Family : Family Rules And Health

Openness verses protection is defined as our conflicting desires to be open and vulnerable, revealing personal information to our family, and to be strategic and protective in our communication. For example, I am open with my mother about everything until it comes to talking about religion. She is very religious and would be devastated if I told her that I did not believe in God anymore. I use the strategy of disqualifying. The dialectical tension strategy of disqualifying operates by exempting certain issues from the general pattern. I talk to her about everything else in my life, but I refuse to discuss my religious views with her. In another context, I enjoy telling my family about my day and my plans for the future. I like to open up to my family about most things, but I enjoy having my own private thoughts. My sister Tonya is very open about telling the rest of the family about her romantic life with her husband. However, I keep my romantic life private because it embarrasses me to

A conscious level can be teaching other family member whereas an unconscious level is emotional behaviors or reactions (Bowen Theory, 2014). Parents actively shape their children while children respond to their parent attitudes, moods and actions. The consequence of parents shaping their children is parents cause their children to have the same level of differentiation as the parents. The children may then seek out mates with the same level of differentiation as mentioned in nuclear family emotional process. The levels of differentiation becomes more distinct over multigenerational as the differentiation is repeated through generations (Bowen Theory, 2014). The different levels of differentiation can affect the whole life functions of a multigenerational family from marital stability, longevity, health, reproduction, educational success or failure, and occupational success (Bowen Theory, 2014). The transmission occurring through multigenerational not only affect an individual’s sense of self but how the interact with other people.

(Hellinger Institute of Northern Carolina, Mark Wolynn, 2014). For me what this means is that in our family dynamics and environment the elders were always right, we were to be seen and not heard, our feelings were not valid, so we acted out our emotions sexually, physically by fighting or graffiti as well as dancing. Keeping family secrets was the worse in our family not just my home environment but the family as a whole, no one addressed the pink elephant in the room. Seeing my aunt with a black eye the night after she and my uncle were married left me with an negative view of relationships especially

Communication is the third dimension and is not depicted on the model. It is a facilitating dimension necessary for facilitating changes in the other two dimensions. This dimension is measured by listening skills, speaking skills, self-disclosure, clarity, continuity tracking and respect and regard. Balanced family systems have good communication.

As we know families as always changing and so are the dynamics. Communication is a transactional process that is changing over time. Two central scopes of family behavior are adaptability and cohesion. Each is divided into four levels to create 16 combinations. Overtime it has changed to fit into cohesion, adaptability and communication.

Developed by Carter and McGoldrick (1988), the family life cycle views dysfunction in relation to normal functioning, It frames problems within the course of the family as a system moving through time. The individual life cycle takes place within the family life cycle (Carter & McGoldrick, 1988, p. 4). The foundation of the theory assumes that all families go through predictable change precipitated by life events and sometimes-unpredictable events (Azar, 2017b, 6). As these changes are occurring, the family must be able to adapt accordingly in order to avoid dysfunction. This may involve tasks that must be negotiated as they become more complex, and new roles and operations.

In my essay about critical communication reflections with a family member, I will be writing about the event that took place when I had this communication with second cousin at the funeral of his mother three years ago. I present a balanced paper that will discuss the effectiveness and breakdown of the communication that took place. I will specifically write about the cultural boundaries and societies norms that influenced and the lead to the breakdown of our communication, primary our extended family structure and lines of communication will be my main focus. The scope of this essay will highlight the different ways and approaches of adult communication in an extended family set up in times

The ways in which a family communicates messages with each other plays a key role in shaping the lives of each individual family member. Humans have always belonged to and identified with their families even before they could speak or form any other social group. Family members not only rely on each other to be there for emotional and social support, but also shape how individuals identify themselves. Therefore, the quality of family relationships greatly impacts the quality of life for most people. (Koerner & Schrodt, 2014)

Reconstruction and change are essential for the family system to facilitate the homeostatic process, as explained by the fourth principle of the theory (Minuchin, 1985). It includes family questioning current methods, evaluating and developing potential arrangements. While earlier principles analyse the wholeness of the family system, the fifth principle explains that families can be examined in various segments such as the parent-children subsystem, sibling subsystem and spousal subsystem (Minuchin, 1985). Within the family, relationships between members are formed, and the interactions between each subsystem are regulated by unspoken rules and arrangements, and this is the final principle of family systems theory (Minuchin, 1985). Each subsystem operates independently, and it may encounter changes in the relationship due to various determinants.

