Explanations For Abusive Relationships

“Domestic violence or abuse is about control” (Pisarra), the abuser has complete control over the victim this is the most abundant reason why it’s hard for a person to leave an abusive relationship. Both emotional and psychological factors keep the victim tied to the abuser. Sometimes situational realities, such as a lack of money, and lack of resources keep the victim from leaving. The reasons for staying in an abusive relationship will vary from one victim to the next, but they usually involve several factors.

Relationships are about respect and love towards one another but when the disrespect falls into the picture everything falls apart. Disrespect can be either verbally or physically and many of those who have fallen into this type of abusive relationship tend to have barriers on leaving that significant other. In most cases, fear has been the main key factor on why these victims tend to stay within the abusive relationship. Even though fear has been the main factor but there are other factors that run through a victims mind constantly. Victims are afraid they, themselves or their loved ones will get extremely hurt or be killed by these batters. Besides getting hurt, the victim fears that the batter will take away his or her child leaving them

There are certain groups of individuals that appear to be most at risk of abuse than others, and therefore more vulnerable. Vulnerable adults can be abused in different ways for different reasons.

Healthy relationships involve a variety of different aspects such as respect, trust, and consideration. Unfortunately, some relationships aren’t meant to be healthy and they often turn to abusive relationships. Abuse can be physical, emotional and or sexual. Physical abuse are seen in various ways such as punching, kicking, choking, and or any other form of physical violence intended to hurt the other person. For a person who has experienced an abusive relationship it may be difficult for them to describe those particular feelings and the pain that they’ve gone through. One of the most important and original poets of the twentieth century is known as May Swenson and In her poem “Bleeding” she addresses the important issue that is recurrent in society; she embodies her personal life and illustrates the theme of abusive relationships, and it lets us as the audience gain a deeper understanding of the relationship between an abuser and victim through the significant use of symbolism, form and personification.

The cycle of abuse starts when an individual is abused and then the perpetrator feels regret. The guilt leads the perpetrator to ask for forgiveness and engages in positive behavior towards the victim. The victim does not leave the abuse because he/she “perceives few options and feels anxious terminating the relationship with the abusive partner, feels hopes for the relationship at the contriteness of the abuser and does not call the police or file charges.” In addition, after the victim forgives the perpetrator the couples experiences a honeymoon stage. During the honeymoon, stage the victim is optimistic about the relationship’s nonabusive future. After the honeymoon

A vulnerable adult is someone aged 18 or over who may receive community care services because of a disability, age or illness, or may be unable to take care of themselves or protect themselves against significant harm or exploitation. Older people are especially vulnerable, for example those with health issues who are unwell, confused and unable to stand up for themselves due to how frail they are. Because of their defencelessness and vulnerability elderly people are more at risk to abuse. Other vulnerable adults include people who are open to abuse because of learning difficulties, physical disabilities or mental illness. Those with learning difficulties may be taken

Another mental health problem that may stem from being kidnapped and sold to people is Stockholm syndrome. Stock holm syndrome refers to a psychological phenomenon in which a victim form an almost paradoxical bond with their captor. It causes the victim to have strong emotions towards their kidnapper to the point where they would rather stay with them than return to their families. They often develop the same feelings towards people as their captors, such as negative feelings towards people that could help them and remove them from the situation they are

Is there anyway a person can identify a domestic violence abuser before entering into a relationship with someone? Unfortunately, the answer is no as it is not possible to identify a potential abuser before the abuse begins; however, when dating, there are common characteristics that might indicate that the person has the potential to become an abuser. These common characteristics include extremely jealous or possessive behavior, the need for one person to be the boss of the relationship, strict views on the roles of a man or woman in a relationship, demanding the woman to stay away from family and friends, control of the money within a relationship so that the woman cannot leave, and constant monitoring of where the person is and question

