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Essay On Grief Models And Working With Older Adults

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Grief Models and Working with Older AdultsRebecca J. Epp
Toronto Art Therapy Institute
Art Therapy, Spirituality, Greif and Loss

Grief Models and Working with Older Adults
Much of my own childhood and adulthood surrounded Alzheimer’s dementia. Watching my grandmother (Oma), fade from the funny, kind, thoughtful woman to a lethargic, depressed and unrecognizable figure haunted me until she passed away in December 2016. My parents taught me to cherish the good days, anticipating that there would be more challenging days in the future. I was terrified of the long-term care home, the disease and even of my Oma herself. What is
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I was in shock, fearing watching her die, and in a constant state of suspense (Duke, 1998). Phone calls terrified me, as I suspected each would announce her last breath. When I went to study in Germany, I was afraid I would miss her funeral. I was anticipating the death years before it happened, but it was still a fearful thing for me.
When she passed away, I felt more at peace than the week prior, and I had a lot of other things to focus on, including funeral planning, and caring for my parents as they mourned Oma, recovered from surgery and adjusted to their new lives. This is how I experienced the second state of the Dual-Process Model: Restoration-Orientation. This is defined as dealing with the secondary consequences of the loss (Lister, Pushkar, & Connolly, 2008).
Richardson (2006) explains that “that bereaved persons [must] accept not only the reality of loss, but also the reality of a changed world; experience the pain of grief and take time off from the pain of grief; and while they must adjust to life without the deceased they must concomitantly master a changed environment” (Richardson, 2006, p. 324). This describes the oscillation and the need for both loss-orientation and the restoration-orientation states. The alternation between these two states is a cognitive experience that can have different outcomes. Whether the
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