Essay About Etiquette

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Jack Larkin’s The Personal Side of a Developing People focuses on the patterns of social manners in the early nineteenth century and how they were changed by reform. He answers questions about these mannerisms, such as diet, alcohol consumption, cleanliness, and many others. He reveals the image that Americans were busy and unique, as they chewed and spat tobacco constantly, drank too much liquor, slept in bug infested beds, used chamber pots and dumped them into the streets, grew taller than Europeans, and had many sexual pleasures. Class differences in mannerisms are depicted as Larkin writes that “farmers were ‘heavy, awkward and slouching in movement” (pg. 148), and states that American city dwellers were often distinguished by a “contraction of the brow, knitting of the eyebrows, and compression of the

As time progressed, the roles of men and women were more defined by what usefulness they had and what society found appropriate. Women were not allowed to obtain education, travel, or go out in public

Women were confronted by many social obligation in the late nineteenth century. Women were living lives that reflected their social rank. They were expected to be economically dependent and legally inferior. No

Norms in society are the expectations of actions in specific situations. Social norms keep human social relations and behavior stable. Norms are “rules” that have developed within a particular society taking into account its values, culture and way of living. Sometimes, it is even the case that individuals do not have a choice and rarely recognize that fact that social norms have arbitrary origins because they have experienced this during the ongoing process of living (Clinard and Meyer 2011:10). Thus, gender norms are sometimes seen as limiting, disenfranchising and oppressive. People who are in less-favored or less-accepted norms are sometimes pushed to “deviate” from the norm in order to achieve some form of “liberation” from their

Throughout history, the roles of women and men have always differed to some degree. In ancient Greece, the traditional roles were clear-cut and defined. Women stayed home to care for children and do housework while men left to work. This system of society was not too far off the hunter gatherer concept where women cared for the house and the men hunted. Intriguingly enough, despite the customary submissive role, women had a more multifaceted role and image in society as juxtaposed with the rather simple role men played. Morals for the two were also different. Men obviously had the upper hand with women being the traditional passive.

The three major categories that have been mentioned, respect, leadership, and social image, were the ways that a person with a high ranking of social order would act in public and within their own homes. The Book of The Courtier by Baldassar Castiglione was the base of the modern day books on proper etiquette; yet, the rules are now not only for the rich but also for the

One aspect of English social etiquette was the set of strict rules for how one was to act to appear as a socially adept person and therefore a desirable match for marriage. They were for the most part unspoken rules, but during the 19th century there began to be a growing selection of etiquette books available, for instance, Dr.

Women were expected to basically be merely an object, even a trophy for their husbands. They were expected to stay home and clean, as well as cook. With all these expected tasks, women hardly had any time to branch out and figure out what they wanted to do with their life. They had no time for leisure activities of any kind because, of course, their activities involved taking care of the house. Women were also seen as the weaker sex, always submissive to their dominant male counterpart. Although the women were submissive, they were held to a higher moral standard. Adultery was twice shamed upon if committed by a woman rather than a man. (Hughes par.3) A woman could be stoned to death, but people would turn their cheek for a man while the woman still was expected to stay beside the man.

Have you ever been in a situation where you wondered why people are so rude and why does it seem like being rude is accepted? I encounter a rude person at least 1-2 times a day. Growing up with a family that teaches respect, I would’ve thought that everyone was the same, but as I got older I realized most of these people were not raised with knowing how to respect people. I agree that rudeness is on the rise. More importantly because of what I grew up knowing and what I saw is a big difference to how it is now without generation.

     Throughout my years at Xavier and beyond I intend to follow the Xavier Honor Code so I can become a cooperative and responsible person. By being a student at Xavier I notice I will have to take responsibility of my actions and faults. In order for Xavier to trust me and to allow me to continue attending their school, I will have to follow their rules and be respectful. Not only should I do these things, but also I have to respect myself in order to respect others. In following the Honor Code at Xavier I will learn more about others, the school, and myself. The Honor Code will impact my academic and campus life because it will lead my way to the

People were expected to adapt to society and always practice the use of etiquette. Nineteenth century etiquette was comprised of a carefully structured group of social expectations that were incredibly hard to defy. In fact, no social expectations were easily defied then; those who attempted to combat them were often outcasted from society. People were held to an impossibly high standard, meaning that often more was expected of them than they were able to suffice. Though the idea that someone should always sit up straight, speak politely, and use their manners may seem ridiculous to the majority of those in the 21st century, this idea was one that was promoted extensively at the time. More was expected from individuals engaging in society than mere existence. Entire books were published (American Etiquette and Rules of Politeness) to set examples for how the normal people of society were expected to behave. People of lower classes were not to speak to those of the upper class without permission, and even after permission was granted it was crucial that the sentence spoken by the lower class individual be kept short so as not to waste the time of the “better” individual. A woman was not to be left alone with a man; if she were, her reputation would be tarnished, and the man would likely become subject to mockery. Burping in public was the equivalent to social suicide. As previously stated, these

This process involves acting out what we believe to be society’s perception of what it means to be masculine or feminine (West and Zimmerman, 1987). The initiation before a man and woman begin dancing together is perhaps the clearest example of individuals ‘doing gender’. In this space, men are almost exclusively responsible for initiating conversation or some sort of physical interaction. The idea that men must be aggressive and women must be passive only reaffirms our gender stereotypes. This relationship is even more evident in fraternities, as there seems to bee an even wider range in terms of what is deemed to be appropriate behavior (Boswell and Spade, 1996).

Few people know how to conduct introductions in a proper fashion, yet they are an important aspect of our daily life. In the social realm, men are introduced to women. In the business realm, the less important person is introduced to the person of greater importance, regardless of either gender. Though a key aspect to remember is that the name of the person being introduced is mentioned last, and the person to whom the introduction is made is mentioned first. It is also critical to remember that the client is the biggest priority, even if he/she holds a lesser title.

Ethical behavior is often seen as amoral when used for persuasive purposes. This is possible because persuasion may be used in unethical situations as well as ethical situations. Either way, it depends upon the person who is trying to persuade others. Adolf Hitler is an excellent example of someone who persuaded millions of people to behave unethically. On the other hand, Mother Teresa used persuasion for ethical reasons by caring for the sick and the orphaned, and because of this has impacted an entire world.