Examples Of Bad Habits In Relationships

This week there were two main readings: “Relationship Dealbreakers: Traits People Avoid in Potential Mates,” by Jonason, Garcia, Webster, Norman, and Fisher and “Born Gay? The Psychobiology of Human Sexual Orientation,” by Rahman and Wilson. The first article was definitely interesting because it brought up something that I think we all knew, but never really considered. This was that we tend to place more weight on dealbreakers than on dealmakers when it comes to choosing a mate. Also, that women tend to be choosier in short-term relationships. I have seen this pattern in real life more than once. It seems when it comes to my guy friends, all they would need is to see a girls facebook profile picture to know if we wanted to ask her out on

Codependency is defined as excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically due to an illness or personal issues. (Cite Source) This excessive need for constantly needing the other person to depend on them is seen the novel, Breathing Underwater by Alex Flinn. Caitlin struggles to see that Nick only wants her to have to depend on him, which creates an extremely unhealthy relationship. This is seen through Nick’s abuse, guilt-ing, and his need to fill a void makes tensions high and toxic between him and Caitlin. These traits are very common when it comes to codependency.

My first article is written by Neil Bulson in "7 Types of Relationships Doomed to Fail," from Guyism, What Guys Need, which is a guy's point of view of relationships. The seven types of relationships that are doomed to fail according to the author are the following: 1. One of you is the Boss; 2. The Unbalance Relationship; 3. Too Many Secrets; 4. Not Enough Secrets; 5. Purely Physical; 6. Purely Emotional and; 7. Nothing in Common.

This may be due to the influence a spouse can have on the health behaviours of their partners such as drinking and smoking (Monden,

Sometimes partners create an unspoken agreement that one person always does what the other person wants and the other can do whatever they want. Interestingly, the second individual is not held to the same level of accountability. An example is when a man can be out at all hours of the night and balks at being questioned, yet the woman cannot do the same without facing an interrogation. This is an unhealthy foundation on which to build the relationship.

“Some of the serious long-term effects of remaining in a dysfunctional relationship include the gradual

The codependent person works hard to control the behavior of their partner and, in doing so forgets what the roles and responsibilities are of each person in the relationship. When the relationship roles and responsibilities become blurred due to codependency, the relationship has just became one sided and could lead to over attachment or abuse which then can become an emotionally destructive relationship. Those with codependent tendencies usually have difficulty with healthy, mutually satisfying relationships.

When people move from partner to partner, often with no intention of seeing the person again, they have to refrain from the natural inclinations to form a bond of trust with them. As Zimmerman states, “Rather than learning to approach the other with openness, the practice of hooking up encourages one to draw near to the other with distrust, doubt, and fear…hooking up in its most basic form, is simply about the ability to become unhooked from one’s partner” (Zimmerman 56). Although the natural human response to intimacy follows sexual behaviors, those who engage in “hooking up” must guard themselves, suppressing that desire, in order to continue this behavior without hanging on to past partners. This is not healthy behavior if one intends to enter into marriage in the long-run, as the practice of self-disclosure and trust is integral to a long term relationship. Again, Zimmerman writes, “the practice of hooking up fosters the skill of shutting down one’s mind and heart and allowing only one’s body to function as something to be consumed without any development of emotional or psychological intimacy” (Zimmerman 56). This is also unhealthy behavior for a future relationship. Constant practices of disrespect, objectification, and a lack of self-disclosure are sure to become habitual, and prevent

Too much passive disconnected activity -- watching TV, surfing Internet, reading -- can erode a sense of connection and lure couples into a cycle of disengagement,"

To have a healthy relationship you must learn how to make that happen. There are five guidelines that must occur in order to make a relationship successful. When these guidelines are applied to personal, social, and professional relationships then you will be able to create a healthy one and maintain that relationship. Below you will read which ones I have found personally worked for me and how they can help anyone who is willing.

Jealousy is a natural feeling, but it is troublesome to others especially in a relationship. There is supposed to be an abundant amount of trust in a relationship from both people, but when your one and only significant other is talking to the opposite sex there is a rush of hatred that seems uncontrollable. You can instantly see if the enemy is prettier than you or more attractive, but the real question is who is the enemy her or you? The feelings of hatred, confusion,

Speaking of cheating, as bizarre as this may sound, a man will use trust as a license to experiment. In our sub-conscious mind, we are trying to perfect our techniques and show emotions with no emotional risk because we have "our folks" at home. This is why women get such adamant confessions of innocence when confronted. We truly don't perceive that having an affair as cheating because you are "folks"; the other person is just temporary fun or sowing of oats. We actually surmise that we are cheating to make our relationship with you

Insecurity is a lack of assurance or confidence and it is one problem many people face in relationships. Feeling insecure in a relationship can be horrible for anyone feeling like they do not belong. The burden of fear and obsessive thoughts of feeling powerless or no good can destroy what you may treasure the most. It is also tough for the person on the receiving end of all the insecurity. It’s vital to figure out whether the person you are involved with is genuinely insecure or if there is an additional underlying factor. it is something that just comes with the territory of the individual having a relationship. In relationships insecurity and jealousy are actually normal from time to time, especially in the early stages of getting to know each other’s pasts and interests.

Marriage is a binding contract between two individuals. It is a way to show each other that they are ready to spend the rest of their lives with each other. A marriage is much more than a wedding dress, wedding cake, and rings. It takes loyalty and commitment to each other. In the Elizabethan era, William Shakespeare’s romantic comedy A Midsummer Nights Dream shows through motifs how people struggle with a new marriage, but in the end the fight results in a stronger marriage.

“Trust: belief that someone or something is reliable, good, honest, effective, etc.” (Merriam- Webster Dictionary). Distrust in a relationship occurs when the trust between two people is diminished. Distrust can have many negative affects on a person including: trust issues, anxiety, suspicion, fear of opening up, etc. Symptoms of distrust can depend on the severity of the distrust in the