Erikson's Code Of Ethics In Middle School

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Throughout my childhood, my parents encouraged my siblings and I to make choices and express our thoughts and opinions, instead of controlling our every move. They provided us guidance and stated clear rules and regulations, however they gave us freedom to make many of our own decisions. When I was a toddler, my parents allowed me to choose the toys and activities I wanted to play with as long as they were safe, even if it involved a big mess. In preschool my parents would let me choose what weather appropriate outfit I wanted to wear to school, even if I wanted to wear a shirt that did not match. During late childhood, my parents gave my siblings and I the freedom to ride our bikes to the convenient store down the road by ourselves. They gave…show more content…
My parents taught me which behaviors were appropriate and inappropriate and they guided me towards those behaviors, but they gave me room to explore, learn, and make some of my own decisions. When my parents allowed me to pick out the toy or activity I wanted to play with, I would often choose to play with something very messy like paint, shaving cream, or even mud. Instead of punishing me for making a mess, they encouraged me to be creative and have fun. My parent’s autonomy granting behavior allowed me to use my developing motor and cognitive abilities to explore my environment and make my own decisions while gaining a level of self-control (Erikson, E.H, 1950). This autonomy granting behavior was also beneficial during my early childhood years to promote my decision making and independency. As I was developing new skills and experiencing challenges, my parents supported and guided me in the appropriate direction, but they were also sensitive and understanding instead of excessively controlling. Studies show that it is important for parents to be sensitive and nurturing instead of exclusively focusing on rules and structures (Clarke and Dawson, 1998). This behavior allowed me to explore, learn, and develop a healthy sense of autonomy while also behaving and adjusting…show more content…
The adolescents who participated in this study filled out a self-report questionnaire that included their age, ethnicity and grade level along with a questionnaire that measured their parent’s autonomy granting behavior. (p. 821). Supple, Ghazarian, Perterson and Bush (2009) suggested there are positive effects of parental support and autonomy granting behavior across different cultures, especially regarding academic success and motivation. Results showed that regardless of culture, adolescents, on average, showed greater motivation in school when they were given freedom to make their own decisions, while still being guided by a supporting parent (p.829). Another study by Benoit et al. (2016) suggested there is a possible relationship between parental autonomy granting and childhood anxiety, emotional regulation and emotional reactivity, however both parent and child factors must be considered (p. 840). The results from this study showed that along with parental autonomy granting, child perceived control is also a significant factor in reducing the effects of childhood anxiety, and promoting appropriate emotional regulation and reactivity. However, focusing on parental autonomy alone does not provide enough
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