Father Son Relationship In The Kite Runner

Firstly, Baba is not a good father because he often disregards his son, Amir, due to him not being like his father. The night when Baba and Amir comes home from watching the Buzkashi tournament, Amir sees

As father and son, Baba and Amir have some similarities, but they are both very different people.

Baba and Amir each had characteristics that you can compare and contrast even though they are father and son. These traits help them deal with consequences in the future. Now we know that Baba is a courageous person while Amir is cowardly person who loves reading. Both of them were not used to environment even though they had friends. They should of assimilated more with the people of the country of

Amir and his father’s weak relationship in Afghanistan changes when Amir finally accomplishes something Baba can be proud about, spreading light of a possible close relationship in the future. At the beginning of the novel, Baba is talking with his friend, Rahim Khan, about his worries for Amir not standing up for himself, when he is being bullied. Khan responds to Baba saying, ““Children aren’t coloring books. You don’t get to fill them in with your favorite colors””(Hosseini 21). This quote illustrates the difficult relationship Amir and his father have with each other because Baba wants to mold him into the ‘perfect’ son, but Amir does not find appreciation in the same things as Baba, causing this ‘mold’ to be ruined. Amir and Baba being polar opposites causes them to naturally separate from each other because Baba likes building luxury to fit his ego, but Amir values the smaller gestures people do in life. Once Amir finally does something that makes Baba proud and improves ‘their’ ego, Baba starts to appreciate Amir more and tries to do more things with him. This is depicted when Hosseini writes, “Baba and I were finally friends” (Hosseini 85). Although Amir thinks they are close, they are not as close as they could be because Baba usually invites friends and family to join them on their outings. Also, when they are alone it is very awkward for the two of them because they do not know each other very well. The reason Amir feels like he is gaining his father’s acceptance is because he is taking him places, rather than ignoring his existence completely, which is a significant step compared to their relationship before. This step in their relationship illustrates they have a chance at becoming even closer in the future.

Baba was usually aloof and cold when he was around Amir. Since Baba was interested in sports, he felt like Amir wasn’t his son because he was into writing and was weak. In a conversation with Rahim Khan Baba said that something was missing in Amir. He said that a boy who couldn’t stand up for himself would not stand up for anything. They don’t really have a good father and son relationship because Baba expected too much of Amir. It was that winning kite tournament that somehow bonded them together but after a while, it went back to being the “cold” treatment

1. It is very evident that Hassan and Amir have a complex relationship, that is not always compromising this could be because Hassan is a Hazara and Amir is a Pashtun, Amir having lived a life which he was always smothered with expectations of being the best and unsurpassed Amir and Hassan relationship suffers because of Amir’s need to be the best and reflects a side of Amir portraying his superiority complex. Amir doesn't see Hassan as a loyal friend, but sees him as a dumb Hazara who will never accomplish anything in life, for example we see Amir snap back with a nasty thought, after Hassan gave his input for an alternate ending for the story when the man killed his wife for wealth “A voice, cold and dark, suddenly whispered in my ear,

Since Amir's father, Baba, is Amir's only family when he's young, Amir always tries to be likeable to his father. However because his mother is dead because of childbirth, his father always blames him for losing his wife. Besides that, Baba also doesn't like how Amir is acting like a coward and not be strong and stand up for himself. For those reasons, instead of being really close father and son that rely on each other, they are much more far apart than most normal father

Near the beginning of the novel, it was essential for Amir to gain the approval and affection of Baba. Baba’s wife had died during Amir’s birth, which makes Amir feel guilty. Throughout his childhood, Amir felt like he was responsible for his mother’s death, thinking was why his father did not love him. Determined for restoration, Amir wins a kite running tournament, making his father proud of him. Growing up, Baba always said that Amir would never stand up for himself and be a true man. When older, Baba had grown sick of cancer and Amir looked after him. Despite the inability to prove his manhood, Amir’s father died proud of him. This, of course, was not good enough for Amir to live satisfied. Later on, Amir had learned that Baba had wronged Ali. Both Baba and Amir had betrayed their faithful and loyal friends, and it was only right for Amir to atone for them. Rescuing Sohrab would prove to Amir that he is in fact the man his father wanted him to be. Also, Amir knew that his father would be proud to know his son fought for what was right with Sohrab’s situation.

