Essay On Internalized Homophobia

Homophobia is everywhere! How would you feel if someone told you, you could not have what you want? Even if what you want has nothing to do with anyone else. You as a human have a right to pursue your own happiness. It says so in the preamble of our beautiful constitution. How would you feel if where ever you go, the people there will deny your happiness that you want? Where the people will only look at you through hateful eyes. This what homosexual people feel like everywhere they go. This is why we need to stop the hate and spread love for one another. No more senseless homophobic ideas.

The gay personality may be determined during a child’s early years of development or throughout the individual’s life. A lesbian or gay individual like heterosexual individuals are influenced by family, peers, and society. Family structure, social factors, and cognition and conditioning help the development of sexual identity (Kwiatkowski, 2010). The child while living with the parents, adopt many of the customs and values the parents emphasize. The parents may stress the importance of gender roles in the household which the child may learn to

The article “Are We Worried about Storm’s Identity or Our Own?” was written by Patricia J. Williams. This author wrote an article about her son, who goes to daycare and has a friend named Jessie. She's a young lady that stands at the entryway of the childcare every day, and grabs the other little kid’s lunchboxes and takes them to the refrigerator. Williams, points out that “My son started to mimic Jessie, and help her collect the lunch boxes from the other kids” She then remembers a day when the teacher was watching them do this as it was a routine, and describes the both of them in certain ways that are very heavily gender-based, but by it meaning no harm at all “Your son is such a sturdy little security guard! And Jessie, she’s our mini-hostess with the moistest!” This comment gets Williams thinking about a 5-month-old child named Storm. The reason storm is so important to this article, is because the child’s parents did not give out storm’s gender after birth.

We have all seen the classic television scene, where a happy family consisting of one mother, one father, and two children is hovered around a table or a couch. Although still prominent, this scene is becoming less common nowadays as more families become non-traditional. More families than ever are consisting of one mother and children, one father and children, grandparents and children, and even two mothers or two fathers and children. These households, although not what most people consider a normal household, are becoming more common and regular in today’s society. Homosexual parents and families are indeed different from more traditional families, but not for the worse. This trend is not increasing

Same-sex parenting is taken both in positive and negative sense but even then it is regarded more as a family issue. There is a concept that where lives a same-sex couples, there must be children raised by them. Then it comes to mind that which sort of children? Such children may be divided into three groups: (Kurtz, 2004)

Building her credibility throughout, she maintains a front as a God-Loving Chrision and mother. But her outrage and highly opinionated argument is disreputed when she mistakes the expression of feminine traits by a male character as transgenderism. Her integration of specific facts displays her

The purpose of this essay is to give a clear understanding of gay and lesbian families. This essay will discuss relative information and problems of this client group focusing on the demographic, history, polices, issues faced by the group as well as relevant support groups and programs available. This essay will discuss these topics by drawing on existing published scholarly literature and relevant, credible published sources. The second part of this essay will be a reflection of an event that relates to the LGBTIQA Community. This reflection will discuss the event as well as thoughts and feeling of a participant in the event. For the purpose of this essay Gay and lesbian will be defined as “A person who is attracted primarily to members of the same sex. Although it can be used for any sex e.g. gay man, gay woman, gay person, “lesbian” is sometimes the preferred term for women who are attracted to women.” ("LGBT Terms and Definitions | International Spectrum", 2016).

Kathy Witterick (38) and David Stocker (39) are the parents of Jazz (5), Kio (2), and Storm; who is being raised genderless. Storm’s gender has not been disclosed to anyone other than their family. The family receives a lot of questions about the child’s gender but they just brush it off. This all started when Jazz, born a boy, decided he liked girlish items. Many have said they are leading their children’s lives to a life full of bullying and ridicule. Witterick and Stocker believe they are giving their children the freedom of being who they want to be.

Lesbian mothers showed more intense desire to have a child and less traditional child-rearing goals compared to heterosexual parents. Moreover, lesbian social mother showed more affection and commitment in parenting than heterosexual fathers. This might be because of social stigma on lesbian parenting, lesbian parents invest more times and efforts on their parenting. The authors also suggested possible gender differences since lesbian biological mothers, lesbian social mothers, heterosexual mothers, who are all females, showed more commitment in parenting compared to heterosexual fathers, who are males. The authors also stated that lesbian biological mothers showed more structure setting and limit setting compared to lesbian social mothers possibly because of their responsibility from biological bonding with children.

A study was preformed by Emily W. Kane, focusing on the responses of parents toward their preschooler’s gender non-conformity. The studies concluded that girls were more likely to be praised for non-conforming to their gender, to act more like boys at their age, but young boys were more policed on staying within their gender. Most Parents tried to discourage their sons from feminine clothing’s, toys, or activities; “He’s asked about wearing girl clothes before, and I said no. . . . He likes pink, and I try not to encourage him to like pink just because, you know, he’s not a girl” one mother stated (Kane). Fathers in particular seemed to be even more negative about their sons displaying femininity, as Kane states that fathers may “ feel a since of responsibility towards crafting their sons masculinity” (Kane). In one video centered around the opposition of James, a pastor brought up

Kathy Witterick and David Stocker are the parents of the five months child who have decided not to reveal her gender identity to anyone. The genderless baby raised concern, and the news trended in the mainstream media but the public response was negative and the referred to parents’ behavior as freakish and creepy. She does not express her stand on the issue, but she says she will go to mental health experts to understand Storm’s parent stance. However, Williams had raised her credibility and her stand before voicing her thoughts on the issue.

Many homophobes can trace their fear of homosexuality to their defensiveness about their own homosexual tendencies. This theory is one that has been around for some time, since Freud's time actually. Freud believed that heterosexual men who fear homosexual men do so because they defend against their own feelings for men( Goleman 3). Though old, this theory is still the diagnosis of many present homophobes. Many men are frightened by the thought that they mat have a gay neighbor, and this fear is shared by the children.

My opinion is influenced by the natural law of nature and of negative factors of transgenderism when compared to the traditional way of society. Allowing a child to determine whatever they want to be sexually is a problem for concern where the gender issues in which the presenter expressed is anti-procreation. There are also psychological issues surrounding Gender identification.

I am the mother of a gay son. My personal quest has become very personal. I am quite literally on a personal journey to explore my thoughts and feelings and to internally and externally process my evolving experience because of one event which occurred just after the beginning of the semester. During dinner, two days before he was headed back to college, my son came out to his dad and me. Now my focus has narrowed and while I need to explore other aspects of diversity, which I plan on doing through my weekly reflections and class participation, I need to understand more about what it means to be the parent of a gay son and to find out what supports or resources are in place for families. I have questions, I have concerns for my son and I am, at this point wrestling with my own feelings. I believe, however, that this exploration will give me a better understanding of the issues facing the LGBTQ community and will equip me to help other families and my future students.

The social science research that is routinely repeated does not actually speak on the subject questions of whether or not children need both a mother and a father at home. Instead proponents generally cite research that compares [heterosexual two-parent] families with single parents, this conflates the number with the gender of parents," the authors write. Indeed, there are far more similarities than differences among children of lesbian and heterosexual parents, according to the study. On average, two mothers tended to play with their children more, were less likely to use physical discipline, and were less likely to raise children with chauvinistic attitudes. Studies of gay male families are still limited. However, like two heterosexual parents, new parenthood among lesbians increased stress and conflict, exacerbated by general lack of legal recognition of commitment. Also, lesbian biological mothers typically assumed greater caregiving responsibility than their partners, reflecting inequities among heterosexual couples.