My family continues to deal with these vertical and horizontal stressors today. As a family, we are consumed with blaming someone for the issues that cause weak points in the family. In my opinion, we do not have complete balance in the family. We talk about the nurturing that is missing and the loss of identity from the original members of the family. The loss of the patriarch in the family creates a sense of not being whole. My understanding of the family cycle stages has allowed me to better understand my position and movement within my family and in isolation of the whole family system. I understand that strength is gained from different family situations. My family has a big celebration every year on my grandparent’s anniversary to …show more content…
Then there is the parental subsystem, which consisted of the parents and the children. In this system, my mother would limit and regulate the information that my sibling and I received from outside influences. My mother’s role was to protect her children to the best of her ability. I guess that’s the reason she was so strict with me as her first born. The restriction that was placed upon me by my mother made me rebellious, which, in turn, caused me to be emotionally cut-off and isolated in my room. For example, I was not allowed to hang out with friends due to my mother’s work schedule, and friends were not allowed to come over when she was not home. I would admit she was very stern with all of the rules and things in life that I wanted to experience. As my sibling got older, these rules were less important to my mother and she did not enforce them as much. In my opinion, I felt like there were no consistency between the parental system and the children because the same rules did not apply to my sisters and brother. I felt like I was treated differently and my punishments were harsher. Moreover, I was a parentified child, and this role affected the relationship between me and my brother. He perceived me as being bossy and always telling him what to do. The parentified role placed me in a hard role in the sibling subsystem as well.
There were many rules, beliefs, rituals, and myths in my family. Rules can be spoken or unspoken, and they are governed by the older
I interviewed three different family member of all different age that have experienced my family culture in their own way. For my interview I interviewed My mother Okala Mundeke. She is originally from the Democratic Republic of Congo but she moved to America when she was 35 years old and she is now 50 years old. She has grown up mostly in Congo so she has a strong knowledge of our heritage and family history since she was around it more.. My sister Emmanuella Kalonda she was born in the congo but has little memory of it since she was less than a year old when she came to america. she is currently sixteen years old. But she was raised with my mother learning about family and our culture. My next candidate is my other sister Jocelyn Fetner
Our culture helps shape the type of people each of us become and the course we take throughout our lifetime. With a variety of cultures comes an unlimited array of life experiences which include similarities and differences between all groups of people. It is important to learn of another person’s experiences which will help expand our understanding of the world we live in. In order to get this understanding, I chose to interview a woman named Isabella who comes from a family that originated outside the United States. When her mother was still a child, she made her way from Mexico to the United States with her family in search of better opportunities. Her father was born in Spain and met her mother when visiting in the United States. Growing up in a home with two separate cultures helped Isabella become a well-rounded person and accepting of other
In life many individuals will experience the joys of marital bliss with the pleasure of happiness when they see their spouse, the thought of living their entire lives together, starting and raising a family, the process of buying their first home together as a married couple, and overall embarking on a new and profound journey with the one they love; on the contrary however many of these same couples will encounter times in the relationship and within their immediate family that will include feelings of: being overwhelmed, stressed, annoyed with their spouse, children, stepchildren “as many families are blended due to many first marriages ending in divorce after children have been conceived,” stress from work, bills, as well as the many other
I had the opportunity to interview a family very close to me whom I have been blessed to know since I was three years old. The mother Heidi, who is 59, remarried at the age of 31 to Paul, who is 57, and they have been married for 28 years now. Heidi had her first son Markie, who is now 38, with her previous husband who is no longer in the picture. Paul and Heidi have a son named Travis who is 26 and a daughter named Tina who is 24. Paul used to work as a carpenter but retired when he was 52. He then began working at a grocery store and eventually retired from there as well. Heidi also worked at a grocery and just recently retired. Paul loved what he did as a carpenter and still continues to build things for the family such as cabinets and furniture.
I come from a very conservative Mexican household. That being said there were certain guidelines or roles that each gender had to follow. I come from a family of five, and we consist of 2 males and 3 females. Being a female, that meant that I was expected to do the household chores, the cooking of the house, and care for younger siblings. While we were expected to do that, my brothers didn’t have an obligation to do any of the responsibilities we were held accountable to. Although, they were expected to have jobs at an early age to help and provide income for the family.