Throughout childhood, our parents have always attempted to shelter us from controversial topic while we were children. They never sat us down and explained everything that was wrong with the world we live in. Our parents did not want our innocence to be shattered. Topics such as terrorism, drugs, abortion, punishment for criminals, and toxic relationships were never spoken of. Since these things were never discussed, most of us have developed misconceptions on certain topics. One of the topics that we have created many misconceptions for is abuse in toxic relationships. Only a few have learned what happens behind closed doors in this topic, but most, never had to deal with it. Throughout all of concepts that we have created, the one that I

The abusive partners use economic means to control the women to stay in the relationship. The women do not have any access to cash or a checking account. Men use tactics that negatively affect the women's ability to establish or maintain economic freedom. The tactics that men use include harassing women about money matters, destroying the women's credit, stopping women from working, and forcing the women to have sex for money (Swanberg & Macke, 2006). The risk is high for women who lack financial stability, who will end up being trapped in an abusive relationship (Kaukinen, Meyers, & Akers, 2013). The obstacles that women face because of economic dependence are serious for many victims of domestic violence (Sanders & Schnabel, 2006).

When caught in a life-threatening situation, we often feel that we do not have control over the outcome, when in reality, we do. Phycological research concludes that our brains take over for us during traumatizing times, usually without us even realizing it. A common area where our brains take an automatic route is in situations of exploitation, specifically in those who are exploited. One of the common thinking routes is Stockholm syndrome, a psychological phenomenon that causes those who are in stressful situations to develop a feeling of trust for who/what is causing them distress. Kidnappers, recruiters, and abusers are all successful in exploiting due to either conscious and subconscious knowledge of Stockholm syndrome in their victims,

I would first like to start off by saying that this has been a very difficult topic for me. That is why I have waited until the last minute to post this week. It has only been a year since I have left my fourteen year abusive marriage. I hide the abuse from all of my friends and family. When you are in the situation you do not realize how bad it is until you are almost dead or in jail. An abusive relationship is like a leaking faucet that starts with a slow drip and over time the slow drip has become a flooded house because the pipe has finally broke. First comes the fight, then comes the violent episode, then the honeymoon phase after the violent episode. The make-up sex was so intense. He would love to hit me then make me have sex with him. He would say it is such a turn on. He would always say I cannot believe I did that. I am so sorry it will never happen again. Sometimes months would go buy even years but it would always start back up. I will say that the emotional abuse I suffered was far worse than the physical abuse. I would rather my ex hit me than tell me that I was a pathetic, dumb bitch that didn’t deserve to be alive. I am in therapy and supports groups right now and they are helping me get a better understanding of why I stayed and how to never be in a situation like that again. I am a work in progress and I am happy to say I am alive and I am finding my happy again.

Stockholm Syndrome is a strange and exceedingly complex condition, most commonly seen in victims of a hostage situation, or similar experience. It is characterized by the victim developing positive empathy towards their ‘captor,’ and negative emotions towards others who seem like they are of help, such as doctors or police officers; another, lesser known, part of Stockholm Syndrome is the fact that the captor creates an emotional bond with their hostage as well. Rarely do the impacts of this disorder subside once the immediate danger has concluded, and often do they continue into years, and possibly decades of therapy.

His hand was swift, and the mark burned like the flames of a thousand fires. The whip of pain flashed through her body like the winds of a hurricane, sharp and powerful. There was no God, no one she could appeal to. All the hopes and dreams she once had crushed in her mind, and only one thing remained - him. He was her only God in a world of torment, the only thing within sight as her eyes blurred in agony. This is no story. Thousands of women, men, and children go through this every day, yet hardly anyone knows it. This is what happens behind closed doors. This is reality, with no obscurities. Domestic violence is a problem that affects millions around the world. It’s legal in many countries, and even first-world countries, where

I felt intrigued by this article titled Reasons for Staying in Intimately Violent Relationships: Comparisons of Men and Women and Messages Communicated to Self and Others, writing by Jessica J. Eckstein. This fascinating article was published on the Springer Science Business Media journal, on October 27th 2010. It has come to one’s attention to understand why some people, either male or female where to stay in an abusive relationship.