrated by adult males, Women and other children can also commit acts of sexual abuse. This type of abuse is usually committed by someone known to the victim not just by sexual predators. It is important to remember that boys as well as girls can also be the victim of sexual abuse. The signs of sexual abuse as with emotional abuse may not be outwardly visible, because of the shame and self-blame a child will have if this is happening or has happened to them, makes it very difficult for a child

Sexual abuse is the forced and undesired sexual behaviour from one person onto another and/or sexual activity that can be deemed as inappropriate and/or harmful

Child sexual abuse involves a wide range of sexual activity. It may include fondling of the

Sexual abuse is a prevalent crime that can have numerous short and long term effects on a victim. It describes as any form sexual activity that is accomplished by force or threat where consent is not given. This includes rape, molestation, incest, and other similar forms of non-consensual sexual contact. The effects of sexual abuse are not the same for every victim, victims may feel varied responses and emotions that can depend on own situations. The act of abuse may had happened a long time ago or be more recent.

Sexual abuse is any sexual act that is committed against someone’s will, also called sexual violence it covers a range of offenses, including a completed nonconsensual sex act, an attempted nonconsensual sex act, abusive sexual contact, and non-contact sexual abuse. Approximately one in six boys will have experienced some form of sexual abuse prior to reaching the age of 18, that number may even be higher given the understandable reluctance of children to report such crimes. Sexual abuse occurs at the hands of fathers,

Sexual abuse refers to any action that pressures or coerces someone to do something sexually they don 't want to do. It can also refer to behaviour that impacts a person 's ability to control their sexual activity or the circumstances in which sexual activity

Twyla is faced with the struggles of being a young woman whose mother is constantly out partying and possibly abusing drugs and abandons her at the group home. Twyla has to be the mother, and takes care of herself even at the group home. She grows to face the struggles of a poor waitress who marries into a loving family, struggling with stability. As she and Roberta age and grow apart and run into each other, their main source of contention has been Maggie. Maggie is mute and possibly deaf, and is of undetermined race, but is a mostly functional adult who is abused by the girls (Morrison 1405). How they treat her is reflective of their feelings towards their mothers, Twyla minimizing and repressing, and Roberta blames the “other” of hurting her. They can’t reconcile their past, and so they go their separate ways. She struggles to find her voice when she encounters Roberta, as their racial differences and accusations keep her from speaking out. Attempting to reconcile her memory with Roberta’s tale is too difficult, until the end of the story, as they’ve both had time to heal and realize neither was right- they didn’t assault her, but they both wanted to, picturing their mothers in her place. Twyla wanted “the right mother” one who “wasn’t deaf and dumb to her needs” (Stanley). As she comes full circle, raising a good, healthy child, and her mother long gone, Twyla can finally heal herself.

Jeannette can see and understand what is going on to her and her family. Jeannette shares: ‘mom you can’t quit your job’ I said. “ we need the money.” mom asked. “you have a job. You can earn money. Lori can earn money too.”(218). jeannette gets into a conflict with her mother. Jeannette don’t want her mother quit the job; because Jeannette understands this time her family need the money than ever. Opposite to Jeannette, her mother do not care much for the family and her children. Jeannette also conflict with her father after she tells him about her mother problem. Jeannette shares: “who do you think you are” he asked. “Shes your mother.” “ then why she doesn’t act like one?” i looked at dad for what felt like a very long moment. Then I burted out, “and why don’t you act like a dad” (220). Instead go to the bar and drink; jeannette wants her father to get a job to help the family. Jeannette wants her parents have responsibility for their kids and their family. Jeannette matures in her mind and also her actions such as talks to her parents to get a job, and take care her siblings. She is a young lady, but she has a mature thinking. Jeannette says:” i was afraid that Mr.Brecker wouldn’t give me the job if he knew I was only thirteen, so I told him I was seventeen.”(215). Jeannette has to work to get the money to help her family when she only thirteen years old. At this age, most children are only focus on school, but

Katie is raised by a single mother like Tyrec and uses the childrearing method of natural child growth. That’s it. The Brindle’s are a poor family struggling to make ends meet as Ms. Brindle is currently unemployed as she raises her eighteen month old child “Melmel” and lives off the welfare system and child support she gets. Due to the abusive lifestyle that she has experienced as well, she has taken a larger toll, physically and psychologically, than a lot of thirty-seven year old women. Katie herself has experienced difficulties with her being sexually abused in the first grade that has affected her life. Therefore, the involvement of Katie’s extended family is huge. Her grandmother plays a role in being an additional caregiver in her life. Social problems seem to be an everyday occurrence for the Brindle’s as they try to live their everyday lives. As a result, Katie acts older than her age (nine years) due to the added responsibility of trying to take care of herself at times. Ms. Brindle’s parenting style of natural growth may have affected how mature Katie is, but it the Katie’s past and current environment that has had a greater influence in her

Sexual Abuse- This may occur when there is unwanted sexual contact or forceful proceedings to do something sexual which you may not want to do. This normally involves two people but could be more people involved. Examples of this could be rape and touching

The rain got harder as Tina walked alone in tears. She missed her daughter Iris. Tina thought about all the good times they had together. She wondered why Iris had done that to herself. Iris was a skinny young girl who killed herself. Iris wa bullied at school for how far she was, so Iris decided to stop eating. Tina was walking in the rain. It had been a year since Iris was gone. She thought back to that day. Tina woke up and made herself some coffee. She nibbled on a muffin that she bought from the store yesterday. She took Iris to school and then went to work. Tina went throughout her day as usual, but what she didn’t know was that soon her daughter would take her own life. Iris got home and went up into her bedroom. Tina wouldn’t get home

Legal and Ethical Issues (P 425). There are couple different types of child abuse and each type has a different definition and different results. Physical abuse is considered the most common abuse because it is easy to find and discover the harm of the child and to define as a physical force that resulted in harm or injury to the child. There are many signs that result from physical abuse such as, bruises in the face and lips, broken bones, isolation from others, fear, anxiety, unable to communicate with others and so on. Another type of child abuse is sexual abuse which is an action by force or threat by someone to do something sexually to the child or minor. Signs and symptoms of sexual abuse are difficulties in walking and sitting, bleeding externally in genital organs, distrust of other, a serious concern of others, and crying without reason

Although the physical abuse left scars, the verbal abuse was frequently thrown at her. Whether it was from her father, or her classmates she is consistently reminded what an outsider she was.

Sexual abuse, whether of adults or children, is also abuse of a position of power. It also covers any behaviour by any adult towards a child to stimulate either the adult or child sexuality. When the victim is younger than the age of consent (it is a minimum age at which a person is considered to be legally competent to consent to sexual acts), it is referred to as child sexual abuse.