When observing families who have experienced vertical stressors coupled with common horizontal stressors, remarkably, individual family members find "self in relation" (Genero, Miller, Surrey, & Baldwin, 1992). This type of connectedness may actually speak to the family’s strong cultural practice of rituals and beliefs that are not based in societal norms of egotism. Such diversity often includes families who encompass a holistic approach to life including the life domains of physical, emotional, social and spiritual. According to Rothery and Enns (2001) this strength-based approach to family instills hope, when once attained has been cited as an essential component for post-traumatic growth and enhanced
They are on a regular diet with few restrictions on fried foods and fat intake. The children eat school lunch and the parents from outside restaurant choices. Mom tries to cook a meal a day after work or they seldom eat Subway or Pizza Hut. No variation in weight gain or weight loss reported. They try to eat dinner as a family at home on a regular basis. However, this was not feasible all of the time due to dad’s late night work hours and CH basketball practices after school. They generally get 6-7 hours of sleep per night and denied any sleep deprivation. No exercise program has been implemented by this family. CH is the only physically, athletic member. DH stated that he likes to ride his bike. The children are active in Sunday school and participate in summer camp.
While my grandfather, Frank Smith, and my great-grandmother, Jeannette Smith, were alive they resided in my home. I never met my grandmother, Georgie Smith, as she passed away when my mother was seven.
For this assignment, I interviewed my wonderful mother Joan. I asked her for her opinion on the topics of marriage, sibling relationships, and grandparent relationships. She provided insightful answers that revealed a great deal about her values.
The family I have chosen to study and observe is that one of a very close friend of mine. His name is Rafael, he is a 38 yrs. old United States Marines Communication Technician; He was a stationed at Camp Lejune, North Carolina when they met about 5 years ago, soon to retire now in 2 years; his wife Theresa is now 25, stay at home mom and they have 2 boys together, Elias 6 & Alan 4.
As alluded to in the description of the family foundation, communication is limited in the family. This lack of communication has become a roadblock in many relationships throughout the generations. Some may say the quiet, no-tell style of communication comes from our Norwegian Lutheran heritage. Others in the family say that it is the way that they were raised (J. Ellefson, 2015; S Gerdes, 2015; J. Gerdes, 2015).
I have the privilege of interviewing my mom, on how she kept a successful family. I chose my mom for this interview, because this women is one of the strongest, bravest people I know. She raised me and my brother as a widow, and I wish to become as an amazing mother just like her. My mother Denice Richards’s family consists of six people. Brian Doerr, age 55, who is my mother’s boyfriend, her son Ryan Richards, who is 28 years old, then there’s her wonderful daughter me, Rebekah Richards who is 23 years old, her grandson King Camacho, who is almost 7 months old, and her granddaughter Baylee Richards who is 5 years old. She also considers her son’s girlfriend (also the mother of her granddaughter) Holly Antijunti a part of her family also.
I'm interviewing my mom, Amanda. Her life probably wasn’t that interesting, but why don t you see/read for yourself. But myself I think they all had a very good childhood, even if they didn’t all get exactly what they wanted when they wanted a toy or phone or anything else. And I think my mom loved her childhood because she could do anything. Okay lets find out what her childhood had been like back in the days.
My family health assessment was conducted using the 11 Gordon functional health pattern. Marjorie Gordon’s functional health pattern is a guide for establishing a comprehensive nursing date base, using the 11 categories enable nurses determines the following aspects of health and human function (Gordon 1987). The Gordon 11 functional health patterns are health perception/health management, nutrition, elimination, activity/exercise, cognitive, sleep/rest, self perception/self concept, roles and relationships, sexuality and reproduction, coping and stress tolerance, values and belief. This paper will summarize the findings of each health pattern as well as the family based nursing
A family health assessment is a significant instrument in conveying a health care plan for a family. This paper will discuss the nurse’s role in family assessment and how this task is performed. By the use of family focused open ended questions, 11 functional health patterns were covered. The health patterns were values and health perception, nutrition, sleep and rest, elimination, activities and exercise, cognitive, sensory-perception, self-perception, role relationship, sexuality, and coping. This principle is known as the Gordon’s functional health patterns. Family health assessment defines the assessment of actual and potential problems of individuals (Gordon, 1994). This assessment tool included 11 systematic principles for data collection of the family, and assists the nurses to develop a nursing diagnosis and appropriate interventions. Using Gordon’s functional health patterns, this paper will summarize the findings of each health pattern as well as the family based nursing diagnosis of each assessment. This paper will also discuss different health promotion strategies along with web-based resources, also including a system based theory guide in family assessment.