Crying is something that everyone here does; it is a normal part of everybody’s life. However, many cultures believed that when a male cries, his tears were a sign of manliness. In the article “How boys become a men” Jon Katz gives some examples to explain why many man pressured to be tough, to act strong, and they would not allow to show their emotions, pain and fear. This article focuses on the lesson that boys learn from their young ages which effects their lives.
The boy code has been around for many generations, passed down from father to son, like a family heirloom. It is cherished and use to make boys into men. As boys grow up they are taught that it is not ok to cry and not to show any emotion unless he is fighting for his manhood. Boys are raised with shame and a certain type of sadist way. A father’s responsibility to his son is to raise him to be a man. Sensitivity and weakness is not allowed but, if he slips up and cries, he may be shamed and may come to fear the repercussions. The things that a boy may hear are “man up”, “quit crying”, “quit being a sissy” and “unless you want a reason to cry you better shut up”. No a days instead of building them up males are treated like they must put their emotions in a box, locked away and never used in any situation.
A lot of males’ violent behavior and females’ complaisance can be accredited to family and institutional socialization. Parents usually raise boys on aggressive sports, such as hockey and football, which encourage violence. Girls, however, are generally brought up on "feminine" activities, dance and figure skating to name a few, which promote a gentle, polite nature. It is the rare parent that heeds their four-year-old son’s aspiration to be a ballet dancer by purchasing the child a pair of tights and a leotard. When a boy shows more interest in dolls than in trucks, his family may be distressed, and provoke him to reveal his "masculine" side. After striving for egalitarianism between the sexes for so many years, families still deter young girls from pursuits of hockey stardom, hoping to interest them in Pointe shoes. Displays of emotion by boys are often criticized for being "unmasculine", whereas emotional behavior in girls tends to be expected and accepted. As a result, boys tend to not only hide their feelings, but criticize friends for showing their emotions. Girls, on the other hand, encourage one another to express feelings and console one another naturally.
In addition, Farrell cites the pressure that men feel to stifle their emotion as another restrictive role affecting men (1974). This, of course, has its consequences. Men are less likely to talk about what is emotionally troubling them, which can have some pretty serious ramifications. Across history, suicide rates have been higher among men than women, and this difference has been increasing over time, with suicide rates being higher than ever among men (Helgeson, 2012). This has become such a large issue that the high rates of suicide among men have been called the “silent epidemic” (White & Bilsker, 2011). This is partly because it is much harder to identify men who are at risk of committing suicide because they are less likely to open up
Impact of the Media on Men When boys are young they are told to toughen up or to stop acting like a girl when they are sad or want to cry. Michael Kimmel, author of “Bros Before Hos”: The Guy Code, discusses how there is a code guys are supposed to follow and how being taught natural behaviors, such as crying or talking about emotions, are wrong at a young age negatively impacts boys for their whole life. Emily Smith, the author of Life on the Island, talks about how a decrease in places that have a feeling of community increases the suicide rate among men. Everyone tells boys to act a certain way their father, coach, even people they don’t know, but this is not the only place they hear these negative statements. Television and magazine advertisements often depict men in an unrealistic way that feels unachievable and because of this young boys who view these ads feel negatively about themselves and because of the guy code they can’t share their feelings and emotions which can lead to depression or even suicide.
The relationship between depression and suppression of emotional expression has shown an unyielding link. When it comes to depression, females are more likely to experience the symptoms of depression compared to males. Depression in women has demonstrated crudely two times higher in comparison to the rate of men. However, men
Barker sums up the theme of masculinity and gender roles when she writes, “Men who broke down, or cried, or admitted to feel fear, were sissies, weaklings, failures, not men”. The patients were afraid
Male domination and patriarchy have been under challenge by feminists and the women's movement in recent decades. The economic, social and political subjection of women around the world, the violence brought against them and their confinement to the domestic sphere have been analyzed and denounced in academic studies. Most people want to build a new society where gender is not the central factor discriminating between individuals, who should be free to choose the life styles that suit them. Men have, in general, been socialized to hide their innermost thoughts and feelings. As young boys they are socialized to believe that if they are open about their feelings they would be considered weak and/or not manly by their peers. â€˜Being strongâ€™
The fact that my father was gone forever was certainly terrifying, however, the fear of embarrassment and judgment from my peers felt even more daunting. I felt that as a male I wasn’t supposed to voice my thoughts and feelings, even though I desperately wanted to. For the longest time, we’ve been reinforced by society to control our emotions. We’re told things like “be a man,” “suck it up,” and “don’t cry,” because we’re men and that’s how men are supposed to act according to American masculinity. Up until the afternoon at recess, I let this perception of masculinity restrict my emotions toward what was going on. I wanted to talk to my friends about it, but I didn’t think I was supposed to. According to an interview with Siebel Newsom published on CNN, “boys have been socialized in such a way that they're not supposed to experience pain or suffering and that they're expected to be dominant, stoic and in control at all times." In other words, our perception of masculinity and gender stereotypes contribute to a lack of care and compassion, empathy, and emotion. With young boys, there is a desire to fit in and be liked, which is why we act certain ways that aren’t necessarily true to ourselves. And the failure to do so is often what leads to things like social bullying and suicide. According to Barbara Williams, “The problem we see with boys — they don’t
Stop crying. Stop with the tears. Don’t cry. Pick yourself up. Stop with the emotions. Don’t be a pu**y. Don’t let anyone disrespect you. Be cool and be kind of a d**k. Always keep your mouth shut. Nobody likes a tattletale. Bros come before hoes. Don’t let your woman run your life. You b***h. What a fag. Get laid. Do something. Be a man. Grow some balls. The three most destructive words that every man receives when he is a boy is when he’s told to be a man. If you never cry then you have all these feelings stuffed up inside of you and then you can’t get them out. Boys are more likely to act out. They’re more likely to become aggressive. Most people miss that as depression or see it as a conduct disorder or just a bad kid. In the 2014 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention Article, “suicide statistics” describes less than 50% of boys and men with mental health challenges seek help. Every day 3 or more boys commit suicide in the U.S. Whether it’s homicidal violence or suicidal violence people resort to such desperate behavior only when they are feeling ashamed and humiliated” or feel they would be if they didn’t prove that they were real men. If you’re told from day one, Don’t let anyone disrespect you and this is the way you handle it as a man, respect is linked to violence. As a society, how are we failing our boys? All men should learn and be allowed to show all emotions.
Often times when discussing literary time periods, different traditions are thought of as distinct splits, where one ends and the other one begins immediately afterwards. This thought does not allow us to study particular writers and their works as thoroughly as we are capable of, as we cannot place them easily into one category or the other. Around the time of the First World War, Modernist writing “replaced” traditional Victorian writing. The “transitional” period between these two literary periods is often not studied in depth, and more attention is given either to Victorianism or Modernism. There are many noteworthy aspects of this “transitional” period between the two traditions, however, and one of the most important is that it allowed women writers to occupy an influential space that they were barred from within both Victorian and Modernist literature.
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