Effects Of Permissive Parenting

(Baumrind 1966). I have come to realize that my parents and grandparents had this same parenting style. I have realized that I am repeating the cycle and I must break the cycle because if I do not them my children will continue this same cycle as an authoritarian parent instead of an authoritative parent. I would never want to be a permissive parent. This parenting style you are not teaching your children structure. “There are not held accountable for their actions”. (Coon & Mitterer, 2016). As parents we must teach our children there are consequences for our actions. If you do not apply any boundaries or rules as they get older they will feel like the rules do not apply to them. “Permissive parents will cause their children to be dependent, immature, and misbehave frequently.” (Coon & Mitterer, 2016). I believe some parents are like this because they want to be their child’s friend. It is okay to be their friend but there must be some type of guidelines in place.

With over three hundred million Americans and over six billion people worldwide parenting skills are essential to maintain a healthy society. Parenting involves many aspects and requires many skills. It is a time to nurture, instruct, and correct to develop fundamental skills children will need to be mature, responsible, and contributing adults to a society. There are four commonly identified parenting styles; authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved parenting. Of the four parenting styles, two remain on opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. These two styles; authoritarian, and permissive both have deleterious results that are often visible throughout different developmental stages, such as rebellious behavior. As well

Permissive parents allow complete freedom to their children and there is very little discipline visible. Permissive parenting was “Popular in the 1950’s and 1960’s” because of all the troubles going on during WWII. (5) They like to tell their kids “One more time…” whenever the kids do something bad. An example can be if Timmy asks his parents if he can go to a party. They tell him he has to be home by 10pm. Then his parents tell him the limit is 10pm. Then he suggests 12pm and because they do not want Timmy to be angry with them they let him do whatever he wants. Permissive parents have a fear that their kids will not like them. Unlike authoritarian parents, permissive parents make rules but they never enforce the rules. The children in this parenting style are usually immature, dependant, aggressive, and unhappy. They do not do well academically because of their inability to regulate to the school rules.

In this article, Beth discusses about the long term effects of authoritarian parenting in four different sides. First, she mentioned children of authoritarian parents live in a ambience that is high control and lack of warmth. They get a high obedience, it is based on fear, not the esteem. Second, she founds that some research shows children are more likely to be aggressive toward their peers such as name-calling and bullying although other research shows these children tend to be well-behaved. Third, it is about their relationships and performance in school. These children are less socially competent, less helpful, less popular and less likely to be accepted by their classmates. Fourth, the writer mentioned the benefits of authoritarian parenting. There is a evidence that friends of adolescents

Concept 2 - Parenting Styles There's three parenting styles there's authoritarian, authoritative, and permissive. An authoritarian parent is someone who is strict, imposing many rules and not nurturing. An authoritative parent is someone who is allowing discussion with the kids, placing limits and nurturing. An permissive parent is someone who is inconsistent with few rules and very loving. For me, my mothers parenting style is authoritative, she can be strict, being not too

Often times, children of permissive parents are manipulative. This is because the parents submit to their children if they act out. Children of permissive parents are impulsive, the children do not learn how to control themselves. Children brought up by this parenting style “do slightly worse in school during adolescence and are more likely to be aggressive and somewhat immature in their behavior with peers and in school”

• Permissive parenting children tend to more impulsive and may engage in more misconduct as an adolescent. The children go on to never learn to control their own behavior and always expect to get their way. As in better cases they child may mature quickly and live a very dependent life.

Authoritarian parents normally do not interact with their children in positive ways and usually install fear into the child. Punishment is usually harsh and given without explanation. Children with authoritarian parents are often anxiety- ridden. Studies have shown that these children have lower self- esteem, show high aggressiveness and typically do less well in school. Permissive parenting consists of high nurture and acceptance, but these parents lack structure and control. These parents look at their children as “free spirits” who need space to learn and grow. Permissive parents are usually inconsistent with discipline. Children with permissive parents normally are impulsive and irresponsible. These children also lack any self- control since none was expected (Sclafani 47).

