Family conflicts emerge due to a multitude of reasons. Family conflicts can occur between parents and their children and between siblings. However, the most common family conflict occurs between parents. Some couples argue over financial issues, while others disagree on the parenting of their children, or some are unhappy with their sex life. When disharmony initiates within a family, conflicts arise. In the case of my conflict script, the dispute between my parents was caused by the emotional stress my mom was experiencing and the financial problems my dad was going through. They were both incredibly stressed and therefore emotions flared up, causing a huge fight between them, which my siblings and me, all witnessed.
To put things into perspective, the fact that we moved to a different country had a huge toll on my parents. We moved from Venezuela to the United States in 2011 in search of a better life, and to escape political tyranny and violent crime. I understand the sacrifice my parents are making when they moved to the United States with us. They wanted us to receive the best education possible, and I’m greatly appreciated for it. This change, however, was too much for my mom to handle. She missed her family and her job. She also didn't speak English, and therefore struggled in communicating with others. Overall, she missed her daily gratifying routine. At the same time, my dad was experiencing financial problem. He was a doctor in Venezuela, however he could not practice in the United States, unless he obtained a license that permitted him to do so. However, just like my mom, he did not speak English, which restricted him from obtaining such license. Moreover, he had problems with his business in Venezuela and was not present there in order to manage them. Both of these circumstances fueled the huge argument between my parents.
They actual reason why the fight between my parent ignited is still unknown to me, and it's something I believe my parent and I are not comfortable talking about. The day the fight occurred, my siblings and I were ready to go to school. We were all downstairs when all of the sudden the incident occurred. There was no open discussion of differences between my parents. Their fight
Whether we like it or not, conflict is a part of everyday lives. It can happen to anyone, from your friends to your family.
As displayed in these stories, there is not always a mutual agreement within the family about several situations. Even I have faced conflict within my family, while I was growing up a time or two. Whether the issue involved something that you felt wasn’t fair or it was simply because you were told to do something in which you did not want to abide; the fact remains in every culture, family, life, or relationship, there will come a time where a conflict will arise.
Conflict could be stated as a ‘a solemn difference between two or more beliefs, ideas or interests.’ In general, it is a fairly indispensable part of our lives as well as shapes individuals into who they are, and due to the consequences that linger around conflicts , it affects the relationship they have built with others along with their opinions towards them. This is evident in the award-winning play written by William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet. In which the two families , Capulet and Montague constantly compete each other, and in the midst of this heat, ‘a pair of star cross’d lovers’ strive for the sake of their short-lived love; as a result causing what is now known as ‘the tragedy of Romeo and Juliet’. Correspondingly, in S.E
The conflict that I will use here is the conflict between me and my parent and in particular with my dad. This was sue to the fact that I had to move to live with my mum during the initial years of my college life yet there before I had been living with my dad.
I don’t remember most of my parent’s marriage and most of the memories I do have of them being together, they were always arguing. I was in 3rd grade when the arguing started. Being so young, I always thought my parents were happy and that they would stay together forever, as every child thinks. In the beginning, they never fought in front of my brother and I and they seemed perfectly fine in front of us. But as the year continued on, they fought
So, next time there is a conflict with your parents, try to use the accommodating, collaborating, competing, compromising or even avoiding tactic to resolve the problem so both parties feel satisfied.
My mom and her boyfriend at the time, would continue to argue nearly every day. It got to the point, to where I tried running away from the apartment multiple times, of course, I never succeeded. At the age of 10 I experienced fighting between my dad and step-mom. In the beginning I thought it was only a 1-time thing. But as it continued, I realized it wasn’t. Me, having to deal with fighting before, stepped- in to break up the fight to protect my siblings. The fights were always verbal, but I didn’t want my siblings to witness what I have had to many times before. I would take my siblings downstairs, my little sister being 3 years younger than me, and my brother by 10 years. I hoped it would at least help them, instead of developing a corrupted
In the summer of 2013, my mother told me that I would be moving to the United States, for reasons that she didn’t disclose to me. In the Dominican Republic, children are raised to never question the decisions of their elders, so I did as I was told. Later, I understood that my parents knew that it didn’t matter how hard I worked in school, we would never have enough connections or money to find me a good job or for me to assist to a good university in my country.
We were finally financially stable. Still, my parents faced much discrimination as immigrants. After the tragic incident of 9/11, my parents were perceived as outsiders since they were Middle Eastern. The community we lived in placed a negative connation on being Egyptian. Upon entering Middle School, I did not know how truly people did not see me as an American because my parents were from Egypt. I spent restless nights thinking about the way the other students in school mocked me, and I pleaded my father to help me transfer. However, my father sat me down and told me “People will come to understand who you are, just smile and everything will be okay”. Little did I know that my father’s advice would impact every part of my transition into
We all have occasion to disagree with others either at work, in friendships or other social and community interactions, but most of the time, we are able to resolve these disagreements, if not completely amicably, at least to the extent that we can still associate with the person or persons involved. Sadly, this is often not what happens in family disputes, which can quickly escalate into open warfare with neither side wanting to give ground.
Ramiro and Rosalba Alvarez are my hardworking parents who came to the United States for me and my siblings to excel. My mother grew up an orphanage and still managed to succeed and years later become a teacher in Mexico. When she followed my father to the United States her degree was worthless. Both my parents work labor intensive jobs. Being a family of six with two children at Universities is probably the most finically broken we have ever been. To make everything worse my father was just diagnosis with prostate cancer a couple weeks ago. The doctor insist that my father goes into surgery now, but because of work he is in denial. My father works outside so he wants to wait until winter comes when he is not working to get his surgery. This
With the example provided above, I got a glimpse as to how issues are handled in the household. Elina seems to talk about the issues in a way that overwhelms Carolyn. Carolyn on the other hand, seems to bottle up all her emotions and explodes into what could become verbally aggressive. Carolyn also seems to have been raised with different values than Elina. This combined with the difference in communication styles could make for a fiery argument. Finally, there seems to be an age difference between Carolyn and Elena that might be a contributing factor to the dynamic that is taking place. Often, a difference in communication styles and parenting could be a reflection of the generation a person is born
My entire life, my parents have always wanted what was best for me. My dad, an immigrant who moved here at the age of seven, speaking not one word of english. He lost his father at the age of five, and his mother at the age of sixteen. Therefore, he practically raised himself. He graduated high school from Honokaa High & Intermediate School, but had no desire or intention to further his education. My mom, born and raised in Puna, had parents who were separated for majority of her life. A father who wasn’t very involved in her life, and a mother who chose drugs over everything else in her life, especially her five kids, my mother being the second youngest. My father, for all of my life, has worked six days out of the week, to provide everything I could ever possibly need; along with my mother, who has, at times worked multiple jobs at once, to support me, in
Conflicts in the family are usually considered as an undesirable symptom of a problem that need to be solved by family members. 1 In the family relationships, the parent-adolescent relationship represents an involuntary association, an imbalance of power and resources, and an obligation for the parent to function as caregiver.
Beaton, Norris, and Pratt (2003) support this by claiming that unresolved issues do not necessarily cause tension in the family. “From our perspective, conflict refers to those issues in relationships that couples overtly verbally or nonverbally express continually” (Beaton, Norris, & Pratt, 2003, p. 144). Although they focus on intergenerational communications within the family, they point out that unresolved issues concerning intergenerational differences can create problems in marital relationships. So it is more important to focus on reasons why individuals choose to create continuous conflict, and why it is so important to impose personal opinions and beliefs on other people. Understanding what determines human behavior is the only way to understand why