Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Essay

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Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
BSHS 385
June 1, 2015
Barbara Hughson
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
When couples get together, the challenges that each experience in life is unknown. This is the excitement that a couple shares as their lives are joined as one. Within their lives together, sometimes they experience challenges in themselves and others, they experience as a couple. These challenges may feel as if they are individual at times but in theory; each challenge is going to effect the relationship that they have built with each other. It takes a commitment to the relationship to be able to reach out to a stranger and ask for guidance for some challenges that are more overwhelming than others. Reaching out for help can
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After asking Josh to tell Patty how he feels when she verbally tells him that she appreciates him being there; Josh and Patty hold eye contact and there a moment of silence. Susan allows this moment of silence and asks Josh "what's happening?' He replies with it "is nice to look at Patty and feel that connection" (Johnson, 2009). Patty replies with a joke and Susan adds to the joke with a comment about a lot of tea, almost breaking the ice and changing direction of the conversation. Susan's body language is effective when at times, Patty appears to be getting emotional, and Susan will lean over, make eye contact and lay her hand on her knee. This is a type of ethical touching that is appropriate due to the clients in the scenario as well as the age and maturity of the client-helper bond that has been created here.
The conversation changes verbally as well as non-verbally when Susan tells the couple that they are dealing with their issues in an amazing way. Patty responds with she thinks Josh is but, she feels she is a mess. Susan reflects with "you're a mess" (Johnson, 2009) and the movement of her head and the way her body leans into her, shows that she is a bit surprised. Susan allows a silent break which invites Patty to start talking about her trust issues. This silence is an attending behavioral tool that invites more information from the client and is utilized effectively here. Patty talks
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