Falling In Love: Mormon Marriage Counselor

Marriage requires effort and work. Many newlyweds come into a marriage thinking it is easy but do not consider the consequences of marriage that heavily rely on balances and partnership. Marriage is all about compromise. It is important to engage in a premarital program to allow both partners to learn what to expect within a marriage, how to face certain roadblocks, and to better communication when conflict is aroused so that divorce does not become an option. Gottman’s research (2009) has made a significant contribution to the study of relationship and marriage tying unity, harmony, and communication together to make relationship and marriage work. When a couple who does not have consummate love (intimacy, passion, and commitment), they often portray the six indicators of divorce: harsh startup, the Four Horsemen, flooding, body language, failed repair attempts and reflecting on bad memories (Gottman, 2009). Divorce often occurs within the first two years of marriages and almost half of divorces end within the first seven years (Bhutto-Ramirez, 2015).

Have you ever experienced falling in love with someone wherein you eventually doubt your feelings with the person you are in love with, to an extent of you start interrogating yourself if you are in love with the person or just in love with the feeling? In the modern world we are currently facing today, it is cliché to have love and infatuation differentiated. In most comparisons, according to Rohan Felix (2016), infatuation is treated as a risky and hazardous phenomenon, whereas love is manifested to be healthy. These two broad concepts are both intense emotions and feelings in which most of the people are often confused by it; however, they only differ in the actuality of love, intensity, and final outcome that affect an individual’s life

Every couple eventually comes to the painful realization that the passion they felt for each other before and at the beginning of their marriage has changed or faded. Losing this spark of attraction and sexual desire can lead to questioning the basis of the marriage. If you no longer feel excited to be with your spouse, do you ask yourself, “What else is there?” Even if you aren’t asking yourself that question, the daily grind of life that includes dealing with children, work, bills and running out of time for anything other than everyday tasks can make you wonder about the number of years that stretch ahead of you in which you’ll be doing the same things every day, over and over again.

Marriage and Family Therapy is a brief solution-focused form of psychotherapy used to treat a wide array of problems ranging from depression and marital problems, to alcoholism and schizophrenia, in a couple and family system context. Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) are trained and licensed mental health professionals who are capable of diagnosing and treating mental and emotional disorders whether cognitive, affective, or behavioral, within those systems. They are required to have a master’s or doctoral degree with specialized marriage and family therapy training. The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) also requires MFT’s to have a minimum

It is an intense feeling of affection that compels us to do things that push us forward in a new direction that can be brought upon by a significant other. These feelings of affection are known as love and all love starts off with the sense of lust. Lust can be very dangerous to a man who is lost in the world looking to find himself. One can lose themselves entirely to these emotions for their lover and begin to forget their principles to living their life. Once a person no longer values their ideals they have become astray from their habitual self. In the novel Siddhartha by Herman Hesse, the main protagonist is faced with this ordeal and completely immerses himself, losing sight of his original journey.

This is not typical of how most people fall in love. Most people start off as simply liking each other’s company and slowly interacting more and more until they are actively seeking each other out. As they get closer they being to share more about themselves, both positive and negative aspects. As the begin to agree on goals for their relationship, there reactions become more similar, their psychological well-being becomes tied to the relationship, and finally they begin to see themselves as a couple and not just to people.

Falling out of love with someone who truly cares about you can severely affect their emotional state and lead to long term depression. Those who lose the one they “love are the most likely to develop depression” when they are rigid towards romantic love (Kerr 3). Love is so in depth and so personal, when lost, it can critically affect the way someone believes love is. Everything we do in our daily lives is all tied back to love. Losing someone you love can cause “unbearable hurt that demands an explanation and must be escaped as quickly as possible” or could lead to large amounts of depression and anxiety (Kerr 6) . Many people in our world today are affected by depression, love, and anxiety. The three are most commonly put all together or none at all. Many people find that you “cannot cure depression” with love, but you can most

For instance, You give up on someone who is there for you for so many years, the life that you've created, the memories that once made everything special, and all for someone who gives you butterflies for a second and sooner or later you find yourself, filing for a divorce and packing your things. How do we let issues become our relationship? How do we let our challenges defeat our love? For those of you who have your spouse and deal with every challenge together, day in and day out. I say this to you as a friend and as someone who truly wishes for the promotion of love and marriage to continue.. Never ever take that person for granted, tell them you love them every single day, even better show them! Just as little issues can lead to bigger problems, little sweet moments can create the strongest of love. It just takes patience and effort, and the will to not give up on one another. Family is everything but always remember that your number one partner needs you and your undivided attention, so go on dates, spend quality time (one on one) talk about everything and open up. Love your spouse through every challenge and not just for

Coming from a family where none of the women in my family are married, I’ve always admired those who were. I admired a woman who was stable enough to balance marriage and her own career, even when odds weren’t in her favor. I distinctly remember in January 2013, seeing an ad on Television for a movie titled Temptations:Confessions of a Marriage Counselor. Of course the title of the film told a lot about the movie, but the meaning that lied underneath this amazing movie told a lot more.

growing trend. Older couples that have been married for a long time have reported that they were simply bored with their marriage-- the mythical “mid-life crisis” took its toll on some of their marriages. They wanted to return to their youth and enjoy life because they felt that they were running out of time, and that their partner was just holding them back.

When someone falls in love, how do they not let it fade out? Bernard Roth in The Achievement Habit believes that “It can be a great feeling to fall in love, especially if your love is reciprocated.” Meaning that people need love in their life, it is such an amazing feeling, why not. The problem is that people often confuse love with marriage. Falling in love is based on projection and marriage is free of projection. Roth’s purpose is to inform people on the difference of falling in love, and making a marriage work. Roth’s argument is effective because he understands what it takes to hold a marriage together, and what is a marriage without love.

Have you ever felt that euphoric rush of adrenaline flowing through your body, so refreshing and overwhelming you wished it would last forever? You might probably have experienced love at first sight but it could equally have just been a healthy dose of lust!

When someone is in love, it can at first be as if one is bungee jumping blindfolded from a cliff. It is amazing freefalling through the air, winding rushing through hair, adrenaline pumping. The fluttery feeling in someone’s stomach after being pulled back up can all be represented as the falling in love feeling mostly every person has experienced. Most people do not ever think of what happens if the rope snaps and that person is left smashed and shattered in

Couples should be passionate to each other to be able to make the marriage last. A marriage without passion is more likely to fail. Passion keeps the relationship alive. If the passion in your marriage starts to fade, you have to do something to bring back the fire in your marriage. Rekindling the passion in your marriage needs some effort and dedication. Without a conscious effort to keep the passion in the relationship, the marriage will suffer a slow death.

Falling in /out of love is a mental process based on strictly ‘one pole’ status, and on the automatic function of procreation. It is ‘artificially’ released process of attraction. NO WILL IS INVOLVED! A Large portion of emotional life is converted into ‘sex-urge’ known under term ‘Falling in Love’ with sub-aspects as eroticism & mating. A Clear example of an ‘unintellectualized feeling’ or ‘falling in love’ is uncontrolled, ‘red hot’ expression of ‘affection’ for hardly known or completely unknown individual of opposite pole domination, which in favorable terms intensely subconsciously stimulates ‘procreation –provider’ aspect. That ‘stimulator’ could be nearby or thousand miles away, could be just an ‘untouchable’ image on the TV or mobile screen, which prolongs the longing because of unattainability, but an ‘image’ always with projected ‘associated’ superb features.