Facebook's Relationship With Facebook

In the last ten to fifteen years accompanying the dawn of social media, means of communication among friends and strangers have been easier than ever. Since its creation in 2004, Facebook has grown into the largest social media site on the Internet with 30 million users and counting. The ability to catch up with former high school friends who are now across the country or see how an aunt in Pittsburgh has been doing since the birth of her son are now as simple as the click of a mouse. However, the amount of “friends” acquired on social media may not be an accurate reflection of how many close relationships one truly shares. In an article from Bigthink.com titled “Do You Have Too Many Facebook Friends?”, Steven Mazie gathers research from Pew Research Center about statistics surrounding Facebook

In the article of Clive Thompson I’m so Totally, Digitally Close to You. Thompson talk about how social media have changed people’s life, and one of the issue he talks about Facebook. How Mark Zuckerberg has completely changed the world by creating a social website. Thompson not only focus on Facebook, but he brings up Twitter as well and how that site has changed people emotional relationships. He claims that dealings with these networking sites and others sites are similar because it offer same information about a person. However, social networks have changed many people’s identity by allowing to befriend and connecting with more people and more efficiently. Unfortunately, social media have also limited many face to face conversations with family and friends. Although, social networking sites are efficient in providing ways to communicate, we need to limit our use of social networking sites in order to become stronger as individuals and emotional of our relationships. Being dishonest with the social networking sites can eventually collapse the true value of a friendship. This sites are

Social media has the ability to make relationships easier because it helps to connect us over long distances, however, relationships have evolved into

Ellison et al believed that Facebook is a ‘rich site’ for research into the quality of relationships due its ‘heavy usage patterns’ and the mechanics of how it is more about offline to online relationships due the nature of the creation of the site, for university students to communicate. Facebook in incredibly different from other CMC as many users actually know most their ‘friends’ in real terms on the site.

Today, people tend to be very open about their life on social media and honestly, it’s extremely dangerous. Alexis Madrigal makes good points on taking the data out of dating. Dating now compared to dating in the past is different in so many ways because like Madrigal says, “What if the dating sites had existed in the 1950’s?”. How would people handle those types of things knowing how different it used to be? The outcome to that wouldn’t be as well as we would think, it was too diverse then and I don’t think dating sites would last long because of the lifestyle they had to deal with was much more hands on without technology.

Imagine a scenario where a man has created a Facebook profile and structured his online persona in a way that showcases what he believes to be his best attributes. He shares posts about his love for sports, cooking and literature. Over a short period of time, a young lady sees his profile and is intrigued by all the things that he has shared about himself publicly. She reaches out to him via a private message and over a period of time, of texting and sharing pictures, the two begin to build a relationship.

The use of social media in the United States has dramatically expanded over the recent years thanks to many technological advances from a multitude of intelligent men and women. While you may or may not be utilizing this technological boom, millions of Americans across the country have turned to social media as an imperative aspect of their lives for communication in relationships. As positive as it may sound in terms of affecting relationships, there are many people that argue that social media causes nothing but distress in an relationship. Alternatively, some argue against this statement and some, like Kaveri Subrahmanyam, are right in between both statements.

Fox, Jesse, and Katie M. Warber. "Social networking sites in romantic relationships: Attachment, uncertainty, and partner surveillance on Facebook." Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking 17.1 (2014): 3-7.

Relationships in my opinion should be limited when it comes to posting things on social media. Personally, I try to keep mine private because it can lose some meaning when everyone else knows all the small details. Also, on social media, people tend to post only the positive things. Twitter is used in the majority of these examples because of its tendency to show unrealistic romantic relationship expectations. Unfortunately most of them have a tendency to be

Social media creates a false sense of connection. In reality when you feel like you are getting to know someone because you see a small part of their day, you and many other people see what is going on in their life. There is nothing intimate or meaningful between the relationship if everyone else sees it. As said by Michael J. Formica a counselor and therapist "social media introduces two parallel and paradoxical elements" false intimacy and social distance.

It is becoming more frequent in today’s society to utilize social media to connect and stay in touch with others. In fact, one could say that social media has become an everyday part of our lives. More than 800 million individuals use Facebook daily (Fox & Anderegg, 2014). It is therefore of great significance, that one gives awareness to how the frequency of social media usage can affect our romantic relationships. This study consists of analyzing the amount of time one spends on Facebook and if the amount of time has an effect on the relationship satisfaction. Previous studies have gone over the aspects of the activities and concepts among individuals that can cause negative relationship outcomes but these studies have not extended beyond the concept of frequency. Moreover, previous research has suggested that individuals’ attachment status, individuals who have Facebook–related conflict, individuals who were in shorter term relationships, and individuals who have certain ideas of what normal behavior is when getting to know someone on the website can end up predicting negative relationship outcomes (Clayton, Nagurney, & Smith, 2013).

Aside from expediting relationships, there is the factor of getting to know someone for who they really are. In social networks, “the CliffsNotes of a person's life will never give you an accurate representation of the reality. We create the image that we want to convey through our activity on social media. It's much easier to convey the "reality" that we want to portray on the Internet than to live it in real life.” (Curry, 2013). People often put the best things about themselves on their social network; in fact many show the life they wish they had. This can be detrimental to relationships, because no one is ever transparent or honest. In considering relationships, “the truth is that the content and character of a person should be revealed in layers. The development of a fruitful relationship takes effort, and it is impossible to reach a level of depth with a person by meticulously parsing his Facebook self” (Curry, 2013). Real relationships and depth cannot be established when merely built online.

Facebook is involved in a serious controversy in the United States. And last but not least they are being accused of nothing less than ideologically manipulate the news that serves its users , all this is happening on the campaign trail, so the whole thing takes on an even greater dimension that already itself has.

Several news stories have suggested that using Facebook can lead to higher instances of divorce and infidelity (Gardner, 2010), but the claims have been questioned by other commentators.

As technology progress, humans evolve to the advanced technology and enhance our lives via technology. We connect to our families, friends and others through social media such as Facebook. Social media takes up a huge part in our lives. Social media infest us with information that are relevant and irrelevant to us. Marry Marrow wrote, “It was Facebook that changed the face of e-communication; in fact, it was the first electronic social media” (para 1). She assumes that Facebook is playing a huge role in electronic communication. In the journalist Maria Konnikova, “How Facebook makes us unhappy?”, Konnikova divulges many aspects of people on social media through researching and experience, and finds how social makes us unhappy. I agree with Konnikova findings after reading her article. In addition, she concludes that if you are engaged, active, and creative you will not sorrowful on Social media, however if you are passively browsing and defuse to engage, you will be depressed.