Baxter and Rawlins (1988) say that there are three dialectical forces that must be in balance for the relationship to be successful (Trenholm, 2014). The dialectical forces are called expressive-protective, autonomy-togetherness, and the novelty-predictability dialectics (Trenholm, 2014). Expressive-protective dialectic involves a balance to share personal information and the need to have a little privacy (Trenholm, 2014). Autonomy-togetherness dialectic describes how interdependent they want to be with each other (Trenholm, 2014). There needs to have a balance of togetherness and being apart from each other (Trenholm, 2014). Novelty-predictability dialectic is how individuals interact with each other and how they fall into patterns of behavior (Trenholm, 2014). After a time these behaviors become predictable and they spend most of their time repeating old routines (Trenholm, 2014). This behavior can positive or it can be negative (Trenholm, 2014).

Americans today are faced with a number of health issues, mainly as a result of poor diet, lack of exercise, and lifestyle choices; but, of course, genetics does play a part. My family, for example, has a history of several issues. My father suffers from diabetes and asthma, which my children have as well. My older sister and I both suffer from stress, which is most likely causing our chronic heartburn and my headaches; and, both my husband and I are borderline obese, which is a gateway disease to many others. While some of these issues are linked genetically, many of them are due to lifestyle, which can be viewed as both negative and positive. Negative because we brought these ailments onto ourselves, but positive because we can

A MFT’s ” perspective is holistic, and our focus is on the processes – the context – that give meaning to issues and events instead of to the individuals, issues, or events in isolation” (Becvar& Becvar, p. 9, 2013). A MFT’s focus is also on current events. They do not look to events of the past for the archetype of the source of the issue. Family systems theory is focused on the dynamics of the family that deal with the rolls of each family member, the balance of power, structures, communication patterns, and boundaries (Rothbaum, Rosen, Ujiie, & Uchida, 2002).

My family has always been very close. We spend a great deal of time together and express our deep feelings and emotions with one another. If one of us has an issue, every member of the family is aware of it and shares the burden. When a person in the family does not share significant information about one’s life with the rest of the members, there is hurt feelings. Also, if a member cannot attend a family event, the family feels disappointed and misses the absent member. It is evident that connectedness is held as extremely valuable.

My own personal experience plays a part here as I don’t believe my family was ever “fully actualized.” Independence and autonomy was stressed, however, warmth and connectedness between members was not. Feelings were definitely suppressed in my household growing up, and even today sharing openly feels awkward. Whitaker, as well as Satir, has inspired my theoretical framework because I see the importance of the affective or emotional layer of family interactions.

Have you ever had a time of in your life where everything goes your way? That you can get anything you want in your wildest dreams? That’s my entire life, sounds wonderful don’t it? Well at first yes , you’d be right but not anymore not after learning the truth of my family and the reason why we have so much. My family turns out to be the head family in a criminal organization called Luna , this sudden realization came from when I turned 10, many of the people that surrounded started to change , they started to fear me like I was some kind of monster and they were right as eldest son of the current boss i was next in line for the throne which granted me lot’s of power within the organization, but also it gained lot’s of respect but this respect was mostly based on fear,I could never tell if people were being generously nice to me or were they just out to get on my good side for their own benefit. My parents are not much better i barely spend time with my mother or father and mostly hear about their achievements through my uncle’s monologues when we study about history. Did i mention that i’m homeschooled? Yeah with my parents reputation having the cops or rival organizations find out about their son could lead to complications to say the least, but even so my father doesn’t like to take chances and i was beaten , trained ,and