Having not watched this film before I was surprised that I liked it as much as I did. In my opinion, every house hold has issues similar or at least must deal with situations that involve feelings. I can somewhat relate to Tom, I too dreaded the thought of having to talk about feelings because in my childhood we never talked about them so as an adult it was difficult to express feelings because of the fear of being hurt. Tom who, in the beginning of the film, uses his humor and wit to avoid the experience of his feelings. His humor was the only way Tom knew how to cope with the sexual, physical and verbal abuse from his childhood. Tom’s mother, Lila’s actions, after being robbed and raped, showed Tom it was something to be embarrassed …show more content…
Lowenstein because Savannah was unable to remember parts of her childhood and she needed Tom’s help in understanding her past. In working with Dr. Lowenstein, Tom had to bring up Savannah’s past which was identical to his past, thus making Tom start talking about the situations that he had never talked about prior. Tom realized the Dr. was very concerned about his sister, unlike his mother who served as a bad and unsafe emotional environment, that he found comfort, a mother like quality that he had needed in his life. He then started to open up about all of their childhood issues and secrets. Tom went from a smart witted, humorous, loud person to one with love and trust in his …show more content…
Only then can their minds open up to the possibility that they could work on emotional, spiritually, physical, and intellectual changes. I think Dr. Lowenstein saw Tom in a different perception than Tom had of himself and I believe she pushed him so he could see the good in him and to give him the self-esteem he desperately needed. He started becoming self-aware of what he was reflecting and showing to other people.
Question 4: What situation(s) in your life does this film mirror? In other words, describe a personal example that the content of this film brings to mind. How did you make/could you have made use of the four ways to change one’s self-concept that are discussed in the text? My childhood is similar to Tom’s, as a family we didn’t discuss emotional feelings or show love to one another. My parents did not get along most of the time, my dad was an alcoholic and my mother pretended everything was fine. My brother and sister would cope as Tom’s did and retreat from the house till things cooled off. All those years as a child I thought that was the way a family was until I started to see other families and realize that wasn’t the case. Honestly, I learned to show love when I got my first dog, although very awkward at first, it felt so good to show and love something so insistent and unconditionally loving. Fortunately, my siblings
Tom takes a big step forward in overcoming the adversities he’s faced with, showing that he’s maturing and making steady way through his journey of growing into the wider world.
Tom’s neglecting manner of Daisy brings out his supercilious manner of feeling superior to others. In another instance, Tom’s supercilious manner is shown once again. In fact, we find out a little secret about Tom’s life. Tom describes a man, named Wilson as, “Wilson? He thinks she goes to see her sister in New York.
When tom decides to stay home and not go to the movies with his wife, I thought that was very sad. Why would you detach your wife! when you go to a wedding you have to take an oath, saying “Wilt thou love her, comfort her, honour, and keep her in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, keep thee only unto her, so long as ye both shall live?”[1] It says right there, comforts her! You know what that means? When she (or AKA your wife!) wants to go to the movie theater and ask you if you want to come with her and you say I have to work. You're
Stories. And why because Tom hates his life and he often goes to the movies
In the story Tom tries to sexualy assault Marie, which shows that he has perverted
She soon realizes that her son betrays her breaking the trust and relationship of a mother and child. Tom should feel inclination to uphold his part of the deal as Roxy is his true mother. Just as Tom loses everything but Chambers is then given everything he never thought he would have. Chambers is then released from slavery and given the inheritance. The horrors of slavery though have scared him from beyond repair.
Another means of Tom’s escape are his outings to the movie, which are aided by the fire escape. Tom goes to the movies for several reasons; to satisfy his need for alcohol, to escape his home life, and to experience some adventure. Walter is a black man in the 1950’s supporting himself, his wife, son, sister and mother in a small apartment in Chicago. He and Tom are both treated less than what a human is worth.
| Tom wants his old life back prior to the accident and he sees the accident as the end of his life as he knew it. He loses his sense of identity and sense of family in particular.Feels guilty and ashamed about the irrevocable consequences his brother’s irresponsibility had for other people and their familiesRetreats into a depressed state which feels empty and black.
People from all backgrounds also appreciate the way the movie shows a family with having good times and bad times, especially in relation to the relationship between the family members. As Tom grew up, he had a good time with the mother and his brother mike as he shared in the warmth of the family. However, his life became the source of bad times when he decided to engage in
Tom is explaining to everyone that’s in the room who is aware of what kind of person that Tom is, that he understands the type of person he is and he does sleep with other women and enjoys partying to an extent. He is trying to tell Daisy that deep down inside Daisy is the one that he loves and he will always return to her. Ultimately,
While Claudia is normally detached and unfriendly to most, Tom brings out the tender personality of Claudia. Tom unknowingly helps Claudia see all that’s good and beautiful. Claudia thinks, “I saw it through him and with him” (Lively 75). Claudia’s adoring persona comes into place when she falls in love with Tom. Tom has an effect on Claudia that makes her want things that she wouldn’t otherwise have wanted before.
Tom never does anything without doing it to the fullest, good or bad. Tom has an overall extremely short temper, assertive,confident and aggressive nature. Tom’s wild, emotional, and uncaring attitude end up getting three people killed. Tom in the end is ultimately concerned with himself and his lavished ,intense, and high paced
Tom had a double role in the play as both the narrator and a main character that lived through a recollection of what life was like living with his mother and sister before he abandoned them to seek adventure. Tom’s behavior in the play could lead to question if his memory is truly accurate. SparkNotes comments, “…But at the same time, he demonstrates real and sometimes juvenile emotions as he takes part in the play’s action. This duality can frustrate our understanding of Tom, as it is hard to decide whether he is a character whose assessments should be trusted or one who allows his emotions to affect his judgment” (SparkNotes.com). Through his behavior a person is reminded that memory can be flawed by emotions or time elapsing, this would need to be taken into account when analysis of such a character is done. Tom is full of contradictions as he reads literature, writes poetry, and dreams of an escape; however he also felt bound by duty to his sister and mother. Another contradiction was that while he professed to care about his sister as seen in his ending comments in the play, “…I tried to leave you behind me, but I am more faithful than I intended to be!...” (Williams), Tom never went back to reconnect with his sister. This could be because of the great shame he felt for abandoning his sister or because of another reason. He stated that he had been in several cities over the years but never speaks of going back to St. Louis, making it unclear if he
When the boys are infants, Roxy switches them. The fake Tom is an obnoxious child right from the start, crying constantly and hitting anyone that comes close to him. However, rather than rebuke him, Percy Driscoll, Roxy's owner and the real Tom’s father, forces Roxy to ignore Tom's tantrums. Tom, “got all the petting, Chambers got none. Tom got all the delicacies, Chambers got mush and milk, and clabber without sugar" (26).
For many years, Tom lives a lie, ignoring the reality of what his brother did. As he tells the story to his class he comes to realize how this situation affects who he is significantly. Whether he