As I was reading through our course textbook, “Psychology: An Exploration,” by Saundra K. Ciccarelli and J. Noland White and listening through class lectures over the course of the semester, I found the topic on parenting styles in chapter 8 to be very interesting. I found it to be interesting because I can think on many life situations as a child that applies to this concept very easily, which I never realized before. There are three different types of parenting styles. The first style is called authoritarian parenting. Authoritarian parenting is a style when the parent constantly demands rules on their children and nothing other than rules. In our textbook it is stated that, “this type of parent is stern, rigid, demanding perfection, controlling, uncompromising” (Ciccarelli, White, 2013). An authoritarian parent is one that expects their child to obey their rules or else they would get punished; as I would say this style of parenting is when the parent believes, “is either their way or the highway.” The second style of parenting is called permissive parenting. Permissive parenting is the complete opposite style of authoritarian parenting. They are parents that have absolutely no rules in their household. Permissive parents are normally portrayed as parents that could careless about the concept of parenting. Permissive parents believe that without given rules and demands to their children, their children will be the happiest. This style can also, indicate neglectfulness

Both permissive, and authoritative parents allow their children to make major life decisions. These parents give their children choices and lets them choose which way to go by themselves. Permissive parents may be more lenient with their options and may allow their children to choose differently if they wish to do so but both parents give the child the option to make their own choice. By allowing the children to make their own decisions, it gives them a sense of independence which will often pay off in the future. These children often grow up to be good decision makers when they are all grown up.

Authoritative parents “set standards, but also give their child choices. They recognize the good things that their child does, but they do not overlook the bad things. These parents are more confident and nurturing. They set standards that their child can meet. Usually, this type of parenting leads to a positive self-image in the child (Black, 2008). Permissive parents “do not control their children, it is more like the other way around. There is no discipline, and the child grows up knowing they can get whatever they want. When the parent does try to discipline, the child doesn't take it seriously. These parents give in easily and avoid confrontation whenever possible” (Black, 2008). In general American parents raise their children to have an individual personality, and to be independent from a very young age. “Firm disciplines are directed toward the infant and these are gradually relaxed as the child grows” (Suzuki, 2000).

The next parenting style is permissive parenting. These parents are warm. Although they are warm they are not involved with their children and their activities. They also don’t have control of the behavior of their children. These parents do not have many rules and allow their children to do what they want to do, whenever they want to do it. “Their children eat meals and go to bed when they feel like it and watch as much television as they want” (Berk 389). In the book Infants, Children and Adolescents it mentions that these children become disobedient. It mentions that they do poorly in school, have more antisocial behaviors, become dependent, and are rebellious.

Many of the students labeled as troublesome or demonstrating risky behaviors come from disadvantaged homes where parents lack education and communication with their children. Because parents are occupied working to provide, their children are often left home unsupervised. Students with little or no supervision in the home have been known to engage in risky behaviors outside the school (Dittus, Guilamo-Ramos, Jaccard & Ebrary, 2010). The lack of education and supervision from parents appears to impact these students emotionally and academically. Many of these boys come to school with unfinished homework or show up to school late for no particular reason. Though these boys demonstrate poor academics, administrators seem to ignore other contributing factor that have led the students to act out.

The second group is called permissive parenting. Permissive parents give up most control and rules to their children. In contrast of authoritative parents, they permit their children to do anything children like. These parents want to bring their children freedom. They want their children to develop in the free ways. They do not set any rules and routines in their children’s lives. While authoritative parents do not provide children with choices, permissive parents give children as many choices as possible, even when the children are not able to make good choices. These parents accept with all their children’s behavior, good or bad, and permit their children develop in the ways their children like. Permissive parents want to bring their children warmness and love, and they never scold or punish their children. However, like authoritative parenting, permissive parenting sometimes is not good for children. Children do things in the wrong ways and this can bring them danger; however, there is no advice from parents to put them in the right ways. These parenting style can bring children and people around them danger.

to the lack of discipline. On the other hand “Children from permissive homes…have good self-esteem and better social skills,” than that of children raised in an authoritarian