Baba never really confronted his mistakes, yet he seemed to live a fairly full and whole life. Amir and his father, Baba have a very distant relationship, they seem to be two very different people. “I always felt like Baba hated me a little. And why not? After all, I had killed his beloved wife, his beautiful princess, hadn’t I?”(Pg. 18) In this quote Amir talks about his relationship with his father and how difficult it is. Although, he doesn’t know that the distance between them was because of Hassan, not the death of

Baba expected Amir to be like he was when he was a boy. Since Amir reads poetry instead of hunting like Baba wants him to, they cannot have the relationship Amir desires. Next, When Baba was talking to Rahim Khan about Amir, he told him that he (Baba) was not like that at all when he was a child. When he did complain about how his son was not like him, Baba did sound kind of frustrated. His frustration shows that he is uncomfortable that his son is not an exact replica of himself, and again this means they cannot have the relationship Amir wants. Another example of Baba’s disappointment over Amir is, once again, in another conversation with Rahim Khan that Amir overheard, Baba told Rahim Khan that if he did not witness the birth of Amir himself, he would not believe that he is his son. Baba and Amir are almost completely different people and Baba finds discomfort in that. Baba wanted Amir to be exactly like him and this shows how he feels about the differences between them. Amir and Baba cannot have the relationship Amir desires because he cannot fulfill Baba’s high expectations.

Baba keeping his past secret and not telling Amir his own son about Hassan affected Amir's life majorly by his relationships he made and the decisions he made throughout his life. Throughout the story Baba’s secret never really haunted him but kept Amir from secrets about his family and how he treated things different about his life. Amir's relationships were affected because of Baba keeping the secret about him being his real father. “But there was something fascinating albeit in a sick way about teasing Hassan.

Baba was hoping to have a son that had athletic abilities, but instead Amir is a talented writer. Baba is not supportive Amir's writing, and does not put time into reading his stories, “In my hands the two sheets of paper on which I had scribbled the story...Baba went on staring me down, and didn’t offer to read” (Hosseini pg 27). To me this was shocking because a father should always be supportive of their child no matter what the circumstances are. Reading the book, it was hard for me to imagine how Amir is feeling. Hosseini portrays Amir is desperate for his father's approval, and Amir tries to impress his father throughout the book to make him proud of the son he has. A father should always put their child's interests first, and invest time into what they like to do.

Does your father have a big impact on your life? The father figure in the story has a significant impact on most of the events that happened in the novel. In the book “The Kite Runner” Baba and Amir’s relationship lead to Amir not reporting the rape that happened to Hassan, Baba and Hassan's relationship Relationship lead Amir to sew have later on at the end, and finally Hassan and Ali's relationship lead to Hassan and Amir disconnect from each other physically.

In the novel The Kite Runner the author Khaled Hosseini uses the special and yet emotional bond between father and son to show the need of a benevolent father and son relationship. The novel in itself explains what it means to be a father and how someone can measure their success at fathering. This is done through the relationships of Baba and Amir, Hassan and Sohrab, and Amir and Sohrab. There is not a relationship between a father and son in this novel that is perfect, to each man his own. Being a father is not about following this unwritten book that instructs that a father must act accordingly, It is about caring and love which a father shows in many ways through their culture and their experiences on the earth.

The novel “The Kite Runner” by Khaled Hosseini is about the struggles of a father and son relationship reveals Amir’s craving for Baba’s love for him. Amir goes through life with a father that seems normal but on the inside they both know something is missing. Amir continually thinks that his father dislikes him because he caused his mother to die while giving birth to him. He overhears conversations and gets hints from Baba while just hanging around him, which lead him to believe that his father does not love him. In Baba’s point of view, he sees something missing in their relationship and something missing in Amir.